During the May Day holiday, six members of my in-law's family came to my house for three days, ending my five-year marriage
The May Day holiday, for many people, is a good time for family reunions. However, for me, this holiday became a watershed moment in my marriage, a turning point that left me with heartache.
My husband and I met five years ago, when we were both young staff members and we were looking forward to the future. After falling in love, we decided to enter the palace of marriage and start a life together. In previous years, our married life was dull and happy until the arrival of the May Day holiday.
A week before the holiday, my husband suddenly told me that his parents and two brothers were coming over for a few days and wanted to spend time together. I didn't pay much attention to it at first, thinking it was a family reunion, so why not?
However, when they did, I realized that it was a holiday turned upside down. They are a family of six and are going to stay in our little home for three days. I wasn't too prepared, and everything at home seemed cramped. I still remember the feeling of being squeezed when they first arrived home, as if the whole air had become heavy.
The relative harmony of the previous days was completely shattered by this gathering. I found that my husband and I had very different family views and Xi from theirs. I am a relatively independent person who pursues a simple life, and their family concept is more traditional, and what seems to be warm is actually full of estrangement.
On the first day, it was relatively calm, and everyone tried to keep smiling faces. However, from the second day, the problem gradually surfaced. I found that they were dissatisfied with my housework arrangements and attitude towards life. My mother-in-law, in particular, always makes some critical remarks inadvertently on me, making me feel like I can't breathe.
Our home was originally a small world that my husband and I built together, but with their arrival, it became strange and depressing. I watched them point fingers at my home and dispute everything, filled with feelings of powerlessness and disappointment.
Married life has become extremely stressful. My husband and I had a heated argument over these trivial matters, and he seemed unable to reconcile the conflicts between his family. I gradually discovered that this holiday was not just a family reunion, but a test of my marriage.
On the third day, I finally couldn't take it anymore. I asked them to end their trip early, for the simple reason that I needed my own space and time to think calmly. When I said this, the atmosphere in the whole house suddenly became tense, and I felt the disgust and anger from them.
They eventually left early on the fourth day, but they left behind a mess and deep scars on my heart. After they left, I and.
Communication became more difficult for the husband. I don't know how to deal with this family, and I don't know if our marriage will ever continue.
In this family turmoil, I deeply realized that marriage is not only a matter between two people, but also a union of two families. The problem between my husband and I is not just an emotional problem, but also a collision of two family concepts. Perhaps, before we get married, we should have a deeper understanding of each other's families to avoid marital difficulties due to these differences in concepts.
Although my marriage was greatly affected by my in-laws' visit, I didn't want to give up. Perhaps, this is an opportunity to grow up, which makes me more aware of the importance of family and makes me cherish my own happiness more. In the future, I hope that our husband and wife can work together to face everything in the family and create a warm little home that belongs to us. It may take more time and effort, but I am willing to work hard for the sake of marriage and family.