Ye Tan, the "financial heroine", is a talented woman who graduated from Fudan University, she devotes herself to her career and can be called a strong woman.
As a well-known financial critic and columnist, Ye Tan has published many books, and served as an economic commentator for "Liberation **" and a special commentator for CCTV Financial Channel.
Ye Tan's career has been a great success, but she and her husband have been separated for a long time, and they agreed not to have children, choosing to become a "Dink family".
In Ye Tan's view, only by not having children can she devote herself to her career and realize the value of her life.
On April 25 this year, Ye Tan suddenly posted a message on her social platform that she had been diagnosed with breast cancer and was actively receiving**.
* There was an uproar, her husband was not around, she had no children, and now she was suffering from cancer, was it really worth it for Ye Tan's success at such a huge cost?
Now that two months have passed, how is Ye Tan's situation?She is 50 years old, will she regret choosing "Dink" in the first place?
Ye Tan posted on her social account that she has been diagnosed with advanced breast cancer and has been actively accepting ** in the past nine months.
She was interviewed by reporters, Ye Tan in front of the camera has shaved her hair, and the black hair that was once neatly combed is now replaced by a hat.
Seeing her face full of exhaustion and losing the radiance of the past, this can't help but feel embarrassed, and the "financial woman" who was once proud in the workplace has become like this.
Before Ye Tan fell ill, she was as busy as a machine every day, and as soon as she arrived at the company, she began to concentrate on work at nine o'clock in the morning, and she didn't even have time to drink water and go to the toilet.
Ye Tan often didn't eat dinner until eleven or twelve o'clock in the evening, and after eating, he was busy dealing with work and swiping his mobile phone. Even when I finish washing up and lie down in bed, the clock points to two or three o'clock in the evening.
Sometimes she can't even fall asleep right away because her mind is still excited and unsettled, and with the shectic and stressful nature of the company, all-nighters become the norm.
Ye Tan has to work for more than ten hours in a row every day, which has become commonplace.
She doesn't care too much about her health problems, even if she sometimes has stomach pain, waist discomfort or insomnia, chest tightness, she never cares, she always feels that work is more important, and she should be able to cope with these problems when she is younger.
In the second half of 2021, Ye Tan felt fatigue and chest tightness and shortness of breath for a period of time, so he took time out to have a physical examination. After looking at the results of her physical examination, the doctor told her, "You need to pay more attention to your breasts. However, Ye Tan didn't care about this.
She always felt that I knew I had breast nodules, and that my chest was tingling and uncomfortable from time to time, but what was the matter?I'm so busy now that I can't take care of that.
Therefore, she kept procrastinating, not completely, but she did not expect that the situation would slowly deteriorate into cancer.
During the epidemic in Shanghai in 2022, Ye Tan conducted live broadcasts on the fourth floor of his home every day.
Even though she was exhausted, she didn't hesitate to persevere when she thought of the company's many employees who needed to be paid, the company needed to function normally, and thousands of dollars to pay every day.
In the face of the huge impact of the epidemic on the economy, she was helpless, so anxiety and anxiety have been haunting Ye Tan.
She is no longer able to put on underwear, even a little restraint and oppression will cause a strong sense of discomfort, and the live broadcast work is very hard, Ye Tan often needs to sit for hours in a row, and her body can hardly rest and exercise.
Her condition was getting worse every day, and Ye Tan could see the red spots on her chest expanding every day when she took a bath.
Although she was scared, she persevered, and did not go to the hospital for a comprehensive examination until the epidemic ended, and the results confirmed that she had advanced breast cancer.
After Ye Tan walked out of the hospital, she walked through the crowd with heavy steps, she looked at the pedestrians around her who were busy rushing or picking up **, and a feeling of sadness and loneliness surged in her heart, she never thought that the incidence of breast cancer was so high.
Breast cancer, known as the "pink killer" by doctors, has the highest incidence among female malignant tumors, and advanced cancer cells can spread to distant places, resulting in multiple organ involvement, posing a direct threat to the patient's life.
Ye Tan's current condition is considered to no longer require surgery, and can only be conservative and adjust the ** plan according to the specific situation.
Due to the rapid spread of cancer, Ye Tan's entire vertebrae have been severely damaged.
In order to stop the spread of cancer cells, she had to receive chemotherapy drugs, targeted drugs, and bone injections at the same time**.
In the early days, there was a major disagreement in Ye Tan's family, that is, whether to choose to go abroad or seek medical treatment in China.
Ye Tan's husband is in the United States, so he naturally tends to her to go there to accept **.
Once, a foreign doctor came to China to participate in an international consultation, and Ye Tan found that the ** plan proposed by the domestic and foreign doctors was similar, so she said to her husband: "I consulted my attending doctor, and he still suggested that I stay in China to accept **."
Ye Tan believes that since there are already medicines and needles in China, there is no need to go far away.
After all, most of your family and friends are here, as are your own businesses.
Although I can no longer devote myself full-time due to physical reasons, it is always convenient to understand. When her husband saw her so insistent, he could only go with her.
The road to fighting cancer was already full of hardships, and the continuous chemotherapy seemed to exhaust all of Ye Tan's strength, forcing her to interrupt the work at hand.
In the next nine months, the audience was able to see Ye Tan's **, all thanks to her colleagues editing her previous footage, because Ye Tan simply could not continue to work during the fight against cancer.
Ye Tan did not show the pain she experienced, whether it was the anxiety and despair at the time of the initial diagnosis, or the difficult process of battling cancer, she always understated a few words in an indifferent tone.
Ye Tan's family was interviewed by reporters when they were having dinner, and she joked: "The amount of food I eat may scare you, but I can really eat it." ”
As she spoke, she picked up a large mouthful of food and put it in the bowl.
Ye Tan said with a smile on his face: "I really covet those unhealthy foods now, such as fried chicken, French fries, and curry rice, which I never touched before, but I really want to taste them after I get sick." Like a child, she happily lists the snacks she "missed".
When asked about his condition, Ye Tan's eyes were intertwined with complex emotions: on the one hand, he was lucky to survive, and on the other hand, he was uneasy about his uncertain future.
However, fortunately, since December last year, Ye Tan has undergone a full body examination every three months, and each time he is safe, and his condition seems to have stabilized.
She described what felt like something uncertain hanging overhead, requiring the blind box to be opened every few months, with unknown results.
Although the situation has been stable for a year, it is very difficult to ensure that there will be no deterioration and ** in the next three, five or even ten years.
Her state of mind was slowly changing, from the initial pain, torment, and confusion to being able to face it calmly.
Ye Tan said that she is now committed to making herself happy and making up for the missed good times in the past, in the past she was always too busy to have time to relax, and now she will take a walk every day, listen to ** while eating breakfast, and will sit in front of the window to observe the changes in light.
Ye Tan's words revealed the change in her attitude towards life, but she still couldn't put down her work.
At the end of a consultation, she asked her doctor, "How far can I get back to my job now?"The doctor asked her, "How much do you think you've recovered so far?"”
Ye Tan was stunned for a moment, and then said: "This is still far away, and now it has only recovered twenty or thirty percent." ”
She read the answer from the doctor's eyes and told herself: I have to recover to 100 percent, because I still need to go back to work.
Ye Tan is a typical workaholic, she not only sacrificed her health, but also gave up the happiness of her marriage.
Ye Tan was born on May 22, 1973 in Hangzhou, he is the third in the family, with a total of five sisters.
His parents are both educated youths and can be regarded as cultural people.
Ye Tan spent her childhood with her grandparents in the countryside and did not return to her parents until she was 6 years old.
After graduating from high school, she entered the Department of History of Hangzhou University to pursue an undergraduate degree.
Ye Tan is a positive person, which was already evident in her student days.
After graduating with a bachelor's degree, she was admitted to the Department of History of Fudan University, where she directly pursued a master's degree and a doctorate, and finally received a doctorate degree from Fudan University.
After receiving his Ph.D., Ye Tan worked at Fudan University and the Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences, where he spent two years full of "boring" study life.
But in reality, deep down she longs for new things and feels unbearable about struggling desperately for a job all day.
According to Ye Tan herself, when she was in college, she felt that she had a wide range of books, and although her professional grades were not excellent, she was very interested in financial issues in non-professional fields.
Until the beginning of the 21st century, the financial category began to rise, and Ye Tan, who is good at writing financial chapters, finally found his own development direction.
In the initial stage of the financial industry, there were few people who were familiar with financial chapters, and most editors and reporters were better at writing social hotspots and daily news.
As the saying goes, "Rare things are the most precious", the leader asked Ye Tan to write at least one financial article every day, but Ye Tan wrote three or four articles a day.
Ye Tan's articles are not only efficient but also of high quality, and she has a deep insight into China's economic problems, often presenting insights that hit the nail on the head in an ingenious way.
In addition, her writing is easy to understand, yet avoids clichés, and reads naturally and fluently, which is widely loved by readers.
Because of her dignified appearance, Ye Tan often expresses her opinions on social platforms, and is also known as a "beautiful commentator".
This remarkable woman did not marry her current husband until she was 35 years old, and since he lived in the United States for many years, they rarely saw each other several times a year.
Ye Tan is a complete workaholic, she believes that husband and wife do not have to stick together all day, and should give each other space.
Fortunately, Ye Tan's husband also holds the same view as her, and although they live separately in two countries, their relationship is still stable and harmonious.
Ye Tan made it clear that she would not have children for the sake of her career, she and her husband chose to live in Dink, and her mother understood their choice.
In an interview, Ye Tan and her mother had a discussion about the issue of pension. Ye Tan's mother said that she wanted to go to a nursing home when she was old, because there were friends there, and it was more lively.
And Ye Tan insisted that he would find a good nurse for his mother.
Although this issue did not cause obvious controversy, it can also be seen that Ye Tan's mother has no objection to Ye Tan's choice of Dink to live.
Ye Tan's sister also chose Dink, Ye Tan said: "Our mother has always told us that having children is not the only goal in life, but the most important thing is to realize self-worth and contribute to the country. ”
In traditional Chinese beliefs, people generally believe that "raising children to prevent old age" is a wise choice, but Ye Tan firmly believes that as long as he finds the true purpose of life, he can still live a happy life.
He also stressed: "As long as I can achieve financial freedom, I can enjoy my old age in peace." ”
A few years ago, Ye Tan started his own business and launched a project called "Ye Tan Finance". Despite the late start, with Ye Tan's dedication, the project still has a strong appeal.
Looking back on Ye Tan's growth path, from history major to study in the field of economics, from traditional operation to new WeChat management, Ye Tan continued to face various challenges, but she successfully overcame them.
Therefore, I am sure that she will also overcome the disease.
I don't think it's a big deal not to get married now. Ye Tan said with a smile in the interview. Everyone will worry about getting old, getting sick, having no close relatives to take care of, and no children to take care of, but Ye Tan, who is only 50 years old, has realized this feeling.
After Ye Tan's illness was relieved, her husband chose to return to the United States to work.
Although her husband had returned home several times to visit her during her illness, the main care remained with her mother, sister and nurses.
Asked if he would choose to live in Dink, Ye Tan replied euphemistically
If I had the chance, I might consider adopting a few children.
But I don't think in this world, you don't necessarily need to inherit genes, and stable genes are not necessarily superior to others.
But Ye Tan once doubted himself and questioned whether the first half of his life was really meaningfulShe began to wonder if she had made a mistake, and perhaps she should have chosen a calm and stable married life, spending every day with her husband and having another child, rather than constantly running and working hard at the expense of her marriage, family, and health.
Is it really a success to live a life of husband and children like this?Ye Tan's mind was not firm enough due to his weak body.
She later realized this and said, "If all problems can be solved by having a child, then the world is too simple." ”
Therefore, what Ye Tan really needs is a relationship that can be seen and forgotten in the rivers and lakes.
She believes that the most lasting happiness and sense of existence comes from work and a successful career, so even if she comes to this point, Ye Tan still has no regrets.
Ye Tan has now learned to enjoy life better, strolling in the courtyard every day, tasting light food, savoring the sweetness of corn, and listening to the paintings in the air.
She also often sits on a park bench, soaking up the sun and practicing calligraphy.
If she could go back in time, she said she would still make the same choice and would not regret it, saying, "I should have known about the ...... of doing this.""Because life does not allow us to retrace the path we have traveled, we can only live more comfortably by looking forward.
Ye Tan insisted that many people were puzzled by his behavior, believing that he did not need to chase fame and fortune at the expense of his personal body and family.
I strive in this direction, seeing life as an experience, cherishing every moment, and trying to avoid pride and self-pity.
It may not happen all the time, but I've been working on it.
In our journey through life, we will encounter many forks in the road, and we will need to make various choices and pursue different life goals.
Maybe at the next corner, we will face suffering and setbacks, but that doesn't mean that the previous choices were wrong.
As Ye Tan said, "Everyone will experience dark moments, but we must believe that the light is coming." ”