Ibsen once said, "Society is like a boat, and everyone must be prepared to take the helm." ”
In this life, there will always be countless choices, whether to choose or give up, whether to go or stop, will determine our future.
If you choose the right one, you will have a good time;If you make a mistake, you will inevitably be full of thorns.
Life is like chess, and there are no regrets.
If you make a mistake, you will make a mistake, and when you look back, you will be wrong.
There are some mistakes in life, don't make mistakes, you will regret it once you make a mistake.
If you take the wrong path, you will inevitably have a rough life
The Unchosen Path" reads: "There are two paths in the yellow woods, but unfortunately I can't set foot at the same time. ”
It is difficult to distinguish the fork in the road, we are always at a loss when we are confused, and after choosing, we regret the past.
If you go down the wrong path, you will always be in pain;If you choose the wrong target, every second is a torment.
And the most painful thing in life is not to choose the wrong path, but to covet the present and deceive oneself.
In "Distant Savior", there is a man named Liu Bing, whose dream is to make a lot of money one day.
By chance, he joined the company and became one of the shareholders.
However, in an audio sale, the low-price strategy of Glea Audio caused dissatisfaction among peers and was sued in court.
Liu Bing began to no longer trust the company, and even chose to withdraw his shares when the company was at a low point.
Later, the company won the lawsuit, everything returned to normal, and he returned to square one, still with nothing.
As the book says: "He lay on the edge of the well and looked at it, and he was full of happiness and greed, and then he jumped back again." ”
Life is like this, sometimes only focus on the present, and forget the long-term, it seems that the choice is right, but in fact they have been controlled by material desires.
In fact, life is a process of choice and trial and error.
When we set off, we didn't know which path was right, we could only take one step at a time, if it was right, we would continue to work hard, and if it was wrong, we would stop the loss in time.
The journey of life is innumerable, and the desires are rampant, only by knowing how to make trade-offs and staying sober can you choose a path that suits you.
If you make the wrong friends, you will inevitably be discouraged
In life, friends are precious. If you can make a good friend, it is the greatest blessing in this life.
However, if you are not careful in making friends and do not know people, you will add to your worries and sorrows.
During the Wu and Tang dynasties, Wu Zetian issued a ban: cattle, sheep and livestock were not allowed to be slaughtered.
coincided with the middle-aged son of Zhang De, who was left on the right, so he invited his colleagues to the house as guests.
Zhang De is honest and has a good reputation in the department, so there is an endless stream of visitors.
Zhang De was happy to see this, so he ordered someone to slaughter a sheep and make it into a meat patty, and invited his colleagues to eat it together.
Just when the guests and hosts were happy, Du Su secretly stuffed a piece of meatloaf into his sleeve, and when he returned to the residence, he immediately took the "evidence" and went to Wu Zetian to tell Zhang De about the situation.
The next morning, Wu Zetian really questioned Zhang De about eating meat at the banquet yesterday.
Zhang De was so frightened when he heard that he was so frightened that he apologized for his sins and begged for mercy.
However, Wu Zetian did not order him to be punished, but said to the Manchu Dynasty civil and military: "Although I issued a ban on the slaughter of livestock in the world, weddings and funerals are not within the scope of the ban, and there is nothing wrong with slaughtering sheep at home to entertain guests, but you must keep your eyes open when you are entertaining, and don't invite the wrong person!"”
In this world, people's hearts are unpredictable, the world is impermanent, not all people are worthy of your heart, and not everyone regards you as a true partner.
Some people, on the surface, are in love with you, but when they turn their heads, they will betray you;Some people, who seem to be like glue to you, will fall into the well when it is profitable.
There was a question on Zhihu: "What kind of person is the least worthy of interacting?"”
One replied: "The relationship between two people is most afraid of being perfunctory in exchange for giving;."Sincerity becomes a betrayal. ”
Many times, our sincerity in giving to others will be exchanged for the targeting and calculation of others.
People's hearts are complex, and it is often difficult to argue between truth and falsehood;Between cold and warm, it will be the most true.
The ancients said: "Choosing friends is the first thing in life." The success or failure of a life is all related to the merit of friends, and you must not be careless. ”
People's hearts are complicated, the truth is difficult to know, and getting along with people is important to pay attention. This is not the scheming of adults, but the manifestation of mature people.
For the rest of your life, keep a little more attention, save a little more distraction, don't make the wrong friends, don't make the wrong feelings.
If you love the wrong person, you will inevitably pay it wrongly
I have heard such a sentence: "Feelings may be the most hurtful thing in the world, but they are also the most sought-after things." ”
Too many people have given their sincerity, but in exchange for harm;insisted on love, but ushered in a thin love.
For the wrong person, he did not hesitate to give his youth, enthusiasm, and even his entire life.
In "My Name is Yu Huanshui", Yu Huanshui was told by the hospital that he had cancer, and he decided to divorce his wife Gan Hong in order not to drag her down.
He tore his face and asked for the money he borrowed from his friends back, bought a new car for his wife, and left the house and money to his wife, just to avoid grievances for their mother and son.
But Gan Hong did not have the slightest distress and reluctance for Yu Huanshui, as soon as she divorced on the front foot, she married someone else on the back foot.
When Yu Huanshui told her that she was not sick, Gan Hong was not happy and excited, only bored and disgusted.
As Yu Huanshui said, he has never received Gan Hong's love.
For the sake of that relationship, Yu Huanshui would rather be wronged and settle for himself, even if his dignity is consumed a little bit, he is not willing to choose to give up.
However, deception is deception, not love is not love, no matter how much you pay, you will not get the other party's sincerity and sincerity.
Yishu said: "When a person no longer loves you, it is wrong to cry, it is wrong to be silent, it is wrong to breathe alive, and it is wrong to die." ”
In the face of the wrong person, how fierce your love for him is, how cold his feelings for you will be.
The happiness of love is always based on balance, and it does not value how much anyone pays to whom, but whether they have a heart that compares their hearts with each other and understands each other.
Instead of dwelling on a wrong love, it is better to muster up the courage and choose to let go.
Loving each other is a balance between the souls of two people, not one devouring the other.
Those who don't love you will forget each other;Those unworthy feelings let them drift away in the world.
The years are long, and time will erase the sadness and disappointment of the past, and it will also leave the best people for you in the future.
Liang Qichao once said: "In life, we must know the hardships of responsibility, so as to know the joy of responsibility." ”
Everyone will inevitably experience some mistakes in their lives.
But don't forget, whether it's good or bad in the past, it's a gift from the years;No matter whether it has been sad or joyful, it is the wealth accumulated in life.
Only in adversity can we understand our own hearts and responsibilities, and when our hearts are sad, we can understand our own situation and pursuits.
If you go the wrong way, remember to turn back;Make the wrong friends, know to leave;If you love the wrong person, you must know how to let go.
It is often said, "Those who plant flowers in their hearts will never be barren in life." ”
Life has ups and downs, it is inevitable to be fragile, please love yourself well, take every step well, in order to live up to the rest of your life.
Author |Lin Xiaoqi.