43-year-old An Jie has been divorced for 5 years, and her daughter has been admitted to university. Over the years, she has worked from home, making ends meet by doing odd jobs online and doing minor projects for several companies on a regular basis, as well as spending some time each month doing accounts for people. Her mother, now 75 years old, had a sudden cerebral hemorrhage 8 years ago, and although her life was saved after surgery, she became hemiplegic and unable to live independently.
The eldest brother was away from work and once took a short leave of absence to come back to visit his mother, but then left in a hurry. The second brother is a civil servant, and his wife is a teacher. After my father's death, my mother has been living with my second brother.
Faced with their mother's hemilysis, the three siblings decided to share some expenses each and ask a nanny to take care of their mother. They also repossessed a rental house in their mother's name, arranged for her to live with a nanny, and visited her regularly.
After my father died, the three houses he left behind were rented out. Among them, the rent of one set belongs to the eldest brother, while the rent of the remaining two sets is used to support the second brother and become the mother's living expenses.
However, when discussing the cost of hiring a nanny, Meng Liang expressed his dissatisfaction: "Second brother, my mother's house has been repossessed, and there are still two left, right?"The rent should be enough to hire a babysitter. The second brother responded angrily: "You mean you don't want to pay anymore?."Isn't An Jie also a daughter?Isn't there also the responsibility of providing for the elderly?Meng Liang retorted: "Yes, there is the responsibility of providing for the elderly, but all the benefits are yours and the eldest brother's." When you got married, you bought a house and a car in full, and she was the youngest daughter in the family, and the bride price was only 120,000, and only 1,000 was given as a dowry. I urgently needed 20,000 yuan that year, and my parents didn't even borrow it, so I had to borrow 20,000 yuan from a loan shark, and finally repaid 50,000 yuan. ”
The second brother tried to defend the family's decision: "Which family's daughter is not like this?Besides, parents can borrow their money if they want to, and if they don't want to borrow it, they won't borrow it, so what right do you have to blame us?”
Meng Liang admitted his mistake: "Yes, I am indeed too demanding. But the rent money for so many years has been collected by you and your eldest brother, and now you need money, can't you pay it?Even if you don't talk about the past, the rent of two houses is at least 10,000 yuan per month, isn't it enough to hire a nanny?”
The second brother emphasized: "Rent is rent, and the money paid by each person is the money paid by each person, you don't confuse the concept." Meng Liang sneered: "Hehe, you mean that each person will give 5,000, and she must give 3,000, right?"You should think she's a fool. ”
The second brother said impatiently: "I don't want to argue with you, An Jie, you said it yourself, you can't come up with this money." An Jie insisted on her opinion: "Second brother, I think we can use the rent of my mother's house first, and we will make up for the insufficiency." ”
The second brother scolded angrily: "It seems that your parents really raised you for nothing, you can go, you don't have to worry about your mother's affairs in the future." So, An Jie and Meng Liang were driven away by the second brother. They eventually found a babysitter and settled their mother in another small house.
After her mother fell ill, her mind remained clear, even though she was physically unable to take care of herself. However, due to the immense psychological pressure, she became grumpy.
In the beginning, the hired nanny left suddenly after a few days, and even did not ask for a salary. When Mom's condition deteriorated, she was filthy and hungry beyond words.
When the second brother and An Jie learned of the situation, their mother was already in a very bad state. An Jie cleaned up her mother, and the second brother made a bowl of porridge for her. After eating the food tremblingly, the second brother asked, "Mom, why did the nanny leave, why didn't you call us ** and tell us?".”
My mother couldn't move due to hemiplegia in her lower back, but her upper body was barely able to move, and it was not a problem to hit ** and eat.
Mom said angrily: "I just said a few words to the babysitter, and she actually wanted to hit me, and I told her to get out, and she left angrily." Before leaving, I put the ** on the table at the door, can I get it?”
Due to the fact that the nanny has been in this situation many times, the second brother has no choice but to take his mother home, so that he can know in time whether the nanny is responsible or does not want to work.
After her mother moved to her second brother's house, An Jie's visits decreased. Due to the problem of nanny fees, the second brother has always been dissatisfied with her, but An Jie thinks that her mother will not be wronged at the second brother's house.
An Jie has two children, a daughter and a son. She works as an accounting executive in a company, while her husband runs a small company. The family should be happy.
However, half a year later, the second brother informed An Jie to go home, saying that her mother was in a hurry. An Jie hurried home after work.
At the second brother's house, An Jie saw her mother arguing with her second sister-in-law: "What's wrong with me living in my son's house?."You broom star just went out and sold it, cuckolded my son, do you still think it's justified?”
The second sister-in-law trembled with anger and said, "Mom, you lived at home for several years before you got sick, am I not good to you?"This time I also lived for half a year, you drove away the nanny twice in three days, I wiped your and pee, you are so wronged by me now, okay, anyway, I said here, if you still want to live in my house, then I will divorce. ”
The second brother tried to reassure him: "Don't talk angry, let's discuss it." ”
My mother cried loudly and said, "Second child, divorce, what else do you want her to do with this kind of woman?"”
The second brother persuaded: "Mom, if you don't say anything, do you have to let my wife break up before you are willing?"”
Mother's cry became more and more sad: "I know, now you see that I can't move, so you dislike me, in this case, you give me a rope and let me die." ”
The second sister-in-law said angrily: "If you use your death, I will divorce now, and I will take the child away, and it will not hinder your eyes." ”
Because of the conflict between my mother and my second sister-in-law, the quarrel lasted until late at night. In the end, the second brother proposed: "An Jie, you are a daughter, you may get along better with your mother, you also saw it, now my mother can't live with me, you can take it back, and I will give you the monthly nanny fee with my eldest brother." ”
An Jie fell into deep thought, she didn't know what Meng Liang would think, after all, she was not alone in the family.
The second brother said: "An Jie, you should do the second brother a favor, don't worry, in the future, my eldest brother and I will give you 5,000 a month, please bring your mother back." ”
An Jie dialed Meng Liang's **, but Meng Liang did not agree, he said: "Mengjie, you still don't want to take her back at home, if you really want to take care of her, move to her house with your mother, and I will live with the child." ”
An Jie felt very sad after hearing this, she knew that her husband had always had a knot in her heart because of the 20,000 yuan. For so many years, no matter how good they were to her parents, her parents have always been cold to them, and they are not good to her two children.
During the Chinese New Year, the eldest brother and the second brother's children were given 5,000 each, while her children were only 200 at most, so the family relationship between the children and their grandmother was not deep.
However, Ann Jie found that she could not watch her mother have no one to take care of her. The second brother warned that if she was no longer responsible, she would let her mother live with the nanny, and her mother said that if there was no one to accompany her, she would rather die to show them.
In desperation, An Jie had to take her mother to live in her small house, and the nanny had to wait until noon the next day to arrive.
At first, the days of living with my mother seemed to be very satisfying. After all, the daughter is more attentive than the son, and with the help of the nanny, the house is spotless every day, there is no smell, and the mother's mood becomes calm and happy.
However, half a year later, my mother's mood was down again. She began to complain that Meng Liang often brought her children and felt that they took advantage of her.
Every time Meng Liang's family came over, they brought a lot of food and health products. The daughter took the initiative to help take care of her, the son told her stories, and the family wanted to make her happier.
An Jie said to her mother, "Mom, what do you think?"Meng Liang and the child are so good to you. Wouldn't it be nice to just have a meal with us in the evening?”
But my mother replied, "I don't care, every time you don't count how much money you eat me, you're just an outsider, don't look at me." Your dad is right, girls are white-eyed wolves. ”
An Jie was so angry that she cried: "Mom, can you be reasonable?"The eldest brother and the second brother each contributed 5,000, the nanny fee was 8,500, and the remaining 1,500 do you think it is enough for our family of three to eat and drink?I have to spend at least 2,000 a month, even if Meng Liang and his two children spend money on food, it will be mine. ”
However, no matter how many things Meng Liang's family brought each time, the mother was not happy, and always kept a straight face to Meng Liang and the child.
Meng Liang said to An Jie: "An Jie, I and the child will not come again in the future." Take your time to go home and see us. Although she is an elder, we should understand her. It's okay for me, but the children are still young, and I can't let them be wronged. ”
An Jie told her second brother all this, and decided to live with her mother on weekdays, and the second brother would take care of her on weekends, so that she could go home to reunite with her husband and children.
However, half a year later, the second brother no longer came over on weekends. When An Jie returned home, she found that her mother had been taken care of by a nanny. The second brother explained: "An Jie, it's not that I don't want to, you also know that everyone is usually busy with work, children go to school, and the whole family can only be reunited on weekends." When I took care of my mother, my wife and children had no one to accompany me. If this continues, I may be going to get divorced. On the weekends, the nanny will take care of Mom, she has already adapted, and it should be fine. ”
An Jie had nothing to say. As the saying goes, there is no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness, although it is cruel, but it is a reality. Just like now, she and her second brother have their own families, and if they take care of their mother wholeheartedly, then their family may also have problems.
There is also a key issue of the mom itself. Since being paralyzed, her temper has become more and more eccentric. She should be considerate that she is a patient, but who can endure it all the time?For the nanny, she is just to earn money and prefers to take care of people with good personalities, rather than a patient who deliberately finds fault.
After her mother scolded the nanny again, An Jie felt very tired. She said to her mother, "Mom, can you stop a little bit?"I still have to go to work, and when I come back, I have to serve you, wipe your body, massage, and turn you over. Mom, can you feel sorry for me?Don't toss anymore. ”
Mom got angry and threw the cup at her directly, splashing her face. An Jie really felt very aggrieved, so she had to go back to her home directly and complain to her second brother.
The second brother was also angry when he heard this, so he directly found a new nanny, took it to his mother, and left.
Before leaving, the second brother said to his mother, "Mom, can you feel sorry for us too?"For the sake of you alone, An Jie's family and I can't live in peace. It's not that we don't care about you, can you control your temper a little bit?”
When my mother heard the second brother say this, she stubbornly didn't speak at the time, but she cried for a long time after hearing that the second brother left.
After that time, her mother became a lot quieter, and she was very good to An Jie, but even if she didn't let Meng Liang and the two children come to see her, An Jie was helpless.
One day, An Jie was at work and received a ** from her second brother, saying that her mother was in the hospital and asked her to come quickly.
The nanny said that her mother accidentally fell off the bed, but she couldn't move, how could she fall off.
An Jie and her brother were angry, but the nanny swore that her mother had fallen on her own.
After this fall, my mother's head was injured, and the doctor couldn't tell what the sequelae would be. In the hospital, my mother didn't cooperate with the treatment at all, and often made Xiao ** cry angrily.
An Jie and her second brother took turns taking leave to take care of her, but the nurses they hired couldn't work for 3 days each time. She cries from time to time every day, scolds from time to time, doesn't let others touch her, and doesn't let people turn her over ......
In the end, the doctor said that there was no need to be hospitalized, and let him recuperate at home after being discharged.
After An Jie took her mother home, she also came with the nurse she invited this time, because her mother was so difficult to take care of, and the nurse's fee was 11,000.
is still the same as before, An Jie usually lives with her mother and nurses, and goes home on weekends.
However, my mother was so difficult that the nurse said that my mother slept during the day when she was not there, and at night she was so excited that she couldn't sleep at all.
As soon as An Jie fell asleep, her mother called him, saying that she was in pain, and asked An Jie to massage her and turn her over.
An Jie got up and massaged her mother, and after massaging for a while, her mother fell asleep, and An Jie hurried to sleep after drinking some water.
She felt that she had just fallen asleep, and when she heard her mother calling out to her, she got up with difficulty, looked at the time, and it was only 2 hours later.
The nurse was talking to her mother, she said, "Sister, An Jie just fell asleep, where are you uncomfortable, I'll give you a massage, she has to go to work tomorrow." ”
The mother scolded angrily: "Shut up, what do I call my daughter about you?".You go sleep yours, I don't need you. ”
The nurse wanted to turn her over, but her mother reached out directly and hit the person in the face, and made a few marks.
The nurse also got angry and said, "You old lady, your daughter is so good, you have to do this, what do you want to do?"It's so ignorant. ”
Mom screamed: "Get out, you get out of me, I don't need you, earn my money, and you're not obedient, what do I want you to do." ”
The nurse decided: "Okay, I'll leave tomorrow when I get paid, I don't want to serve people like you anymore." ”
An Jie's hard work to care for her mother wears her out. One day, Sister Hu proposed to leave her job because An Jie's mother was too difficult to get along with. An Jie persuaded Sister Hu to stay, but she still felt helpless.
Sister Hu: An Jie, you are a good girl, I really want to work with you, but your mother is too difficult to serve. Although the salary is not low, I can earn so much outside, I really can't stand the atmosphere, you better find someone else.
An Jie had to agree with a bitter face, and then she took care of her mother wholeheartedly, and the continuous care made her both exhausted and physically exhausted. Her mother's condition deteriorated every day, and An Jie had no time to take care of her own life.
One day, An Jie made a big mistake in the audit work, causing serious losses to the company. The leader talked to her and warned her that she had to change the situation or she would lose her job.
An Jie returned to the office, tears welling up. She called her second brother **, hoping that he could take care of his mother at night and discuss countermeasures.
The second brother heard An Jie's predicament and felt powerless.
Second brother: An Jie, I know you are working hard, but what can we do?
An Jie reluctantly said that if she continued like this, she would not only lose her job, but also her body would not be able to bear it. She suggested taking turns taking care of her mother, including her sister-in-law, but the second brother thought it was unrealistic.
Second brother: An Jie, maybe you should consider resigning, we will directly give you the cost of nursing your mother, and give you an additional 2,000 per month. This way you can focus on taking care of your mom and looking for a job in the future.
An Jie said bitterly that it was not easy for her to take the CPA exam, and her current job treatment is also very good, with a salary of 13,000 per month, and it is unrealistic for her to resign.
Second brother: An Jie, we are a family, and our mother is our common responsibility. And you, as a daughter, are better suited to take care of her. If you continue to work, sooner or later there will be problems, so it is better to concentrate on taking care of your mother first, and then think about work later.
Puzzled, An Jie asked why she had to sacrifice for everyone and not others. She stressed that she also has a family and how hard it is to take care of her paralyzed mother.
Second brother: An Jie, let's do it, let's hire a nurse, and you also resign. We will give you living expenses, and your family conditions are also good, so you will not be short of money.
An Jie sneered and said: That's how you treat yourself as a son, and in the end you just want me to compromise. Hehe, what a family.
An Jie was silent, knowing that the situation was irreparable. She knew that if she still wanted to retain her dignity and body, the only option was to leave her job.
So, An Jie reluctantly quit her job. During the day, she entrusts herself to a nurse to take care of her mother;At night, she guards her mother's dreamland.
However, while taking care of her mother, An Jie seems to neglect her family. Meng Liang filed for divorce, which made An Jie's heart like a knife. They have been in love for 5 years, married for 10 years, and have two sensible and lovely children. However, because of my mother's illness, the family began to break up.
Meng Liang said bitterly: "An Jie, I still love you, but now my marriage has lost its original meaning. You can't take care of me, the kids, or even this home. We are all struggling in pain, so let's let it go, at least let us get some relief inside. I have no expectations for you. ”
An Jie nodded painfully, understanding Meng Liang's distress. She acquiesced to this decision, which not only fulfilled him, but also released the troubles in her heart.
Meng Liang asked, "An Jie, what is your opinion on the division of property and children in the family?"”
An Jie replied lightly: "The family property is all earned by you, and I accept any arrangement." As for the children, they have grown up and follow their wishes. ”
Meng Liang looked at her and said with a smile: "An Jie, you are almost 40 years old, why are you still so naïve?."If you go on like this, you're going to lose. ”
An Jie paused for a moment and said firmly: "Because I believe in you, I know that you will not calculate against me. ”
Meng Liang smiled: "Yes, how could I make a move on you." I have already thought about it, in addition to the company and the current house, the other three houses are for you and two children, the family's savings are calculated to be 2 million, and 700,000 for you and your children. ”
An Jie replied: "I listen to you, put it in the company, and give me dividends every year." However, Meng Liang, give me the house and money and the children, you are really too compromised. ”
Meng Liang patiently explained: "I have a company, it doesn't matter. And you don't have a job right now, so of course I'm going to have to think about it for you. ”
An Jie hugged him tightly directly, tears welling up.
After the division of property was completed, the daughter expressed her heart: "Dad, Mom is working too hard, I want to accompany her." Although I have grown up, it is also my responsibility to go home to help my mother and take care of my grandmother together. ”
An Jie and Meng Liang ended their marriage, and the transfer of real estate was completed. She and her daughter's share are invested in Meng Liang's company, receiving dividends of 120,000 to 150,000 yuan every year. An Jie felt that Meng Liang was really a good person.
After An Jie's divorce, her mother was silent for a long time after learning the news. One night, she pestered An Jie again, crying silently: "Xiaojie, I know I can't do well, but I really can't control myself, I really can't control it." ”
An Jie comforted: "Mom, it's okay, I don't have to work now, I will take care of you." Stop crying, I'm here. ”
An Jie not only takes care of her mother, but also cares about her daughter. On weekends, she would take her son and daughter out to play, and the days passed quietly in the ordinary.
Daughter An Jie has always been a good girl who is hardworking and filial, and she takes care of her mother even more meticulously, not only succeeding in her studies, but also responsible for the family. Mom's body gradually became weak and her spirit was not very good, but An Jie has been by her side for eight years.
An Jie was successfully admitted to a 985 university, which made her family happy. To celebrate the good news, Meng Liang happily gave her a house and sponsored her to take her son and daughter on a trip abroad. These supports were generously provided by Meng Liang.
However, instead of chasing a broader dream after graduation, An Jie chose to return home to continue to take care of her mother. A month after leaving home, Mom's state seemed to be even more sluggish. Mother once had a pair of jade bracelets and gave them to her daughter, and An Jie put them in Meng Liang's safe. One day, her mother mentioned that she had a pair of bracelets to give to her future niece, and An Jie found the bracelets while sorting out the boxes, but also found a note at the bottom of the cabinet.
This note made An Jie's mood cool down sharply. It turned out that it was her mother's will, which stated the distribution of the three properties she owned. The eldest brother and the second brother each got a big house, but An Jie only got 2,000 yuan. This fact made her heart feel like frost and cold through her heart.
Trembling, she asked her mother when she left this will, and her mother admitted that it was true, because she felt that she was getting more and more confused, and it was inappropriate not to leave a will. An Jie asked with a tearful smile, she lost her job and family in order to take care of her mother, but she only got 2,000 yuan.
The mother said disapprovingly that she was penniless and only had this money. Angry, Jie renounces this insignificant inheritance and announces that she will move out tomorrow in search of a new life. She decided not to worry about her mother anymore, and resolutely told her second brother that she was about to leave and handed over her mother's care to him and her eldest brother.
This time, An Jie's heart is really like a knife. She called her daughter ** and asked her daughter to help her rent a house, and she decided to leave the place and start her life again. Said to the nurse, "Please work hard at night and take care of my mother." I'll pack my bags tonight and leave tomorrow. ”
Mom called out to An Jie at night, but An Jie chose to ignore it, she thought it was time to let go completely. The next day, she left silently. As for how the second brother takes care of her mother, she no longer cares. Perhaps, she has always regarded herself as too important, and her mother will still be well taken care of.
An Jie stepped into her daughter's city with the determination to find a job again. She understood the risks of online borrowing and quit her job at a small company because she had left and could no longer do anything for them.
The daughter didn't ask too much, but just suggested: "Mom, let's take out the dividends we have accumulated in the past few years, sell another house, and buy a house in another place." The rental house is unstable, and my brother is on vacation, so we also have a place to live here. ”
An Jie agreed, and her daughter immediately called Meng Liang: Dad, my mother and I plan to use the dividends from the past few years and the money from the sale of a house to buy a house here. Can you help me with that?”
Meng Liang asked with concern, "What happened?"Tell me and I'll help you. ”
The daughter replied lightly: "It's not a big deal, Mom is here, we want to live here together." I want to use the dividends in a better place. ”
Meng Liang comforted: "I know, you were admitted to university, didn't I promise to give you a house?"I'll arrange it for you tomorrow, and you and your mother can live in. ”
The daughter shouted happily, "Great, Dad, thank you." ”
An Jie and her daughter moved into a new house and started a new life. Her daughter accompanies her after school, eats, watches movies, and goes shopping together.
For the calls from her second brother and eldest brother, she chose to remain silent, believing that they had a solution to the problem.
She doesn't bother anymore and just wants to live a good life. At the age of 43, she should be responsible for her own life.
What the future will be, she doesn't think about it, she just wants to cherish the time in front of her, cherish her daughter and son, this is what she should do most.
Maybe one day, she will be relieved and be able to face her brother and mother, but she doesn't force herself and goes with the flow.
She understands that there are always people who don't understand you, even parents. Although it is difficult to let go of the heart, there is nothing that can be done.
Time does not turn back, and there is no God to save the past self.
It is only through introspection and self-reconciliation that she can truly step out of the shadows of the past.
She just wants to set a point in time and let go of all ties to the past.
Let go of the past, forgive yourself, and start a new life. Come on.