Hit drama"One Thought of Guan Mountain"., playing Ren RuyiLiu ShishiA statement about "whether a woman wants to get married" has caused a lot of resonance on the Internet.
She said"Don't be another woman's wife in life, and let others be happy and bitter for a hundred years."
This makes people have to sigh about the changes in contemporary women's views on marriage:
In the old days, "marriage is the ultimate destination of a woman, and a woman who does not marry is incomplete", but now more people are no longer obsessed with whether to get married.
When the material is satisfied and the spirit is gradually enriched, more women can have higher requirements for marriage and love, and have the courage to go to the path they choose.
Especially the "85 Flowers" female stars represented by Liu Shishi have always been very honest about their feelings:You can stay single, pursue love, yearn for marriage, and be true to yourself without fear of divorce.
After 6 years, the beauty of Liu Shishi's beauty is still moving.
Some netizens said that they were deeply moved by her arrogance, stubbornness and brokenness.
And behind the image of the shape,Liu Shishi is still that low-key and indifferent appearance, and more often, she focuses on her family.
People who seem to be warm and soft are always firm and persistent in the face of love.
When I first fell in love with Wu Qilong, a reporter asked, "Why did you choose a person who is much older than you and has a lot of career status?"”
Liu Shishi said,"For me, love comes first in life. ”
There was a ** evaluation of her:It seems unassuming, but it has always been true to its choice.
Even later, because of Wu Qilong's age and marriage history, this relationship was characterized by many netizens and ** with the word "not worth it", Liu Shishi was still firm:
When he fell in love with me, I was just an unknown little actor, mediocre in all aspects, not that he was not good enough, but that I was not worthy of him. But even so, he still embraced me with all his love, was willing to help me in my future career development, and took care of me as a big brother. That's when I decided:He is so good to me, I must spend half my life to repay him.
In the face of love, Liu Shishi has no reservations, but this has nothing to do with the "love brain" we always say, but the trust in love and the other half.
The husband and wife have said it more than onceIf you want to manage a good marriage, the best way is to be attentive and attentive to each other.
For Liu Shishi, considering whether it is worth it is but adding to the troubles, since they are in love, they must manage this relationship well.
Don't think about whether it's worth it or not, put love first", also reminded meTang Yan, who is also the representative of "85 Flowers",Attitude towards feelings:
For me, I'm very traditional, to get married is to never get divorced.
She also said bluntly,I don't pursue vigorous feelings, I would rather be plain as water, and the two of them are in love with each other.
Whether it is Liu Shishi or Tang Yan, they all attach more importance to "emotional bonds" and are willing to focus more on their families.
There is nothing wrong with such a choice, of course, for some people, maybe this is a sign of unprofessionalismBut there are many choices in life, and not all women have to become the heroines of "licking blood from the knife edge, entangled in love and hate" in the script.
Tang Yan talked about her cognition of her own state in "Xingyue Private Talk".
Choosing love does not mean losing oneself, nor does it mean that there is no ambition. Just like Liu Shishi once said:
Of course I'm ambitious, but I don't set goals for myself. Because the goal sounds very bitter, it is the feeling of running with my head down, and I prefer to describe it as a good wish, which is to walk there while looking at the scenery.
In fact, everyone wants to be better, but once they work hard, their mentality is easy to be unbalancedI think that a calmer mind will make it easier to get closer to that good wish.
The Tao Te Ching says: less is more, slow is fast. In the face of career and relationship, they are not cutting, but let the stability and tranquility of their hearts water the branches of freedom. Settle your heart well, and life will be smooth;The heart is at ease, and the flowers are blooming.
This is a kind of trust in oneself, responsibility for the journey of life, in the absence of any hurry, firmly follow the path of one's choice, no matter what the outside world says, the heart is always stable.
Yang Mi, who is also 85 flowers,once revealed the concept of love on the show, giving a transparent guide to many girls who are struggling in their relationships.
The sense of security is given by himself, and it took Yang Mi many years to realize this truth. The former Yang Mi, like Liu Shishi and Tang Yan, longed for a relationship to have a good result. But the difference is that Yang Mi's growth along the way was accompanied by the demise of marriage. Yang Mi, who reached the explosive period of his career with "Fairy Sword 3" and "Palace", announced his relationship with Hawick Lau, and 1 year later, he got married.
At that time, her perception of herself was still a very traditional girlThere is a strong desire for marriage.
But unlike the beauty of her fantasy, it is not easy for two people to tolerate each other, trust and recognize each other.
After the divorce, Yang Mi no longer has the desire of his youth when talking about love. She said: Love is not as important as imagined, it is just one of the many experiences in life.
Although there are still expectations for love, this expectation will only be buried deep in the heart, not deliberately pursued, and there is no need to avoid it. It doesn't even matter the outcome of a relationship, life is long and needs love, but love can't measure life.
She puts her feelings at the top of the list, and if the relationship eventually comes to an end, she won't regret it, because she has already worked hard. No twisting, no fighting.
It's not that I don't believe in love, it's just that I don't rely on love anymore. Zhao Liying's attitude towards love is the same after the divorce:There are also many misunderstandings in love, many people feel that they are very lonely and anxious, and there are many difficulties in life, and they feel that if they can find someone to make up for and help me, they seem to be able to get a kind of relief together. But this angle is particularly one-sided, because love is originally the emotion of two people. Therefore, in love, we need to adjust our mentality and then go to life, don't be overly attached to the emotions of either party, we must have the ability to do our own things, make our own decisions, and we must be able to think independently about our own lives.
Zhao Liying talked about her views on love in an interview with Harper's BazaarA woman who lives transparently, her greatest charm is that after tasting the hardships of life, she not only grows, but even still loves life. It's not that they're disappointed in love, but they have a clearer understanding of life. It doesn't matter if a relationship ends well, what matters is whether it can make you grow, become braver, and even if you have been hurt, you can still meet the future with the most enthusiastic face. Like a bird destined to fly high, when you wave your wings and fly to your Promised Land. We are always talking about love, but in fact, we are talking about different paths to happiness. Marriage is to be happy, divorce is also, and not to get married is too!When we experience different experiences in life, and feel the ups and downs of life, we will realize that happiness is worth pursuing all our lives. As Zhang Xiaoxian said:"Time and experience will make you understand that happiness is your own, that it is happiness to have people to love, and that it is happiness to be loved, and that you can still be happy without anyone. Life is just to go back in the best attitude, and on the way back, if someone accompanies you, of course, it is happy;If not, one can be happy. ”
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Like 318 Liu Yifei once said, "Not getting married does not mean that there is no partner, a woman should not only have marriage in her life." I won't be unable to get married, but that doesn't mean I will definitely choose to get married. ”You can marry later, you can not marry, but you can't marry by mistake, marrying the wrong person is more terrible than not marrying. A low-quality marriage is not as good as a high-quality single. As the only one of the 85 flowers who has never been married,In Liu Yifei's view, women's independence is wide. This kind of independence is self-love, bravery, not self-suffering, and not forced. When you love, be brave and love, go to the end, to feel;
If you don't love it, you will leave decisively, don't entangle, don't pull;Always let your life be refreshing and have a clear purpose. The important thing is not marriage or divorce, but the pursuit of happiness and self-pursuit all the time. Just like the "85 Flowers", whether they pursue love, choose to be single, or go to divorce, they are all choices they make on the road to finding happiness.
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Don't cling to the form of happiness, find the most suitable lifestyle for yourself, there are many forks in life, be honest about your choices, and stick to your own path. This is the best way to live in life.