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Life is really interesting, let me give you 3 examples, 3 girls
The first girl
I spent a day helping her do the ** value positioning, and then built the product matrix, is it ready to start?
Under normal circumstances, most of the students began to gear up and start working, but she never did it and did not move.
Later, I asked her why she didn't do it
She said that she didn't dare to sell the 299 yuan product, she felt that she had no confidence, she hadn't done it, she didn't know what she could do, and she didn't want to do things, she couldn't find the motivation to do things, but she was eager to make money and needed to make money urgently.
Do you have a lot of such partners around you?It's just that I always want to do things, and I know very well that I have to do it, and I want to make money, but I can't move.
It's not lazy, it's not that there is no method, it's just that there is no motivation and can't move
Huh?Isn't it contradictory to want to make money, to make money urgently, but to have no motivation and not be able to move?Actually, it's not contradictory at all.
Because these are all superficial, why is this happening?In general, we will analyze the reasons and find a breakthrough.
So, I helped her do a case last night, I wanted to see what the truth was, what her deepest and truest heart was, hahahaha, and died of laughter after reading it.
Don't say 299, even 99She won't do it. Because fundamentallyIt's not the product's problem, it's not her person's problem, the truth is interesting.
In my case, I saw that this girl was very depressed, very powerless, and there seemed to be no hope in life, and I asked her, why are you so depressed.
She said that she felt that her state could not be adjusted well, and she did not have confidence in herself and the future.
You see, in fact, everyone knows that it is the state that determines the future, not the product that determines the future).
I asked her again: How do you understand your depressed state at the moment?
She said there were three reasons.
(The soul is really much more honest and omniscient than we are).
I feel that the current state of depression is also temporary, and I can adjust it, but there is no good way to adjust, and the adjustment time is not very certain.
Because I haven't done anything all the time, I've been lying flat, so the adjustment state will be slower, and if I am in the state of doing things, the adjustment will be faster.
In fact, from the human level, I am still lazy and inert, after all, I have not suffered these hardships, I have not done anything difficult, I have not challenged myself, and I have never done anything beyond my ability.
(The soul is really inwardly sober, and the logic is clear and distinct).
Before it was over, I went to see his life state and life pattern, and something interesting happened.
I saw that she kept her head down and frustrated, and she was limply sorting things in place, as if she was doing something, and she didn't let herself stop.
Touching the east and touching the west, but the state of the whole person is numb and cold.
There are a lot of people around her who are pointing fingers at her, and most of them are giving her a lot of advice, such as:
You're going to get to work.
When you are young, you have to do things, and you can't do big things, so you can do small things.
And so on and so forth. Many people really give advice for her good, and some of them will blame and criticize her if they are short-tempered.
However, she was not unheard, she was numb, and these suggestions did not touch her heart at all
These suggestions were like a gust of wind blowing in her ears, and she didn't feel it. And then, it was numb like this for a long time.
Suddenly, a large hammer fell from the sky and landed only 1 centimeter away from her, almost killing her, literally just 1 centimeter away from her nose and toes.
Although she was still safe and sound, she was scared half to death, and the whole person was stunned and stunned.
After about 2 minutes, I immediately started to do things, and I did it myself!Very positive and very fast.
At that moment, she was awakened, and if she didn't do anything again, she would sooner or later be hit with a sledgehammer.
When I first started to do things, I was forced to do things helplessly, and I still didn't like to do things, and I didn't want to do things, but I forced myself to do it, and I couldn't do it, because there was no way out.
What you do is not what you like, what you like. It seems that everything has not changed from the original method and the product. It's going to be hard, tiring, and embarrassing.
But as I do it, I feel like I've found the feeling of doing things, and I can occasionally put my own ideas into it.
Then, it seems that I am in love with doing things, and I have more and more ideas, and I have more and more sense of value and achievement
At that moment, she suddenly realized that it was not that she didn't want to do things, but because she had never found her sense of value and accomplishment in doing things, and it had nothing to do with "whether she was doing what she liked".
If she can find her own sense of value and accomplishment in one thing, she will like to do everything very much.
Everyone does things not to do something, but to feel whether the "feeling" I get from this thing satisfies me. It's just that those things that "interest oneself" make it easier for us to find feelings)
So she did this, did things, and finally got her own results and achieved her own state.
Everyone does things not to do something, but to feel whether the "feeling" I get from this thing satisfies me. It's just that those things that "interest oneself" make it easier for us to find feelings)
So she did this, did things, and finally got her own results and realized her own state, this is her future.
Later, after the case was over, I shared my inner conversation with her. She said, yes, very accurately.
But she can't control it, it's not something she can control. Even though she knew I was right, it wasn't something she could change and control.
In other words, she has to wait until the "sledgehammer" falls in front of her before she does things, and she is proactive and does it herself
Otherwise, it is useless for anyone to say it. Even if she moves, she will soon pause, because that's her pattern.
Come to think of it, it's actually quite "made", the kind that doesn't shed tears when you don't see the coffin. However, this is not something she can control, even she knows it.
She herself still feels very wronged and wronged, not her problem, not the problem of people, but the problem of mode.
Let's talk about the second girl
This girl has a good appearance, but she has always been single and has been in love for many times.
Obviously, every time she falls in love, others take the initiative to like her, but in the end, she always ends up "dumped", and the boy who falls in love with her is still very "scum", and she is not the best marriage partner at first glance.
There are not too many advantages to match this girl, no matter how much friends and relatives around her can't persuade her, her family thinks it's not good, she is desperate, and the boy who her family thinks is good, is "completely invisible" in her
And she firmly believes that it is not her own problem, but that her family "doesn't understand her" and "has no vision".
After helping her with the case, I found out:That's her pattern
She only has every time!Yes!If you are injured by a scumbag, you will let go of your face!
must wait until the scumbag viciously says "what this girl wants to hear the most, that is, the so-called truth", that she is willing to give up and draw a perfect end to this relationship.
The scumbag can't be tactful, and he won't die until he reaches the Yellow River.
I told this girl this, and she said, yes, that's how I am, but I can't control it, I know everything.
This boy's character or character, or I have no future with him.
I know it, I know it, I know it, it's clear, but I can't control it, because it doesn't seem like I can control it subjectively. It's the perception in the head, and there is only one standard feeling.
The girl said: It turns out, now that I think about it, it's really not my problem, it's the problem of this model.
Let's talk about the third girl
A girl with extreme inferiority complex and lack of self-confidence, but she is unwilling to admit defeat and is unwilling to defeat again and again.
A very painful girl falls into another kind of inferiority complex and unwilling pull almost all the time every day, and even extreme self-doubt and self-denial.
Regard everyone, things, and things around you as the target of attack, negative and negative.
Every day, I feel that the people around me are pointing fingers at me, judging them, saying bad things about themselves, and denying themselves.
This girl is really hard.
Seeing this, you may think that it is her problem and that she is too inferior. So why is she so inferior?You may think it's caused by your family of origin when you were a child.
What I want to tell you is:This pot "original family" does not carry it, and neither do the parents
The girl was born abroad, her parents loved her very much, and her living conditions were very good. The girl is also beautiful and a goddess, but she is silent and not good at expressing herself.
There are many details in the middle, and the process is not much to talk about.
The final truth is:Her mode is to attack all the time
Even if she encounters an opponent who is 100 times stronger than her, even if she feels that she is not capable of defeating, even if she feels that she has lost or is dying, she will still attack her opponent dripping.
So she was defeated again and again, and the result was that frustration made her extremely inferior, but she was unwilling to admit defeat.
She knows all this, but what can she do?I can't control my thoughts and actions at all. I know it's wrong, but I can't stop it.
You may say, when you know the problem, you will be aware of it, and if you are aware of it, you will immediately adjust it.
Then be aware, be aware, be aware, for a while, be comfortable for a while, and then that state will continue to come back.
Continue to be aware, feel comfortable for a while, and then continue to struggle with this state, and the cycle repeats itself indefinitely.
Don't say that you have reached the state of self-sufficiency, you have tossed yourself enough in this cycle, and this is the truth to share with you.
You can think about yourselfEveryone's state is manipulated by invisible patterns
This invisible pattern is like the track of a train, no matter how hard you try to be aware of it, it will never deviate from the track.
Even if you try to deviate through many methods, he will pull you back again, the driver, and the cycle repeats.
It's just that this truth is often interpreted by ourselves into another version: that is, most of us live in the "version" of our own self-interpretation.
When you figure this out, you will find that you are terrified when you think about it: it turns out that you are like a shadow puppet, just a game prop.
It turns out that many of the problems that are difficult for you to understand and can't figure out are really not your problems, and they are really not because you are not good enough, you are not hard enough, and you are not good enough.
Rather, it's out of your control, and you've done your best.
Finally, to sum up: you have been living in a "version" of self-interpretation, which is not the truth, the truth is that your life pattern determines your future state.
If you agree with my sharing above, but realize that you can't solve it, you can go and be aware first, but the truth and results, I can also tell you:
Awareness is better than not being aware, it will make you more comfortable, for a while, but the pattern will not disappear because of "awareness", he will always be there
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