Zhang Hao, a man in his thirties, has been married for seven years. Gao Ya, his girlfriend who met him in college, finally entered the palace of marriage, and they were the most important existence in each other's lives. However, today's Zhang Hao feels the despair and loneliness of his soul.
One day, Zhang Hao unexpectedly met an old man in a corner. Through Zhang Hao's face, the old man seemed to understand the confusion in his heart, and took the initiative to speak: "Young man, I can see your pain, if you want, I can share some of my experience with you." ”
Zhang Hao was a little shocked, but the desire in his heart made him reply with joy: "Okay, I am very willing to listen to your suggestions. ”
Young man, why do you feel alienated from marriage?The old man asked with a smile.
Zhang Hao fell into deep thought, and then slowly spoke: "I feel that married life lacks passion and romance. In the beginning, we used to be passionate about each other, but now, our lives are full of trivialities and boredom. ”
The old man smiled and nodded: "Young man, you need to understand that marriage needs to be managed. Passion and romance don't last forever, they need to be created together. You can try to go on a date, surprise each other, and rekindle that burning fire. ”
Zhang Hao fell into deep thought after hearing this, and he realized that he and Gao Ya hadn't gone out together for a long time. So, he decided to plan a date with Elegance, hoping to make them feel the passion again.
Are there any other concerns?The old man asked with concern.
Zhang Hao exhaled bitterly: "Our communication problems are getting more and more serious. We barely had time to sit down and have a good conversation, let alone listen to each other's inner voices. ”
After patiently listening to Zhang Hao's complaints, the old man said slowly: "Communication is the key in marriage. Young people, you need to learn to listen and share, to understand each other's needs and feelings. It is only through sincere communication that you can keep in touch with each other. ”
Zhang Hao suddenly understood something in his heart. He decided to take some time to sit down with Gao Ya every night and share their thoughts and feelings.
The old man looked at Zhang Hao with a smile and continued to ask, "There is one last hidden worry, young man." ”
Zhang Hao frowned: "I feel more and more that marriage restricts my freedom. I can no longer make decisions as casually as I used to, and I feel like I can't pursue my dreams. ”
The old man said seriously: "Young man, marriage is not a bondage, but an opportunity for mutual assistance and growth. When you spend your life with someone, you will support, motivate, and accomplish each other's careers and happy lives.