The ability to fall in love

If you like each other and want to continue your relationship, you must have the heart to forgive each other.

If everything is done with an attitude that there is no room for sand in the eyes, the anchor will be compared, and both sides will be suffocated by this, and the relationship between them will soon fall apart.

If you want two people to love each other forever and be happy, you must be able to forgive each other to a certain extent, and be dull.

This kind of blunt sensibility is the ability to keep a relationship lasting for a long time.

At the beginning of the relationship, two men and women who don't know each other well gradually come together, at this time, both men and women focus all their energy on each other, and at this stage, they will be very sensitive to each other's words and deeds.

The same is true in the animal world, where males scout the female's reactions and try to attract them with their postures.

At this stage, it is true that bluntness is not enough to form a romantic relationship.

However, the problem lies after falling in love. After a man and a woman are lucky enough to become a couple, both parties will begin to hesitate whether to enter the palace of marriage or enjoy the sweetness of love for a while

From this period onwards, both sensitivity and dullness need to be possessed at the same time.

First of all, a keen sensibility is required. It goes without saying that you need to have the sensitivity to know as early as possible what the other person is thinking, what is demanding, and how to deal with it.

Men and women who are in love regard each other's sensitivity as tenderness and care given to themselves, and the relationship between the two parties further develops in the direction of sweetness.

However, always putting the other person first does not guarantee that the relationship between two people will go smoothly. In a long-term relationship, it is not uncommon to be hurt and emotionally unhappy due to some trivial things.

Also, from the perspective of the process of falling in love, after being in love for more than a year, some small frictions will slowly begin to appear between men and women.

Of course, the relationship with each other will not end because of this, but the two of them will find it a little boring.

For example, the woman said that she wanted to go to the movies this weekend, but her boyfriend told her that she couldn't go because of something. So the woman gave up the request to watch the movie, but the boyfriend went to play golf with his partner.

When the woman knows, she will definitely ask, "Who is more important, me or your partner?"”

On the contrary, the man wanted to ask his girlfriend, but the other party said that he had no time to refuse, and the man asked carefully afterwards, and the girlfriend saw that his friend went. Of course, the man will have the same complaints.

At this moment, if the reaction is too sensitive, things are easy to become out of control, and maybe they will use this as a fuse, and the dissatisfaction accumulated on weekdays will suddenly explode, and the two will have a big quarrel.

Instead of that, it is better to suppress your own anger first and tolerate the other party once.

I also have something that is not satisfactory, so forget it. "Use such thoughts and attitudes to forgive the other person.

This is where blunt sensitivity comes in.

In the process of maintaining a romantic relationship, both men and women are actually constantly changing.

For example, an acquaintance of mine, Mr. K, is 45 years old this year. Probably because he grew up in a small town by the sea, he is an authentic Japanese food pie.

Of course, the staple food is rice, and the rest of Mr. K eats soba and udon bread and barely touches it. His favorite dishes are vegetables and fish, and he also prefers white, light flavors. He likes both sashimi and grilled fish, and often laments that there are no good Japanese restaurants.

He drinks quite well, no matter where he goes, he always drinks beer and sake, and he hardly drinks whiskey, shochu, let alone red wine. Although he doesn't eat meat at all, he at most goes to a small restaurant with yakitori to eat some chicken, and he is most afraid of eating pork and beef.

Therefore, when we are occasionally taken to an Italian restaurant or a French restaurant, he also has an expression of how this kind of thing can be swallowed, except for the vegetable salad and a little soup, he hardly touches the rest of the things.

He also took the initiative to declare himself to be a Japanese food pie, and has always insisted that Japanese food is best such a man, I don't know when it actually became a Western food pie That time we went to an Italian restaurant together, at first I thought he must be particularly reluctant, but after starting to eat, I didn't see him show any dissatisfied expression Even so, I still think he is probably doing this to cater to everyone, but soon I found that he was actually a knife and fork in his hand with an interested look.

Don't you matter?I asked.

Well, it's ok...He had almost eaten all the Italian food in front of him, and his friends who dined at him stared at him blankly.

Then he picked up the wine and drank it again.

So I asked, "Your eating habits seem to have changed a lot, what's wrong?"He said shyly, "To be honest, I'm in a relationship with a woman who is a Western-style restaurant. ”

It dawned on me and I nodded vigorously.

It turns out that he changed from a one-sided Japanese pie to a Western food that can be eaten because of the influence of his girlfriend. After knowing that his girlfriend likes Western food, Mr. K reluctantly accommodated her at first, and gradually became accustomed to eating Western food.

Falling in love can really change a person.

If Mr. K hadn't been in love with that woman, then Western food and red food would never have been touched for the rest of his life.

If you don't call it a revolution, what should you call it?

However, what is even more commendable is that Mr. K, when he was in love, was determined and capable of revolutionizing himself. If you change to the kind of man who is too sensitive to everything and too stubborn and refuses to change, it is impossible for such a big change to happen.

Mr. K has brilliantly changed himself in the year of not being confused. This transformative power is the kind of obtuse power he possesses.

In fact, there has always been a kind of flexibility in Mr. K's palate. This is the manifestation of blunt sensibility, which is why he can change himself and develop a relationship with his girlfriend more smoothly and harmoniously.

Let me introduce you to another incident that happened to a pair of lovers.

The hero is a forty-year-old married man named T;The heroine is thirty-two years old and named S Zi. The road is super fresh and the mail case is returned.

When the two met through work, Mr. T already had a wife, and Miss S was single, and they gradually became intimate and developed into a so-called extramarital affair.

Miss S likes Mr. T, but sometimes she is still annoyed and unhappy because Mr. T is married. In fact, Miss S knew that Mr. T had a family from the time she was in a relationship, and even so, she would still be tormented by jealousy.

For example, in the middle of the night, Mr. T came home from Miss S. Looking at the back of Mr. T leaving, Miss S Zi will become restless. The thought of Mr. T's return home and his wife snuggling up to him made Miss Sz's head swell, as if she were about to go crazy.

There was also a holiday, Miss S Zi proposed to meet Mr. T, but the other party refused on the grounds that "I have something to go out with the children today", and she felt that Mr. T didn't care about her at all.

In addition, when Mr. T and his wife are happily walking together holding the child's hand, Miss S becomes very angry.

Come to think of it, let's break up with this person. Although I had thought like this many times, it didn't take long for Miss S to get excited about the date with Mr. T again.

Really, I'm useless. ”

Miss S Zi once unconsciously confided the truth to me.

If you want to carry out love to the end, if you don't have blunt sensibility, it won't work at all. "Dull sensitivity?I asked, then nodded slowly.

Indeed, when two people love each other, if one party is too sensitive to the words and deeds of the other party, I am afraid that the relationship between the two parties will not last for a long time. Especially in the case of Miss S, if she is too sensitive to Mr. Xia's words and deeds, and often gets angry and cries due to jealousy, the relationship between the two will soon collapse.

Of course, I don't approve of this kind of extramarital affair, but I want to say that once two parties are in love, if they want to continue their love for each other, it is difficult to do it without that kind of informal dull sensibility to some extent.

Miss S Zi muttered to herself with deep feelings: "The so-called love is to be tolerant and forgive each other."

This sentence is really profound. If you like each other and want to continue your relationship, you must have the heart to forgive each other in some aspects. If you have an attitude of not having sand in your eyes on everything, both sides will be suffocated by this, and the relationship between them will soon fall apart.

As mentioned earlier, men and women are not the same. Not to mention feelings, even in terms of body and physiology, they are completely different. Therefore, if two people want to love each other forever, happiness and happiness must be able to forgive each other to some extent, and I feel that some of this blunt sensibility is a kind of love ability that makes the relationship last for a long time.