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Highly educated AA hot pot dating, limited to 211 education and single. Our activities are limited to graduates, handsome guys and beauties who graduated from the top 100 overseas QS schools, do not disturb those who do not meet the conditions. ”
Recently, a new type of social "high-end bureau" for strange men and women has quietly appeared in young people groups in major cities, with rich content of activities, including reading clubs, seminars, parties, camping, etc., if you want to participate, you need to be "good-looking", and you have to be a "scholar" with a graduation certificate from a famous school. According to the process, you first need to send your own ** to the organizer, after passing the "appearance" inspection, you need to check the certificate of the academic information network to enter the venue, which can be described as an airport security screening.
Card face card academic degree party invitation. Screenshot of social platform.
It's not good-looking, it's not high, and I'm not qualified to play with them"Shouldn't this social style, which reinforces class rigidity, be regulated?”
As more and more organizers send invitations on social platforms, the dissatisfaction of the majority of netizens has become more and more intense. What do you think about this?How did the participants feel?Is this phenomenon justified in the opinion of experts?
Organizers: Only to provide high-quality socialization.
Not considered malicious to anyone.
This Saturday's private club party is fast to sign up. The participants include graduates of Qingbei, Ivy League and other famous schools, handsome guys from UCL, young ladies of Peking University scientific research, etc., with a limited number of 10 men and 10 women. ”
As a professional organizer of "high-value and highly educated", on December 9, the blogger "Fun Play Beijing" updated the latest event invitation letter of the week on Xiaohongshu, inviting local "high-quality men and women" in Beijing to participate. In an interview with reporters, he introduced that in September this year, he began to post on Xiaohongshu to organize famous school gatherings, and has successfully organized more than 500 offline activities in Beijing, with more than 3,000 members.
Card face card academic degree party invitation. Screenshot of social platform.
Talking about the original intention of the bureau, the blogger said that he was also a graduate of a well-known overseas university, and after returning to China, he felt that the general commercialization was serious, the quality of the personnel was uneven, and it was difficult to talk together because of the large age gap. At the same time, he noticed that many outstanding young people are now confined to the two-point and one-line life circle, suffering from social barriers and unable to meet new friends, while most people have the need to expand their social circle and get to know people.
So our aim is to provide high-quality social circles and reject ineffective social networking. According to the blogger, the current members of the organization include research doctors from the Chinese Academy of Sciences, teachers from Qingbei, doctors from UCL and Oxford Finance, well-known CEOs of Beijing University of Science and Technology, famous hosts of China Transmission, and vice presidents of the National People's Congress. The age of the members is basically the post-90s, and there will be 10% of the post-80s, and the activities are mainly sports, social parties, parties, camping and other activities to help everyone make friends quickly and enrich network resources.
The threshold for participating in the activity is or domestic graduates of the same level, overseas QS top 150 school graduates, and well-known bigwigs in various fields. ”
Card face card academic degree party invitation. Screenshot of social platform.
Regarding the evaluation of netizens' "class solidification", the blogger expressed his disagreement with this point of view. "Now blind dates will look at each other's appearance, education, especially their own conditions are also good, everyone will naturally consider these factors when making friends, and want to meet other excellent people who have common topics, I don't think this social method is malicious to anyone. ”
At the same time, he added that he often organizes roundtable forums, seminars, and reading clubs, so that outstanding talents from all walks of life can get together to collide ideas and learn from each other Xi "Everyone's response is very good, in addition to offline entertainment, there are also people who use this platform to invite people in the same field to complete sci academic ** with themselves, discuss scientific research problems, people in the financial field are often in the group ** current affairs news, this is a good resource integration, people with lower education can not talk to them. ”
Card academic party members in the group for academics**. Provided by the interviewee.
The blogger said that his charges are also very reasonable, and the average per capita consumption of general parties, board games, reading clubs, etc., is less than 200 yuan, which enriches life and has the opportunity to meet excellent friends from all walks of life, and the cost performance is very high.
Participant: Able to meet more people.
But there is a feeling of being "objectified".
In the summer of this year, a friend posted on Moments to complain that the information about the card spelling was becoming more and more complicated, and it was also the first time I heard of the 'Kayanka Education' social network. The 23-year-old said that she had friends around her who had been exposed to such social gatherings. I also saw some organizers complaining in the circle of friends, saying that those who "don't look good" and "use cheap cosmetics" should not come to the Kayan Bureau, and I also learned that some people will give benefits to the organizer in order to enter the Kayan Bureau, hoping to obtain this qualification. ”
Because Jiaojiao was invited by a friend to participate in a "Kayan Bureau", she bluntly said: "I can indeed meet new friends, but in this kind of socialization, 'appearance' and 'education' have become a kind of circulating currency, so the person who makes the rules has the privilege of controlling others and judging others, I feel like I am 'objectified', and there is no ease of leisure and entertainment and the happiness of making good friends." ”
Since she brought a bad feeling to herself, Jiaojiao refused to participate in such social activities again, and saw more and more people around her posting a circle of friends to form a bureau, she expressed her concerns: "'Kayan' and 'Ka Education' Bureau can indeed broaden their contacts to a certain extent, but the trend of young people wanting to be defined, evaluated, and labeled by others is not very good, and I think that the current social environment will actually make the vast majority of people lose their social rights, after all, good-looking and highly educated are a minority." ”
Expert: Put young people in a state of comparison with each other.
It is not conducive to the formation of open and inclusive values.
In the opinion of experts, how should the social appearance of "card appearance card education" be viewed?What kind of social psychology is reflected?What are the possible implications?With such a question, the cover news reporter interviewed Hu Penghui, a teacher at the School of Sociology of Huazhong University of Science and Technology.
Hu Penghui. In fact, the social interaction of "setting thresholds" has always existed since ancient times, but in the contemporary environment, the "utilitarian" and "useful" of this kind of social interaction has become more obvious. In the interview, Hu Penghui mentioned the word "social utilitarian" many times, "just like the popular 'looking for a partner' some time ago, it is centered on self-needs to seek matching, subjectively it is the need for a person who is homogeneous with their own economic conditions, social status, and personal preferences, and young people express their needs more nakedly, which is the characteristic of contemporary people's pursuit of individualization and individuality." ”
And this kind of "utilitarian" is particularly obvious in the "card face card education" party, for its essence of "good or bad", Hu Penghui does not characterize, he believes that in this kind of gathering in the social are with 'because they are at the same level as me, so I can get effective information and resources with them', with the expectation of maximizing the benefits of communication, if the members can get a sense of happiness or achieve high-quality resource integration in such a social network, this kind of social organization is also acceptable.
However, Hu Penghui made it clear that he opposed the "provision of high-quality socialization" mentioned by the above-mentioned organizers, and in his opinion, the real "high-quality socialization" should first conform to the open, inclusive, peaceful, progressive, rational and confident social mentality advocated by the country. "In particular, young people should have self-esteem and self-confidence, which is a social mentality vigorously advocated by the country, and the emergence of more and more 'card face card education' gatherings has put young people in a state of comparison with each other, and in the process of constantly encountering being stuck, in fact, they are placed in a relatively vulnerable group, so that they gradually lose their self-esteem and self-confidence, which is a malignant impact that should be paid attention to, contrary to our mainstream values. ”
And for those "quality youths" who have successfully entered the game, such gatherings have the same negative impact on them. Hu Penghui said that for example, high-value elites get together to play and form a closed circle, and from the perspective of communication, they are prone to gradually form polarization of opinions and emotions in the process of continuous interaction.
They will subconsciously think that 'our circle is the best and the best, and we can't look down on people and voices outside our circle', completely isolating themselves from a diverse society, so such a group is actually not conducive to the openness and inclusiveness advocated by society. He said.
Regarding the question that netizens are worried about, "whether the card appearance card education will form class solidification, and whether this kind of social method should be supervised", in Hu Penghui's view, this is just a "small-scale carnival" of a group of people, rather than a large-scale ban on social class mobility, so netizens' worries about 'class solidification' do not exist.
Although there is a certain degree of disapproval of the social method of "card appearance and card education", Hu Penghui believes that society is progressing, and individuals should be given more room for tolerance and free development.
However, how to guide young people to form self-esteem, self-confidence, openness and inclusiveness, while not hindering their individual freedom of socialization, is a problem that needs to be seriously considered. ”
The original title was "Don't look good, don't you have the qualifications to play together?".The new "card appearance" and "card education" gatherings cause controversy).