By the time a person retires, after decades of tempering, he has understood the true meaning of life and has his own way of life.
It's been almost two months since I retired, and when I stopped doing these 4 things, I felt like my life was getting happier and happier.
First things first: never complain when faced with any problem
In life, there are always people around us who love to complain, and when things don't go well, they either blame others or complain about the environment, as if everything around us is against them.
I used to have this phenomenon, but later I found that I like to complain, which can cause a lot of obstacles in my life.
Generally speaking, when a person is not capable of solving problems in life, he will relieve himself of responsibility by complaining and blaming others.
To some extent, complaining is a manifestation of incompetence and helplessness.
Adults live their own lives, what to do, or not to do, and everyone should take responsibility for their choices.
In my opinion, if you can't solve a problem if you can't solve it, you will suffer it.
The second thing: always keep yourself and don't follow the crowd
After I retired, whenever I read and write, I always heard the voices around me who were skeptical, thinking that at such an old age, I should do what I should do, and reading and learning is a young person's business.
With the increase of life experience, I found that what kind of conventions to abide by is, to a large extent, a shackle tied to most people, limiting the development of individual life.
In my opinion,At all times, one must maintain the ability to think independently.
After retirement, I like to follow my inner thoughts, not be limited by most people's ideas, and be my own independent self, which in my opinion is the greatest love for myself.
The third thing: don't grieve yourself to please others
I have been a somewhat introverted person since I was a child, and I used to be in the unit, and my relationship with everyone was a little distant. In order to make yourself look gregarious, you often condescend to yourself and do things that you don't want to do.
Years of experience have made me realize that many feelings are not earned by making compromises and pleasing others.
After I retired, I decided to follow my heart and be myself as I pleased.
In my opinion,Instead of pleasing others and squeezing into a circle that is not suitable for you, it is better to be alone, do yourself seriously, and make yourself a worthy person.
It was only when I gave up pleasing others that I truly felt peace and ease in my heart.
The fourth thing: live yourself well and don't compare yourself to others
Comparing ourselves to others is often the root cause of our bad feelings.
People often compare themselves to others to determine whether they are happy or not. If you gain a sense of superiority in comparison with others, you will be sure that you are happy.
Once others have what they don't have, or are not as good as others, they will have emotions such as anxiety and disappointment.
After retirement, people often like to compare who has more money, whose marriage is happy, and whose children are more promising, and obtain their own happiness through comparison.
ActuallyAfter retirement, what determines a person's happiness is a healthy body and a good attitude.
Exercising more, taking good care of your body, and adjusting your mentality are the things that really matter.
After retirement, what people live is their mentality.
What kind of habits you have, what kind of mentality you have;What kind of mentality you have, what kind of destiny you have.
In life, I wish each of us the ability to be sober and be ourselves, not envy others, follow our hearts, and live our truly wonderful life.
My life is sparkling