There was a time when I was always full of conflicts and arguments when I was with my ex, until the relationship between us came to an end. However, when I meet the incumbent, I find myself still thinking of my ex, which confuses me. Why do I still think of my ex when I'm with my current one?
First of all, we need to understand that the human brain is not linear, but rather a complex network structure. This means that we are influenced by many factors when we think and recall. When we are with our current present, our brains may unconsciously recall experiences and emotions with our ex. This may be because we have formed some deep memories and emotions when we spend time with our exes that have left their mark in our brains.
When we are with our current present, we may encounter some situational or emotional experiences similar to those of our ex, which triggers relevant memories in our brains. These memories may remind us of our ex, even if we've been separated from our ex for a long time.
In addition, human emotions and memories are interconnected. This means that when we recall our ex, we may feel emotions associated with it. These emotions may cause us to have some unnecessary worries or doubts about the incumbency.
So, how to solve this problem?
First of all, we need to be aware of the reason why this problem exists. When we realize that it's the brain's complex structure and emotional connections that cause us to think of our ex, we can approach the issue more rationally.
Second, we need to establish more open and in-depth communication with the incumbent. When we are with our current incumbent, if we can be honest about our feelings and thoughts, then we can better understand each other's needs and emotions. This helps to enhance trust and understanding between us, which in turn reduces unnecessary conflicts and quarrels.
Finally, we need to focus on the relationship with the current one. While we may not be able to completely forget our ex, we can choose not to dwell on the past. Instead, we should cherish the time we spend with the current and create as many great memories and experiences as possible. This helps us build a more stable and healthy relationship.
In conclusion, it is normal to think of the ex when we are with the current one. While we can't completely avoid this emotional backtracking, we can approach the issue rationally and establish a more open and in-depth communication with the incumbent. By focusing on the relationship with the present and creating good memories, we can build a more stable and healthy relationship.