When night fell, the breeze blew through the small courtyard of Lao Zhang's house, and the crickets in the corner of the courtyard began their nocturne. Lao Zhang, a retired man in his sixties, sat on a wicker chair, shaking a fan in his hand, and his eyes were contemplative and profound. The occasional laughter of children could be heard on the street, but Lao Zhang's thoughts drifted farther away.
When a person reaches sixty, he does not hand over or touch. Lao Zhang muttered to himself, this proverb is like a puzzle, both profound and full of wisdom. Throughout his life, this phrase seemed to hide some kind of key philosophy of life. But exactly, what do "not handing" and "not touching" mean?Do they really make sense?
Lao Zhang recalled a tea party many years ago, and that was the first time he heard this sentence. At that time, he sat around a stone table with old friends, talking about life after retirement. He clearly remembered his confusion at the time, and he was puzzled by the deep meaning behind this sentence.
That night, their discussions ranged from family to health, from financial planning to lifestyle choices. Each topic seems to be silently interpreting the meaning of "two do not make friends, two do not touch". But Lao Zhang didn't fully understand at the time.
Time passed like flowing water, and Lao Zhang gradually understood the deep meaning in the process of practicing this principle. He began to realize that "two do not make friends" was not just a simple guide to avoid quarrels and stay away from fame and fortune, but a deeper, intelligent choice about life in old age. In the same way, "don't touch" is not just about avoiding smoking, alcohol and gambling, it also represents a healthy and positive attitude towards life.
With these reflections, Lao Zhang's life began to undergo subtle changes. He turned down a neighbor's invitation to mahjong and chose to take a walk in the park or quietly raise flowers at home. These behaviors of his slowly affected the people around him, and even the lifestyle of the entire community began to change.
However, just when Lao Zhang seemed to fully understand the true meaning of this proverb, an unexpected event occurred that forced him to re-examine the real meaning behind this sentence. This event not only tested his faith, but also brought new challenges and reflections to his life.
The night was getting deeper and deeper, Lao Zhang closed his eyes, and the moment that changed everything appeared in his mind. How will this incident affect his understanding of "two do not make each other, two do not touch"?Lao Zhang's story has just begun......
1. The wisdom of the years: understand the "two do not pay".
Lao Zhang, a retired man in his sixties, has a clear plan for life, and his daily life is filled with full and orderly arrangements. He enjoys getting together with old friends and sharing life insights and experiences at leisurely tea parties.
On a sunny afternoon, Mr. Zhang sat in the courtyard of his house with a few old friends, around an old-fashioned stone table. With freshly brewed tea in their hands, they chatted about their own trivial matters. At this time, Lao Zhang, smiling, looked very satisfied.
Did you know that the first rule of 'two non-exchanges' is 'no communication'. Lao Zhang said slowly, his voice was calm but full of deep meaning, "This is telling us that at this age, we should listen more and talk less." Quarrels only put a burden on the mood and body. ”
The old friends listened attentively, and one of them nodded in agreement: "Yes, yes, I heard that high blood pressure is very common in the elderly, and it is dangerous to get excited. ”
Lao Zhang smiled and continued: "The second is 'no profit'. At our age, we no longer pursue fame and fortune, we must learn to let go. When you're retired, you should enjoy life, shouldn't you?”
Another old friend smiled and answered: "Indeed, my greatest pleasure now is to watch the flowers bloom and listen to the birds, and simple things often bring the purest happiness." ”
Lao Zhang's eyes flashed with wisdom: "That's right, life is short, we should learn to cherish every beautiful moment in front of us." ”
As the topic deepened, the old friends began to share their retirement life and insights. They talk about family, children, and the little things in life. Lao Zhang inserted a sentence or two from time to time, and his words were always so appropriate, both wise and full of life experience.
At this moment, the courtyard is full of harmony and tranquility. The laughter and conversation of old friends mingled to form a beautiful picture of retirement. As the sun sets, the golden sunlight shines on their faces, making them look particularly warm and satisfied.
Lao Zhang looked at his old friends, and his heart was full of gratitude and happiness. He knew that such a day was the retirement life he dreamed of.
Second, the calm of old age: abide by the "two do not pay".
In the process of practicing the principle of "two non-exchanges", Lao Zhang's attitude towards life has undergone significant changes. Once, at a family gathering, he demonstrated this change. At the party, the son expressed a different opinion from Lao Zhang on a certain topic. Faced with this difference, Lao Zhang did not rush to express his opinion as usual, but chose to listen quietly.
Dad, why don't you speak?The son asked curiously.
Lao Zhang replied with a smile: "I'm learning Xi 'not talking', so it's good to listen to your young people's thoughts." ”
At this time, Lao Zhang's wife also joined the conversation: "Yes, your father is not as stubborn as he used to be now, he has learned to empathize." ”
Such a change is not only reflected in family conversations, but also in his financial planning. Lao Zhang followed the principle of "no profit" and became more cautious about money. He no longer pursues profit excessively as before, but focuses more on the quality of life and the happiness of his family.
At a hearty family dinner, Zhang's family talked about their financial plans for the future. Lao Zhang listened to the opinions and suggestions of his family and did not rush to express his views.
Dad, what do you think of our plans?The son asked.
Lao Zhang said slowly: "I think your ideas are very good, and I support you." Remember, it's our happiness that matters, not just money. ”
Family members were pleasantly surprised and relieved by this change in Lao Zhang. They saw a more mature and peaceful Lao Zhang, which not only made the family atmosphere more harmonious, but also made everyone feel more comfortable and at ease.
With the passage of time, Lao Zhang gradually learned to better understand and respect the views of others in the process of practicing the principle of "two non-friendships", and at the same time cherished the time spent with his family more. This change in him not only made him feel satisfied and happy for himself, but also made his family members feel his love and support.
3. Stay away: understand "two do not touch".
Lao Zhang, after practicing the life philosophy of "two non-friends" for a long time, gradually established a certain prestige in the community. One day, at a small gathering in the community, everyone sat around to discuss health and wellness. The conversation naturally turned to another important life rule: "don't touch the two".
Lao Zhang was very interested in this topic, and he seriously participated in the discussion: "First of all, 'don't touch tobacco and alcohol'. He said in a deep voice, "At our age, our health is not as good as when we were young, and tobacco and alcohol are poison for us." ”
A neighbor interjected: "Yes, I have a friend who drank harmlessly when he was young, but it's different when he's old." The body is getting worse day by day, and it's too late to regret it now. ”
Lao Zhang continued: "The second is 'don't touch betting'. Gambling will only ruin our later years, and we should enrich ourselves with more meaningful activities. ”
Listening to Lao Zhang's words, other neighbors also began to share their opinions and experiences. An elderly woman said: "My husband used to drink a lot, but then he had a health problem and the doctor warned him that he had to quit drinking. Since he quit drinking, our family life has become more harmonious. ”
Another middle-aged man joined the discussion: "I once had a friend who not only lost a lot of savings but also ruined family relationships because of gambling. I learned from him that I would never touch gambling. ”
Lao Zhang nodded in agreement, and he added: "At our age, we should pay more attention to physical and mental health. In addition to 'not touching the two', we should also participate in activities that are wholesome for the body and mind, such as walking, doing tai chi, or participating in community interest groups. ”
A neighbor suggested: "Lao Zhang is right, we can organize an interest group where everyone participates, such as gardening or painting, so that we can exercise and cultivate interests." ”
The atmosphere of the party became more lively, and everyone expressed interest in the proposal. Lao Zhang looked at this scene, and his heart was full of satisfaction. He feels that through such exchanges and activities, he can not only help himself and his neighbors avoid bad Xi, but also enhance the harmony and unity of the community.
As it got late, the party drew to a close. Lao Zhang said with emotion: "Today's gathering is really meaningful, we not only shared life experience, but also enhanced mutual understanding. I hope we can all adhere to the principle of 'two don't touch' and enjoy a healthier and happier life in old age." ”
The neighbors nodded their heads and thanked Lao Zhang for his sharing and suggestions. They said goodbye to each other, their hearts full of anticipation and hope, and full of new plans and expectations for their future lives. Lao Zhang smiled and watched everyone leave, filled with warmth and satisfaction deep in his heart. He knows that with a positive attitude towards life and a healthy lifestyle, he can make life better in later life.
Fourth, enjoy the old age: practice the "two do not touch".
Lao Zhang's lifestyle shows that "two do not touch" is not only a principle to avoid negative Xi, but also a positive attitude towards life. He resolutely refused his neighbor's invitation to mahjong, saying, "No, I won't touch these now." I prefer to go for a walk in the park or raise flowers. "This shows his persistence and love for a healthy lifestyle.
His grandson was curious: "Grandpa, why don't you play with them?".Lao Zhang patiently explained to his grandson: "Although playing mahjong is fun, I want to use my time to do something that is more beneficial to my body and mind." ”
Lao Zhang's choice affected the people around him. His family and friends saw the change in him and began to understand and respect his choice. His grandson also gradually learned to appreciate Lao Zhang's hobbies.
When walking in the park, Lao Zhang always seems very pleasant. He likes to walk leisurely in the shade of trees, breathe in the fresh air, and feel the beauty of nature. He also likes to take care of the flowers and plants at home, which makes him feel very content and calm. These simple and peaceful activities not only keep his body healthy, but also bring peace to his mind.
In addition, Lao Zhang is actively involved in various health activities in the community, such as tai chi and walking. He encouraged his neighbors to join in and enjoy a healthy lifestyle together. Lao Zhang's attitude to life has deeply affected his community, and he has gradually become a role model for everyone to learn from Xi.
Under Lao Zhang's influence, his neighbors also began to pay more attention to a healthy lifestyle. Many of them are starting to cut back on unhealthy recreational activities in favor of a healthier lifestyle. Lao Zhang's principle of "two no-touches" has gradually changed from a personal choice to a consensus of the community, affecting the lives of everyone around him.
Over time, Zhang's healthy, positive attitude to life has not only benefited him, but has also brought positive change to his family and community. He has proven that following the principle of "two do not touch" can not only avoid negative impacts, but also bring a richer and more meaningful life experience.