My name is Zhang Dapeng, I am 28 years old, and I am the technical director of a foreign company. To be honest, my life wasn't going well.
I was adamantly opposed to this ridiculous request at first. After I got married, my salary was mainly used to pay the mortgage and support my family. If we really take half of our salary, our life as a couple will be in trouble. But my dad threatened me with the property and savings he had accumulated over the years, and if I didn't comply, he would kick me out of the house and cut off the father-son relationship with me.
After discussing it with my wife, I decided to endure it for a while, wait for my dad to lose his anger, and then slowly talk to him about this issue. After all, we are still living in my father's house and counting on him to support us in paying the mortgage. I don't want to fall out with my dad.
In this way, I began to remit half of my monthly salary to him and half to my niece Xiaofang at my father's request. The rest of the money is barely enough for my wife and me to pay the mortgage and daily expenses. Li Mei had to find a part-time job to help the family.
At first, the couple gritted their teeth and endured it and did not directly confront our father. Li Mei often comforted me, saying that my father was old and had a bad temper, so let's let him go. I don't want to turn against my father, after all, he is not in good health, and I am still very filial to him.
However, after a few months of this absurdity, I couldn't take it anymore. My job was very stressful, I was often criticized by my boss, and there was no hope of promotion. My relationship with my wife is also getting stiffer. We often quarrel over money. Li Mei often complained that I was not able to give her a comfortable life.
One day, I couldn't bear it anymore and had a big fight with my dad. I said that I am an adult and that my salary should be at my own disposal. But my father said that I was not filial and didn't give money to my niece, where could I find such a good son. The two of us quarreled more and more fiercely, and my father even picked up a cane and tried to hit me, but I took him down.
This argument brought my relationship with my dad to a freezing point. I couldn't take it anymore and moved out of my hometown and lived alone. Li Mei was also disappointed in me, saying that I was immature and could not handle family relationships.
I think that after I get married, I should protect my family. Unfortunately, I didn't handle it well enough, and this home was cracked.
After running away from home, I lived alone in a rented apartment. At first, I felt very happy that I could finally live a free life and no longer be at the mercy of my father. However, when I faced the deserted room alone, my heart was still empty.
One day, my dad came to me out of the blue and brought me my favorite braised pork and my favorite toy car from my childhood.
Dad said, "Son, Dad knows it's Daddy's fault." You've grown up and have a family, and Dad shouldn't be in control of your money anymore. Dad is old, has a bad temper, and often talks angrily. Don't take it personally. Let's go home and start over. ”
Dad nodded and said, "Son, you're right. Dad is old and often treats you like a child. It's Dad who wants to change his mind and give you more freedom. Look at your mother, the person is gone, and your father is the only one left. Don't be angry, go home. ”
Looking at my father's wrinkled face and gray hair, I felt very uncomfortable. Living alone these days, I realized how empty my life was when I was estranged from my family. I don't want to just turn against my dad like that, after all, he's my only relative.
So, I decided to go back and stay with my dad for a few days. I said, "Dad, I'll go back and stay for a few days." But the question of money will have to be discussed again. I'm married, and the money is mostly for the family. You also need to understand my difficulties. ”
Dad nodded, patted me on the shoulder and said, "Good son, you're right. Let's go home, we'll discuss the money slowly. ”
I decided to go back and stay with my dad for a few days. As soon as she got home, Li Mei called **, and her tone was very anxious.
Li Mei said: "Dapeng, why did you move back to your hometown?"Before the problem between us was resolved, you went back?Don't you want me anymore?”
I said, "Meimei, didn't I see that my father was not in good health, so I would go back and take care of it for a few days." The problem between us, I will definitely find a way to solve it. You can rest assured. ”
Li Mei said: "Then you have to give me a promise, after you come back, you have to listen to me about money, no matter how unreasonable your father is, we can't listen to him, you know?"”
I hesitated for a moment and said, "Well, I understand how you feel. But my dad is my dad after all, and I can't help but give him face. Let's go back and talk about it. ”
Li Mei was very dissatisfied with my statement, so she hung up directly.
I know that I have not handled family and marital issues well enough, and my wife has been very disappointed.
A few days later, I called Li Mei ** and wanted to talk to her seriously about our problems.
I said, "Meimei, I'm sorry, I didn't think about the problem well enough during this time, and I didn't handle it well enough, so I disappointed you." I'd like to have a good chat with you, can you give me a chance?”
Li Mei said coldly: "You say, I'll listen." ”
I continued: "During this time, I cared too much about my dad's thoughts and ignored your feelings. I shouldn't have moved back to my hometown without consulting you. I figured it out, you are my other half, and we have to unite and face the problems of the outside world. I'll talk to my dad about money again, and if he doesn't understand, I'll stick to our own ideas. You say, I'm right?”
Li Mei finally softened and said, "Then when you come back, you have to fulfill your promise." I can give you a chance, but this is the last time. ”
I said excitedly, "Thank you, Meimei!".I will definitely be a better husband and make you feel happy and at ease. ”
After hanging up**, I plucked up the courage and decided to re-talk with my dad about money.
I found my dad and said solemnly, "Dad, we have to talk about money again." After careful consideration, I decided that I would only be able to give you and my niece a certain amount of living expenses every month, and I would keep the rest of the money for my own use. This is my final bottom line, and if you don't agree, we'll have to find another way. ”
My father's face was ugly, and he said, "With your little interest, you still want to dispose of your own money?"It's a joke!You unfilial son, I don't want your living expenses!”
I said firmly, "Dad, I respect your ideas, but I'm already an independent adult." I have a life of my own and my wife needs my care too. If you insist on such a demand, then we father and son may have to cut off contact. I didn't want to get to that point, but I didn't have a choice. ”
Seeing my resolute attitude, my father slowly relaxed: "Okay, son, you can give as much living expenses as you want." Dad didn't want us to break us off either. ”
I breathed a sigh of relief and said, "Dad, I respect you and hope we can get along." I will give you and my niece a certain amount of living expenses every month as agreed, and I will keep the rest for myself. Let's start over, shall we?”
Dad nodded reluctantly, and accepted my suggestion.
I finally resolved the conflict with my father, and the big rock fell to the ground. The next thing I want to do is to fulfill my promise to Li Mei and re-establish the trust between us as a couple.
Li Mei nodded and said, "Then you have to do what you say." I can give you this opportunity, but you have to prove your resolve with your actions. ”
Definitely, I won't let you down!I said excitedly.
In order to express my sincerity, I started to buy Li Mei's favorite dim sum every day after work and talk to her more. Although life is still very economical, I try to give her more love.
Slowly, Li Mei's attitude towards me softened, and our relationship was repairing day by day.
One day, Li Mei said to me: "Dapeng, our relationship is slowly getting better, but life is still so frugal, and I am not happy." Do you think we should move out of our hometown and find another place to live?”
I said, "That's a good idea!."Actually, I've been thinking about this recently. I think we can move out to reduce the conflict with my dad and live a freer life. I have also been promoted and raised during this time, and the conditions have allowed us to buy a second-hand house, what do you think?”
Li Mei said happily: "Then let's decide!."With my own little family, I will be much happier. Let's do it!”
So, we started to prepare for buying a house and moving. This decision allowed us to have a common goal and also strengthened our relationship.
Finally, on our second wedding anniversary, we moved into our own small home. I looked at Li Mei's happy smiling face, and my heart was full of joy.
That night, Li Mei said to me, "Dapeng, so many things have happened in the past year, and I am very disappointed in you. But now I see that you're really starting over, and I'm relieved. I believe that we will get better and better in the future. I love you. ”
I was also so moved that my eyes moistened, and I whispered, "Meimei, I love you too." Let's work together to build a warm and happy home. ”