Although I am divorced, I am responsible for raising a pair of children. The people around me watched me alone with my children, burdened with debts, and living in a rented provincial capital, as if life was difficult.
However, I never felt bitter because I had my two little babies by my side.
I have two children, my daughter is 8 years old and my son is 5 years old. Their dad went to jail shortly after my divorce and was sentenced to two years. In those two years, the children never saw their father, and occasionally when they saw someone else having a father, they would wonder why their father was not around.
I told them that my dad had gone to work far away and wanted to earn money. On the first day they were released from prison, their dad came to see them, and I knew they were happy when they saw him.
Although during his two years in prison, I never said a bad word about him in front of my children, although I hated him to the core. After he was released from prison, I thought he would fulfill his responsibilities as a father and pay child support on time every month, but I was still disappointed, he only gave half a year of child support, with the purpose of remarrying me.
After learning that I would not remarry him, he never gave him a penny in child support. Now the children have come to terms with their parents' divorce and know that their dad will not pay for them or pay for their school fees.
They know that their dad will only buy them a few sets of clothes, shoes, toys at most, or give them a hundred or ten dollars of pocket money. Perhaps the children's world is relatively easy to satisfy, and a few dozen yuan of pocket money is enough to buy their hearts.
In this world, I have never been sorry for anyone, but I owe it to my two children, and I can't give them a complete home and better material conditions.
Children also wonder why their grandparents live in the same neighborhood as us but not with us. I can only explain: "Because my father owes my mother a lot of money, my mother can't forgive him, and even if he lives in the same community, he won't live together." My parents live in the same neighborhood as us, and they want to be closer to the two babies. When mom is too busy, it can be more convenient to take care of you. ”
Because of being affected by my ex-husband, I can't give my children a better life. That day, my daughter came back and said, "Mom, today the science teacher asked the students if anyone had been to Beijing. I was the only one in the class who had never been to Beijing, and I didn't know what to say. ”
I could only comfort her: "When my brother is older, my mother will take you both to Beijing together." ”
My daughter is 8 years old, and she already knows how different she is from others. I know she also feels that there are some things that she can't compare to. For example, when she went to someone else's birthday party, she would think that other people's fathers were so good.
If she hadn't attended her classmate's birthday party, she wouldn't have felt like her dad cared so little about her. On her birthday, his father didn't have any gifts, and he was going to ask his grandmother to bring a cake at 12 o'clock in the morning.
I know that no matter how much I give them motherly love, I can't replace another father's love. All I can do is give them a better environment to grow up, so that they can grow up safely and happily, and support them to do what they love to do.
Every day when I send my child to kindergarten, he will say to me, "Mom, bye-bye, you should come and pick me up early." I smiled and said yes, and then watched him walk into the classroom at the door.
He would look back as he walked and say, "Mom, bye-bye." He would repeat this sentence many times until he couldn't see me, and then he would walk into the classroom with peace of mind. I think there are many kinds of feelings in the world, such as love and friendship, but no matter what kind of feelings, they can't compare with the love between mother and child.
I am willing to give everything for my children because they are my God. Although I am poor and have a difficult life, my children have brought me endless warmth and touch, and I have learned to face the difficulties of life positively.
I'm not working for my work, I'm working for them.
Although I am not financially well-off, I have never been stingy with my investment in raising children. Every semester, I spend at least 20,000 yuan on my two children, and these expenses are mainly used for their studies and interest development.
I was told that there is no need for children to participate in so many interest classes, but I think that if children want to, they can study in places like children's palaces, and these interest classes themselves are subsidized, and they only cost 30 to 40 yuan per class hour.
Therefore, I am willing to pay these fees, because the total cost of a morning for two children is more than 100 yuan. At present, the children participate in less complicated and light-hearted interest classes, which can be used as entertainment and learning at the same time.
For example, her daughter is learning vocal music, guitar, calligraphy, Chinese dance and a little host, which she particularly enjoys. Although she is only in the second grade, these interest classes do not affect her studies.
I chose the guitar because of my financial situation and the desire for her to have an instrument that she could handle. The guitar is light and easy to carry, so she can play anytime, anywhere, and it also gives her comfort when she's in a bad mood.
The son participates in basketball, martial arts, small hosts and painting interest classes. Participating in these interest classes can help children meet more friends and also have a positive impact on their character formation.
When they get older, I will gradually reduce the number of interest classes they attend, because I believe that in addition to interest, learning is the key to their foothold in this society.
I am willing to help them learn what they want to learn, within the scope of my ability. My neighbor's kids are the same age as mine, but they don't have any interest classes and watch TV at home on the weekends.
I think if they watch TV, they might as well go to a hobby class, which will give them more opportunities to learn. Also, there are some people who are richer than me, and they don't give their children any interest classes.
Maybe everyone has a different way of educating their children, but I think it's very important for children to have their own interests and hobbies. I don't want my kids to just watch TV, play on the tablet, and play games, they need to have something that interests them to do.