I saw an article on the Internet called "My son has ADHD", a mother told about her six-year-old son's mental journey of being diagnosed with ADHD and the efforts made to treat her son.
Some people can't help but ask: Can children who don't like to move also have ADHD?
With the same question, I opened the book "Smart but Can't Sit Still - A Guide to Raising Hyperactive Children", which was written by Rabi, a national intermediate psychologist and a contracted psychological counseling supervisor of One Psychology.
The author of the book combines his own more than ten years of clinical work experienceThis paper analyzes the core issues related to ADHD from three dimensions: basic cognition, family problems and academic confusion, and helps readers understand the definition of ADHD, the core principles of parenting children with ADHD, and how to deal with some common problems encountered by children at home and school, which can help parents of children with ADHD or ADHD to better understand and raise their children.
1. What is ADHD?
Before talking about this question, the author will first be active, hyperactive,The basic concepts of ADHD and ADHD have been sorted out:
First of all, hyperactivity and hyperactivity are the ways of early thinking and exploration in children, and it is through "movement" that children build models for understanding the world and understanding themselves. Therefore, in the process of children's normal development, we must accept and guide them correctly.
However, parents should pay attention to the "naughty" and "mischievous" caused by excessive pampering or lack of basic parenting constraints, because this is likely to be a manifestation of the child's lack of positive attention in the process of growth, or a low sense of self-worth, which will be detrimental to their growth if left unchecked.
Secondly, hyperactive temperament is a unique type of personality temperament. The authors believe that people with hyperactive temperament are not uncommon, both in children and ** groups.
This group of people shows the typical characteristics of being energetic and active in infancy. At the same time, they are quick to think, quick to react, outgoing, curious, have a wide range of hobbies, simple and straightforward, but they are more impatient, impulsive and sloppy, and lack patience.
Understanding and respect are important for hyperactive children who are usually able to comply with basic Xi requirements and maintain a high level of concentration in areas of interest.
Finally, ADHD (ADHD) is a type of multiple executive dysfunction that is a common psychological disorder in childhood. What is an obstacle?Simply put, everyone else can do it, but patients know what to do, but they can't.
Just like some children, they know that "you can't move around in class", "you have to concentrate on things", "you can't interrupt others", etc., but they just can't do it.
The authors tell us that the definition of ADHD should not only look at the explicit symptoms of "hyperactivity", but also focus on the two aspects of "attention disorder" and "hyperactivity and impulsivity", and the diagnosis can be made if one of them is satisfied.
This means that a large number of "hyperactive" children are not necessarily accompanied by attention deficit problems. However, the current clinical assessment of "hyperactivity and impulsivity" depends more on the degree of "quantity" described by parents than on the "qualitative" level. Therefore, a clear understanding of the medical scale and standard of "quantity" can help parents make judgments about the problems their children are facing and their severity.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5) lists diagnostic criteria for children with hyperactivity-impulsivity and attentional disorders, each of which is described in detail by the authors. Parents can compare their children's performance with the standards and make preliminary judgments, but they must not forget that the child's "uncontrollable" and "uncontrollable" are the core of our attention.
2. Children who are not active may also have "ADHD".
In the article "My Son Has ADHD", when the mother recalled the various manifestations of her son before he was diagnosed with ADHD, she wrote: During the ten-month physical examination, he couldn't grasp bright colored small objects with his small hands;At the age of three, when he performed in kindergarten, he didn't know anything;In sports, he has always learned to shoot a ball and skip ropeWhat's more, his language ability development is relatively slow, and he can speak ...... at the age of three
Originally, my mother thought that boys were like this, and it would be good when they grew up, but when the teacher reported that the child always did not listen carefully in class, and wrote and painted by himself, when he found that the child could not learn pinyin, he decided to take the child to the hospital.
The result is that the child has attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), what is going on?The child is obviously not very active, and even a little dull, how can it be ADHD?
It turns out that the problems of the two types of children, "hyperactivity-impulsivity" and "attention disorder", are caused by the same brain dysfunction, but some children's problems are manifested through "hyperactivity", and the other part of the children's problems are manifested through "avoidance".
Because of this, there are problems that "avoid" children, often misunderstood as "slow response", "heavy heart" or suffering from some kind of "learning Xi disorder", and when they really find **, they often miss the best ** period.
Therefore, the author reminds us that there are more children with "attention disorder" than "hyperactivity and impulsivity", but because the causes are complex and different, if the child has this problem, parents must go to a special medical institution for diagnosis.
3. Causes of ADHD and what parents should do.
Regarding the reasons for the appearance of ADHD, the author mentions three theories:
One is the hereditary temperament theory, which is a personality trait that is born without relying on the nurturing environment.
For professional reasons, the author prefers this view. Since the problem is innate, is it possible to inherit it?Studies have shown that the disorder is highly correlated with genetic factors, with a heritability of 75 91%, that is, more than 75% of genetic symptoms are caused by heredity, but the gene is not dominantly inherited.
Therefore, the authors believe that, in addition to genetic factors, parenting patterns are another important factor that causes "problems" and "symptoms".
One is neurological dysfunction, and studies have shown that children with ADHD have serious difficulties in sifting through information, and they are unable to judge the importance of information around them, which will make them always affected by other information, so that they cannot concentrate, let alone concentrate on things.
One is the extrinsically induced theory, which has the lowest proportion of the three theories, but it has to be admitted that there is such a risk, because studies have shown that mothers who smoke more than 10 cigarettes a day will increase the risk of ADHD in their children25 times, in addition to this, lead poisoning and some emergencies can also cause ADHD in children.
What should parents do in the face of "hyperactive" children?
The author believes that letting go of prejudice is a prerequisite for healthy parenting, acceptance is an important part of modern education, and when we have to deliberately change for the growth of our children, our personality and family atmosphere will also change.
This means that to love a child is to accept everything about him, to give him the right to be himself, and our duty is not to judge them, but to encourage and support them to find their own value.
As psychologist Dr. Sabari said, a useful way to educate is to respect the uniqueness of the individual, including the various qualities in each person, rather than making people feel that they are flawed if they do not meet some artificial standards.
As parents, we can't control our children, we can't make them what we want them to be, but we can create the conditions for them to grow.
I like a passage in "Psychological Parenting": What parents give their children, children give to others, and what kind of person parents want their children to be in the future should be treated in what way.
Children who are smart but can't sit still need more patience and attention from their parents, and they need their parents to learn more parenting skills Xi read this book when they don't know what to do.
Not only will it ease your anxiety, but it will also show you some practical parenting strategies that work.