Xu Lei has been looking forward to his wedding for a long time, and he has long fantasized about holding a grand and romantic wedding for his bride Zhou Qianwen, holding her hand at the wedding and toasting the guests' wine. Speaking of Zhou Qianwen, Xu Lei couldn't close her mouth happily, she is a primary school teacher, beautiful, gentle and cheerful, anyway, Xu Lei feels that all the beautiful words are not too much for her.
He still remembers the first time he saw Zhou Qianwen, she was wearing a white dress, she looked taller and taller, and her simple makeup made her energetic and particularly eye-catching. Of course, his own conditions are not bad, sunny and cheerful, 1.85 meters tall, plus he likes fitness, so his figure is very tall. The two of them glanced at each other in the crowd, and they had different feelings.
With the matchmaking of friends, he came to Zhou Qianwen's *** and launched a crazy pursuit of her. Xu Lei attaches great importance to the sense of ceremony, so every time he goes on a date, he brings flowers and gifts, bags, necklaces, snacks, and makes a generous move, changing tricks to make Zhou Qianwen happy.
Zhou Qianwen's heart was quickly captured by Xu Lei, and she decided that Xu Lei was the person she could entrust for life, so she agreed to date him. The relationship between the two continued to heat up, and Zhou Qianwen completely handed over her whole mind and body to Xu Kai, and Xu Kai also swore that she would not marry in this life. Soon, the two met their parents and began to discuss marriage. When everything is ready, it's time to get married.
But the day before receiving the certificate, an accident struck. On Zhou Qianwen's way off work, Xu Lei gave her a ** and agreed to get the certificate the next day, Zhou Qianwen was distracted, accidentally had a serious traffic accident, and was sent to the hospital by 120 for rescue. Xu Lei hurried to the hospital, and when he saw Zhou Qianwen's bleeding face, he howled and cried, and took the initiative to pay 320,000 yuan of medical expenses, fortunately, because of the timely rescue, Zhou Qianwen was quickly out of danger, but unfortunately, because the impact was very tragic, her legs were seriously damaged, she was disabled for life, and she had to be served for the rest of her life.
At that time, his heart shook violently, he was disabled for life, and he couldn't accept it for a lifetime. After that, he would still come to the hospital to visit Zhou Qianwen, but the number of times he came became less and less, the time he stayed was getting shorter and shorter, his words became more and more cold, and there was no longer the previous tenderness in his eyes. Zhou Qianwen sensed that something was wrong, but in addition to washing her face with tears, she tried her best to comfort herself.
Sure enough, the woman's intuition was very accurate, and more than a month after she was discharged from the hospital, Xu Lei said that he couldn't accept her current appearance and proposed to withdraw from the marriage. In addition, her family was also asked to return the bride price of 180,000 yuan, gold jewelry and 320,000 hospitalization fees. But Xu Lei said that the bride price and the three golds are all preparations for marriage, and now that the marriage is not completed, the bride price and jewelry must of course be returned. Zhou Qianwen's parents felt that Xu Lei was too impersonal and refused to return it. Xu Lei was angry and sued his former lover and his parents in court.
Grandma Liao's point of view:
1.Xu Lei is a boyfriend who loves Zhou Qianwen very much, he was very attentive and considerate to her during the relationship, paid a lot of love, and even paid a large amount of medical expenses. However, Zhou Qianwen's traffic accident caused her to have both legs disabled, which was indeed a huge shock and change for Xu Lei.
He may not be able to accept the reality of having to endure extra care and burdens for the rest of his life. Withdrawing from the marriage and asking for the return of the bride price and jewellery can be understood as an inability to accept and seek relief from this predicament.
2.Xu Lei showed his deep love for Zhou Qianwen during the relationship, and they have also met the parents of both sides to discuss marriage, which means that they already have a certain marriage commitment and responsibility. Although Zhou Qianwen's accident has brought great changes to the future of the two, Xu Lei, as a person who truly loves her, should take on the responsibility of facing difficulties and burdens together. The divorce and the demand for the return of the bride price and jewelry show his lack of sense of responsibility and the authenticity of his love for Zhou Qianwen.
He should spend the difficulties with Zhou Qianwen instead of choosing to escape and blame. Resolving these matters by taking them to court further exposes his immaturity and selfishness in marriage and partnership.
Aunt Qu's point of view:
1.Xu Lei was very good to Zhou Qianwen during the relationship, and spent a lot of money and energy to take care of her. But Zhou Qianwen's accidental traffic accident caused her to have both legs disabled, which was indeed a huge blow to Xu Lei. As a young man, it is understandable that his mood and attitude have changed in the face of the additional burdens and difficulties of the rest of his life. Although it may seem selfish to withdraw from the marriage and demand for the return of the bride price and jewelry, from his point of view, it is because he cannot accept the choice he made in this predicament.
2.Xu Lei's love and concern for Zhou Qianwen during their relationship was fully revealed, and her unexpected disability of her legs undoubtedly brought great changes to their future. However, as a man who truly loves her, Xu Lei should face this dilemma more maturely and responsibly. Withdrawing from the marriage and demanding a refund of the bride price, jewelry, and hospitalization fees not only lacked empathy, but also exposed his immaturity in marriage and partnership, and even cast doubt on the authenticity of Zhou Qianwen's love.
He should be more considerate and supportive of Zhou Qianwen and go through this difficult moment with her, instead of choosing to escape and be selfish. Taking a case to court will only add more complexity and pain to the relationship and problems between the two.
In court, as a young lawyer, I listened to the statements of Xu Lei and Zhou Qianwen, reviewed the relevant evidence, and put forward my legal opinion.
1.On the issue of the return of bride price and gold jewelry: According to Article 99 of the Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China, when the marriage relationship is terminated, the donated property shall be returned. Since the termination of the marriage was Xu Lei's application for divorce, he should voluntarily return the bride price and gold jewelry to Zhou Qianwen's family. This is in accordance with the law to ensure the equality and justice of property rights and interests after the dissolution of the marriage relationship.
2.On the issue of recovery of hospitalization expenses: According to the relevant provisions of the Contract Law of the People's Republic of China, if a dispute arises between the parties due to the conclusion or performance of a contract, they may request an arbitration institution or a people's court to handle it. Zhou Qianwen paid the hospitalization expenses in advance after Xu Lei was injured, which is an expense and should be returned by Xu Lei. Therefore, I suggest that the court order Xu Lei to return Zhou Qianwen's hospitalization expenses.
To sum up, I advocate that the court order Xu Lei to return the bride price and gold jewelry, and return the hospitalization expenses paid by Zhou Qianwen in advance, so as to maintain fairness and justice. Although Xu Lei is facing the practical dilemma of his fiancée's lifelong disability, as a man, he should take responsibility and live up to the promise he made to Zhou Qianwen. Only in this way can our society be more egalitarian and warm.