Seeing this sentence, the first feeling is very counterintuitive, our traditional education model, from an early age, tells us: perseverance is a very good quality, so why do you not need "perseverance" at all?
1. Not only does it not require "perseverance", but even "persistence" and "hard work" are concepts that should not exist.
If we don't have internal motivation, don't figure out why we should persevere, don't give this thing an important meaning, and just rely on simple willpower to cheer ourselves up, it is often difficult to persevere, because willpower will slowly decay.
Psychologists once did a "radish experiment", in the case of hunger, the participants were divided into three groups, the first group of people put carrots and fragrant chocolate biscuits on the table in front of them, and ate them at will, and the second group put the same thing, but stipulated that they could only eat carrots, not touch cookies. The third group, without putting any food, simply waits.
After a period of time, the three groups were asked to complete an extremely difficult puzzle task, and as a result, the first and third groups persevered for more than 20 minutes before giving up, while the second group only lasted 8 minutes before giving up.
This experiment tells us that when people need to use willpower to resist **, willpower will be quickly consumed, and it will be difficult to persist in completing the next task.
2. So how should we cultivate our internal drive and execution to continue to do a good job?
Some people often give up halfway, and also put the responsibility on their own character, saying that I am three minutes of enthusiasm, I am just a quick temper, alas, character determines fate, there is no way!
Is that really the case?Character determines fate, but what determines character?
Character is ultimately determined by knowledge.
We do not deny that personality is influenced by innate factors, but acquired Xi cultivation and deliberate practice Xi more important. Our values and worldview are slowly formed after birth, through continuous learning and Xi and environmental influences, and these values and worldviews determine our behavior.
My second uncle's son, born with a short temper, after experiencing the beating of life, he understood that tantrums are not good for dealing with problems, he knows that he wants to improve himself through learning Xi, and he also knows that if he wants to achieve a career in the future, he must control his emotions, so he has developed a set of methods for himself to overcome emotional impulses, and when he encounters emotional impulses, he opens the "pop-up" mode and asks himself three questions: Can tantrums help solve problems?Is it really necessary for me to waste my attention on tantrums?Is there anything more important to do at the same time?When he continued to practice according to this method, Xi overcoming impulses slowly became an instinct, and there was no need to spend a lot of "perseverance" to overcome, and he never lost his temper again, and people who knew him said that his personality had changed, like a different person.
3. In fact, it is not only these problems on the surface that have changed him, but through a lot of learning Xi in the early stage, as well as repeated practice in work and life, he has changed his values, he knows the value of attention, time and money, and knows that attention time and money. When controlling emotional impulses, it is not controlled by willpower, but in the heart of this method is given a very great significance, knowing that this is helpful for personal growth, attention is their most valuable wealth, put limited attention on the most important things, only do the right and important things, I am alive"In the future", if you can't bear it, you will make a big plan. When I think about it in this way, my mind will be broad-minded, and the benefits brought to me by changing my personality will form a positive feedback, so that I can see the benefits of continuous learning and Xi, and make myself more willing to practice and continue to do the right and important things.