In the workplace, I believe that many people have suffered a lot because they can't speak and are stupid, and some people don't know how to speak, and some people know how to say it in their hearts, but they don't know how to say it when the words come to their mouths, so it's like many opportunities are lost because they are stupid. So if you think you're stupid, then you have to remember these few speaking skills, so that you don't let the opportunity slip away from you.
1.Descriptive Method
Descriptive is to express the scenes, things, objects, and people you see in descriptive language.
It is arguably the most effective way to practice. Because there are no ready-made speeches, essays, poems, etc., you are required to organize the language and describe it yourself.
Therefore, the main purpose of descriptive training is to train your language organization skills and linguistic coherence. When descripting, it is necessary to grasp the characteristics to describe. The language should be clear and clear, as vivid and lively as possible.
2.Since ancient times, praise everyone loves
Everyone, whether honest or despicable, has a certain thing in common, that is, they like to be praised by others. Therefore, in many cases, complimenting others is a way to gain favor.
3.Don't talk too much, beware of being a villain
When people complain or gossip, they are often more emotional, so they say some extreme things. In this process, if you talk too much, it is easy to offend people, which is obviously a thing that does not outweigh the losses.
4."Funny" can make strangers remember you
If the other party is cheerful in the middle of the conversation, then you can introduce a "nickname" on a certain aspect of the topic, such as humorously saying "Since you like reading and cooking, then call you a little expert in private in the future, I can call me an entertainment channel with a crisp voice", if the other party is beautiful or his own appearance is okay, then he can also humorously say "call me Xiao Chow Yun-fat, call you Xiao Lin Chiling" and so on, anyway, the main purpose is to let others remember you effectively.
Back to reality, if you feel that your emotional intelligence is low and you can't speak, life is distressing. Then you must read a good book about emotional intelligence, speech skills, they are your mentor and friend to solve problems. High emotional intelligence does not need to be innate, it only needs to be learned, and it can be done.
These three books are called "The Three Uniques of Eloquence", "The Three Meetings of Being a Person", and "The Three No's of Cultivating the Heart". They use some real-life stories to illustrate chat skills, life wisdom and communication.
The Three Uniques of Eloquence", let you learn to praise, learn to be humorous, learn to refuse, it is not difficult to say good things, but it is not easy to master the skills, this book can help you slowly learn the skills of speaking.
"Three Ways to Be a Person" can make you speak, do things, and be a person, so that you can be comfortable in work and life, and be a person that everyone will like and admire.
The Three No's of Mind Cultivation allows you to learn not to get angry, not to care, and not to complain. To be a person and do things, you must first correct your own mentality, and this book can help you learn to cultivate your mind and improve your self-cultivation.
If you also have an urgent need to improve and optimize your communication skills. This book can teach you how to build good relationships, how to fit into the circle of friends easily, how to get friendships, love, and many more job opportunities, and how to get promotions and raises. Hurry up and have it, maybe your life will change a lot!
But for a cup of coffee, you can learn the art of language and become a person with high emotional intelligence, so why not do it?