Hello everyone, I am Zifeng, a psychological counselor, and I will continue to share with you the case of students today, this time it is a case of online chat and single, and I have shared the case of picking up and getting single, blind date, and making friends, you can refer to:
Accosting off singles: After the girl was accosted, she fell in love, and the psychological changes in the whole process were shared!Blind date off single: from acquaintance to chatting and getting along, to determining the love relationship, to the whole process of marriage record!Dating and getting off the list: chat community, the record of the teacher's chat, and finally the other party's ambiguous confession!It's still the old rule, I'm lazy, let's look directly at the student's own description: Hello everyone, I'm a 1-to-1 old student Haifeng, here is a wonderful story that happened on the dating software. Because I'm in a state where I'm in a state where I'm numb to see everything, I happened to meet a girl who just broke up and had a big window, so I made rapid progress by mistake and stayed together.
Teacher Zifeng commented: The commonly used dating software has changed several times, and the previously popular Momo Tantan is not so easy to use, but the routine of chatting and dating has not changed muchThings have to start from 20 days ago.,I'm brushing a dating software that claims to be a "highly educated person" as usual.,Because most of the girls on it are beautiful + all kinds of dresses.,It's a little insensitive.,So I clicked on the little red heart in turn.。 I still remember that it was a weekend, I was climbing a mountain outdoors, and when I was waiting to get in the car, I suddenly received a notification that the match was successful. At that time, I happened to share some interesting insights in the outdoor wilderness. In the next few days, I just simply chatted along the keywords, and at that time I just thought that this girl was talking a lot, and I thought that it was not a thing to chat with my mobile phone for a long time, so on Tuesday, two days later, I invited the other party to go to a rather antique temple on the weekend. In fact, according to my Xi, Wednesday about Friday, Thursday about the weekend, make an appointment early and worry about too many variables, but seeing that the other party has been very positive, it doesn't matter.
Teacher Zifeng commented: Everyone who plays dating software can also be screened like this, and then the specific chat skills and invitation skills are clichés, so I won't expand them hereOn the weekend, as usual, I was waiting for each other in the car, she may have been delayed by something, and before I could use the classic "you're late, then don't invite me to drink xxx" routine, the girl happily offered to invite me to coffee. After the meeting, the usual greetings, small talks, and topics revolved around the rather spectacular temple scene...The tour is finished at about 4 o'clock. According to my plan, I just happened to go to a nearby park or riverside and send the other person back. But I didn't think it was interesting, I thought about doing something special while I had more time, and I learned that the other party lived far away, so I said to the girl: "Let's just drive along the direction of your house, last time I happened to pass by you and found that the sunset was very beautiful, let's go to the suburbs to see the sunset." The girl readily agreed, and drove all the way to the far suburbs to see the scenery of the barren grass, and the sky was getting dark. Thinking that she was sitting in my car alone at night, she didn't give any opinions, so I turned around a few more times. In the end, after eating, the girl had to wait for me to get in the car and walk away before leaving, and I felt that the other party was really polite.
Teacher Zifeng commented: In a short-term relationship, whether to hold hands or do more on the first date, depending on the specific situation, if you want to be cautious, then the first date, the other party does not have an obvious intention to keep someone, just point to the end. There are many transitions here, and they are very familiar with each other, and they all have a sense of security and attraction, then the first step is completed.In the new week, the other party's chat is also all kinds of positive, and it is Tuesday again, and I feel a little unreasonable not to be invited. Since I had a relatively conventional idea at the beginning, thinking that I wouldn't be able to go to any special place after work on weekdays, I proposed to wait for the girl to go to a coffee shop near her home after work on Thursday, and the girl readily agreed again. On Thursday of the new week, I thought to myself, since it was evening and the other party responded better, why not go for a drink instead?And the tavern at night has ** and the light is dark, which is also suitable for moving. (The first time we met, it was safe and there was no physical contact), and after thinking about it, I decided to take a risk.
Teacher Zifeng commented: There are flowers that can be folded straight and must be folded, don't wait for no flowers to break the branchesWhen we met, the girl saw that I didn't drive, and half-jokingly said to me, "This is to take me to the tavern?"When I saw that it was exposed, I replied: "Yes, are you afraid?"After a bit of joking, I took a taxi. When I was ordering, it happened that there was a cocktail with cream and coffee syrup, and the name was "Curry", which happened to shake a clever stalk with this homophonic stalk. I don't go to many such occasions, so I simply open my mobile phone in front of the other party and learn all kinds of dice games. Coupled with the dynamic ** of the scene, it can be regarded as having a lot of fun, taking advantage of the convenience of sitting side by side, looking for an opportunity to boldly put her head up to kiss, and the girl symbolically blocked it, which is considered a success, and the back is also very happy. When I was separated, I was thinking of taking a taxi to the door of my sister's house and turning back, but the other party might be drunk and didn't want me to go, I just hugged her, saying that it was cold outside and hurry back.
Teacher Zifeng commented: Girls obviously want to keep people (girls are likely to be drunk), but Haifeng does practice more time to hold hands and hug in this short-term relationship, but there are few links to private space. Of course, to a certain extent, because the sea breeze has been too fast in the past and there have been accidents, so it is more cautious.After Thursday's drinking session, I obviously felt that the other party's feelings for me were a little warmer, so we agreed to climb the mountain together on Sunday. Specifically, I drove to her house, and then we all went over together. Just after noon, after we had dinner in front of her house, I was thinking about finding a bathroom, and I looked left and right for a while, just as she said, "You wait for me, I'll go home and go to the bathroom", and after expressing that I also want to go, she said, "Okay, let's go together." I don't know if this is intentional or unintentional, thinking that since it is broad daylight, I will understand it according to the surface meaning, so I followed upstairs together. When I came in, the room was still quite tidy, but there were things piled up on the chairs, so I had to stand. She said, "It's okay, you can sit on the bed" and I felt at that time that I didn't treat me as an outsider.
Teacher Zifeng commented: It's obvious that it's ambiguous, lonely men and widows enter the private space, everyone knows, and a little bit of girls take the initiative to give the opportunity to enter the private space, but when they are attracted to each other, whoever flirts with them can beThe climb is a little bit of the mountain, probably in late autumn, and you can explore all corners of the city with the last bit of warm sunshine. In the evening, the girl still didn't want to go back, so I took her to a small park by the river nearby, and the wind was a little cold at night, so we curled up on the wooden chairs by the river. In this situation, I half-jokingly said, "You see it's so cold outside, but we've all been to so many places, it seems a bit redundant to take you to a café to sit again." Roughly speaking, we haven't just met now, and it's not enough to go to a café to chat with each other like we just met, but there's really nothing to do at the moment, it's a bit too boring.
Teacher Zifeng commented: This should be the kind of temptation in the chat, everyone can learn the words here, from shallow to deep, and gradually expand the scale to try. The other party accepted the small scale, and if the scale was increased a little more, it would continue to increase. The advantage of this is that even if you do something wrong one step forward, it is easy to take a step back.The girl responded: "Then what did you do when you dated your ex-girlfriend before" I replied angrily: "It's not just eating, playing, some common, and then other uncommon, do you dare, haha" The girl replied: "How do you know I don't dare" At that time, I was shocked, and I didn't hear clearly what the other party said about going home or something. I remember that there seemed to be a serious conversation about sexual things later, and she seemed to discuss it with me quite seriously. I thought that this girl was quite bold.
Teacher Zifeng commented: The results of the trial were accepted by the girls, and they were still accepted after enlarging the scaleI half-jokingly and tentatively said, "Don't be like this, why am I suddenly a little scared" and I can't remember what she replied. Including some of the details before going upstairs, this girl looks like she knows it, and she feels that the other party understands it quite well.
Teacher Zifeng commented: High-end hunters often appear in the form of prey, a little bit of this taste, hahaha, because there is no discussion here whether it is a nominal relationship, but the development of physical contact in the front. As for whether the relationship will be confirmed after staying for one night, it is still two to say.What should have happened happened later. I feel that in the process of getting along with this girl, I am only half sincere and committed at most, and the remaining half is completely indifferent and natural as the other party. In the past, I definitely wouldn't be on a date and say that I'm so bored now, and I would seriously check how to play the dice game before drinking, for fear of exposing the low value of not being able to play in front of girls. I've been through a lot of things now, and I've learned to say whatever I want to say, and I don't procrastinate when I want to leave on a date. There is a way that is three points of truth, six points of heart, half sober and half drunk. Presumably the same is true for the other party.
Teacher Zifeng commented: Objectively speaking, girls here like short-term relationships, of course, with Haifeng's character, they should also accept short-term relationships, and they won't go up, after all, they are old students. Whether the long-term relationship will be turned in the future also depends on fate. I encountered more situations before.,After the male student was asleep.,It's on the head.,Like the girl wholeheartedly.,You have to determine the relationship with the girl.,To turn to a long-term relationship.,But when you meet this kind of girl who likes a short-term relationship.,Instead, it will be rejected.。。。 And the more active, the more rejected ... Some female students are similar, in order to flirt with each other, so when the relationship has not yet been determined, they will have a relationship first, and then want to move on to a long-term relationship, and they will also encounter obstacles. The topic of short-term relationships turning into long-term relationships will not be expanded here.The process of getting rid of singles is still the same: knowing (dating software) chatting Invitation Dating (ambiguous relationship) Determining the relationship (only physical contact here, not clarifying the relationship) Short-term relationship Long-term relationship I am a psychological counselor Zifeng, who has 10 years of experience in emotional and psychological counseling and training. If you want to teach yourself the skills of charm enhancement and love off singles, you can watch this: "Attracting True Love + Getting Off Singles Skills" Summary January 24.
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