Getting married is a great joy in life for every couple.
But for the woman's parents, in addition to joy, there may be some worries and considerations: should we help our daughter when she gets married?
Today, as an expert in marriage and love emotional counseling, I will talk about this topic.
1. Helping is not an obligation, but it is emotionally difficult to give up
First of all, we have to be clear: the woman's parents have no legal obligation to help their daughter after she gets married. After all, the daughter has already started a family and started a new life of her own.
However, emotionally speaking, it is difficult for parents to give up their love and concern for their children. After their daughters get married, many parents still can't help but want to give them some help in life and finances. This kind of help is more out of a kind of love and concern for children.
Second, moderate help is conducive to the start of her daughter's new life
Life after marriage is a brand new beginning for the newlyweds. They may have to face a variety of unknown challenges and difficulties.
At this time, if the woman's parents can give some help and support, it will undoubtedly make the daughter's new life smoother.
For example, a certain amount of financial support and life experience will be given a certain amount of guidance. All these can help daughters better adapt to married life and manage family relationships.
Third, excessive support may be counterproductive
However, there is a degree to everything. If the woman's parents help their daughter too much, it may backfire.
On the one hand, this may make the daughter dependent and lack the ability to face life independentlyOn the other hand, it may also trigger dissatisfaction and conflict between the son-in-law and the in-laws.
After all, in a family, each member should take on their own responsibilities and obligations. If parents interfere too much in their daughter's life, it may upset this balance and harmony.
Fourth, the way of helping should be appropriate
In addition to paying attention to the degree of support, the woman's parents should also pay attention to the way of supporting. The best way to do this is to support and help your daughter in an equal and respectful manner.
For example, you can discuss family plans with your daughter and provide some constructive opinions and suggestions. Instead of interfering in her daughter's life in a commanding or accusatory way.
In this way, the daughter can feel the love and support of her parents, and at the same time, she can maintain her independence and self-esteem.
Fifth, in the end, it depends on the daughter herself
Last but not least, no matter how much the woman's parents help and support her, the daughter's life and marriage;In the end, it is up to the daughter herself to manage and maintain the relationship;After all, marriage is a common thing for two people, and it requires the joint efforts and dedication of both parties to maintain.
So as parents, we can give love and support, but we must also learn to let go and let our daughter face the challenges and difficulties of life on her own, so that she can truly grow into an independent, confident and responsible person!