Every couple will have more or less quarrels, but you know what?The manner and extent of the argument can have a profound impact on your relationship, even affecting innocent children. Today, we're going to dive into this topic and give you some helpful advice.
Quarrels between husband and wife often originate from trivial matters, but if they are not handled properly, they can escalate into a "world war" in an instant. When we quarrel, we often forget our reason and stab each other with sharp words. However,"Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June. ”We must always remind ourselves not to let impulsive emotions tear down the castle of love that we have worked so hard to build.
Shakespeare once wrote in Romeo and Juliet:"The tongue has no bones, but it pierces the hardest heart. ”This is undoubtedly a warning to us when we quarrel. When we attack the other person with vicious language, the damage can be deeper than the physical one. Because, those hurtful words may leave a permanent scar in the other person's heart.
Moreover, there is an old saying: "Home and everything prospers." "A harmonious family environment is essential for a child's development. If there are frequent and intense arguments between couples, the child may feel upset and even develop emotional problems such as fear and anxiety. Therefore, for the sake of children, we also need to learn to deal with conflicts between husband and wife rationally and harmoniously.
First of all, when an argument happens, we have to learn to calm down. Impulsiveness is the devil, and only by calming down can you think rationally. Try to think from the other person's point of view, be more understanding and tolerant. Remember,"Love is tolerance, and tolerance is love. ”Second, choose the right time and place for in-depth communication. Understand each other's thoughts and feelings, and work together to find solutions to problems. After all, "communication is the bridge of the heart".
Also, try to avoid arguing in front of your child. Because children's hearts are fragile, what they need is love and security. If couples quarrel frequently or even do things in front of their children, it can make them feel frightened and helpless. Living in such an environment for a long time may cause the child's personality to become withdrawn, sensitive, and even violent. Therefore,"For the sake of the children, let's stop arguing".is a motto that every couple should remember.
Finally, if we can't avoid a fight, then at least we should learn to apologize and forgive. Apologizing does not mean that we are wrong, but that we value each other's feelings and are willing to let go of our stubbornness for the sake of this relationship. Forgiveness, on the other hand, is a greater love, a willingness to tolerate the other person's mistakes and a willingness to start over. Remember,"There is no one right or wrong in love, only who cherishes whom more. ”
Dear readers, have you ever been troubled by a quarrel between husband and wife?How do you deal with conflicts between husband and wife?What do you think we can do to protect our children from harm when we are fighting?Feel free to share your experiences and views in the comment section. Let's work together to learn to better handle quarrels between couples for the sake of our love and the happiness of our children. Newbie Mentoring Program