There was a desire to experience a passionate love that would make life more fulfilling so that you could have good memories when you grew old.
We also longed to be pursued madly by boys, shrouded in romance, listened to boys' affectionate confessions, and then agreed affectionately. However, the reality is not so, there are not so many passions, there are not so many young frivolities, only ordinary emotions remain, but they exude strong true feelings in the ordinary.
Sometimes, I think deeply about the relationship between the two and ask myself, "Shouldn't it be like glue when you first fall in love?"Does he love me or not?Always not taking the initiative, can such a relationship last?"It's true that if a guy doesn't take the initiative all the time, it can make the girl feel anxious and irritable. In the long run, girls will doubt each other's feelings, lose the initiative in love, appear passive, and the other party will also have a sense of disgust.
There are various reasons why boys don't take the initiative, some don't take the initiative because they don't like it, some don't take the initiative because they like it but are afraid of being rejected, and some are more indifferent, faintly liked, don't force it, everything is casual, so they don't take the initiative.
In fact, to master the dominant power in love, there is only one skill, that is, to take the initiative and guide skillfully.
1: Take the initiative.
Many misses are due to a lack of courage and dare not take the initiative, maybe you are brave enough to express your heart, and there can be a moving story between the two. If you have a guy who makes you happy, and you know through your friends that he also likes you, but he doesn't take the initiative, you can take the initiative to take the first step. If you're not sure if the guy you like also likes you, you can also take the initiative to pursue it, and then you need some dating skills to improve your success rate.
2: Avoid strong control.
In the relationship between men and women, both parties have a good impression of each other, but the boy is not very active, and the girl needs to be proportionate in the initiative and avoid being too strong. Many girls are too active in love, showing traits such as being strong, manipulative, and possessive, which will make men feel uncomfortable and even retreat.
Therefore, don't reach out to him anytime and anywhere, don't ask for the other person's company every day, and don't try to manipulate him to completely obey your arrangement. Love is often a trickle, not a momentary stick.
Remember, after taking the initiative, you have to be in control, and in a good relationship, the guy is only allowed to be manipulated in certain aspects of his life, not too proactive, and master all the control over him.
3: Do something proactive that seems reactive.
Simone Beauvoir once said, "I would love to see you, but remember, I won't ask for a meeting." It's not because of pride, you know I'm not proud in front of you, but because our meeting is only meaningful when you want to see me. ”
Therefore, we need to guide skillfully and do something that seems to be passive and proactive. In daily life, observe carefully, find out the other person's interests, and then use this as a starting point to communicate with him, or establish common interests, so that he will be willing to communicate with you. For example, if you find that he likes to exercise, you can propose to exercise together, tell him to remind you when he works out, and he will take the initiative to invite you to exercise with him in the future. You can also show your gentle side and give him a chance to show his masculine side so that he will be more willing to take the initiative to take care of you.
In love, you take the initiative to ignite the spark of love, and then give him the torch and work together, so that the relationship between the two can be balanced, and he will be willing to move forward with you. It is important to find a balance in the relationship, otherwise the party who always takes the initiative or pays more is like a generator that works alone, bearing the operation of the entire relationship, and will feel very tired.
Therefore, after taking the initiative, find the guiding beacon in love, guide the other party correctly, grasp the dominance in the relationship, and with the joint efforts of both parties, the relationship can develop well.