Two days ago, I saw such a **:
The mother accompanied her daughter to make a cake together, during which she taught her daughter how to beat eggs, but the child's hands were too small and a little nervous, and the eggs hit the table, and when the child looked at the mother in fear, the mother said something like this:It's okay, my dear, it's just a small mistake, let's try again, you can definitely do. 
This heartwarming sentence instantly made the child's aggrieved face smile, and then hit the second egg and succeeded. Goethe said: The relationship between error and truth is like the relationship between sleep and wakefulness. When a person wakes up from his mistakes, he will move towards the truth with renewed strength. 
In everyone's growth path, it is inevitable to make mistakes, everyone will make mistakes, and the difference is different attitudes and practices in the face of mistakes. In the growth of children, the influence of parents is very important, and in the face of children's mistakes, parents' different practices will affect children's lives. What is the first thing your child says when he makes a mistake?What is your first word when a child makes a mistake?Is it patient guidance, or is it beating and scolding?Some time ago, a news of a bear child dancing awkwardly and tearing over the jade counter exploded all over the Internet. The bear child was dancing in front of the counter of the jade shop, and accidentally tore over the jade counter, and in an instant, the jade on the counter spilled to the ground, and the child also fell to the ground. After the news rushed to the hot search, netizens also commented on Weibo, saying that the bear child was too naughty, and the embarrassing dance made the parents' wallets lose more than 100,000 at once, and they were not angry if they didn't beat them hard. Subsequently, Litchi News also launched a vote on Weibo:If it were you, would you blame the child?There are more than 20,000 users who choose Yes , and 150,000 users choose to beat it up first, and only more than 3,000 users choose not to. For children, making mistakes is an integral part of growing up. A good education is all in the first words that parents and children say when a child makes a mistake. 
If parents regard their child's mistakes as trouble, and after their children make mistakes, the first thing they say is to scold them, and they lose their temper at him, then the mistake can only be a mistake. But if parents can guide their children correctly when they make mistakes, then the mistakes are an opportunity for the child to learn and Xi and grow. Which way the child is going depends on the first words the parent bends down and says to the child. After a child makes a mistake, the attitude of the parents determines the height of the childA few days ago, a 3-year-old boy was persuaded to quit the kindergarten wall by breaking the news. The cause was a 3-year-old boy, Chenchen, who had damaged the plastering layer on the walls of the kindergarten, and the kindergarten contacted Chenchen's father, Mr. Gu. Mr. Gu felt that it was normal for children to be naughty, and it was not a big deal to break the wall, so he transferred 300 yuan to the teacher as compensation. The person in charge of the kindergarten said that there is no need for financial compensation, and hopes that parents can work with their children to brush the damaged plastering layer. In the end, the two sides collapsed, and the kindergarten returned 300 yuan and made a decision to dissuade them. Children are still young and do not have the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, so they need guidance and discipline from their parents. However, if parents also reverse right and wrong, and condone and protect their children without a bottom line, this will unknowingly ruin their children's future. Psychologist Li Meijin once said: **'s criminal behavior, go back to his childhood, you can find the reason. Children's problems are caused by adults.
When the child really does something wrong, the parents blindly defend and justify, on the surface, they can save the child from punishment and protect their self-esteem, but slowly you will find that this is the most cruel education for the child. 
In Xianyang, Shaanxi, the elevator in a community malfunctioned, and the security guard retrieved the monitoring and found that a bear child had peed in the elevator. After the child's parents found out, they went into the community group to publicly apologize to the owner, posted the child's review book, and let the child clean the elevator room for a month. The educationalist Fromm once said:
Parents are the ones who educate their children and show them the way to the world. In fact, children are born with a blank sheet of paper, what kind of education parents give, what kind of concept of right and wrong, right and wrong, what kind of life will be drawn by the child. When a child makes a mistake, what should he say and do?When a child makes a mistake, rushing to blame or punish does not make him really remember it for a long time, and the only message he receives may be not to let parents find out that they have made mistakes . The hardest part of disciplining a child is never in managing, but in teaching, so when a child makes a mistake, you can do this:1. Ask what's going onThis question may seem insignificant, but it is very important. When encountering unexpected situations, many ** will Xi the inertia to judge too quickly:You have to hit him first before he hits you. It must be you who have done something wrong for the teacher to punish you. If we don't let the child tell him what happened from his point of view, we are likely to wronged the child. Moreover, let the child have the opportunity to speak, even if it is really his fault, he will be more willing to admit his mistake because he has the opportunity to defend himself. 
2. Understand the needs behind your childIf the child makes a mistake on purpose, then there must be a motive behind it. For example, deliberately making noise and crying loudly may be to make his parents pay more attention to him. By understanding your child's motivations, you will be able to understand them better. Just like getting along with adults, if you know that the other person's mistakes are bitter , you will be tolerant and forgiving. 3. Give advice to children and take corresponding responsibilitiesIf the child makes a mistake, parents should not take out the matter of Chen sesame seeds and rotten grains to count the children, and it is best for us to talk about things with the children. Mistakes were made, what remedies are there and how to avoid them next time. What should I do if I drop a vase?You can let your child wipe the floor for a week, or help your mother brush the dishes for a week, or you can give your child a few choices. 4. Try to make one-time corrections when children make mistakesThe mistakes made by children are generally unintentional, superficial, and mixed. Parents criticize, advocate grasping the signs and catching the first offense, and try to get it in place at one time, so that it is easier to make corrections. If the initial correction is not effective, it will be more difficult to correct it later. 
5. There should be communication after criticismMany parents insist that their children do not change their mistakes, and they hold a grudge against them after repeated teachings, and their criticism continues to escalate. Parents need to tell their children the reasons for criticism, point out where they are wrong, analyze why they are wrong, and provide specific ways to correct them, so that children can empathize and truly improve the effectiveness of criticism. Todd Parr, the best-selling American children's book author, wrote in the book "It's Okay to Make Mistakes": The way children deal with mistakes is learned from their parents, and how you treat mistakes, children will treat mistakes the same. 
Parents have the courage to take responsibility when dealing with mistakes, and children will definitely learn what it means to be responsibleParents can control their emotions and guide them correctly when they face their children's mistakes, and their children will definitely learn how to manage their emotions when things don't go their way. Being a parent is a process of continuous practice and continuous learning Xi. May we, learning by doing, grow together with our children in love. I also hope that every parent can teach their children to face mistakes in the right way and pave the way for their children in life.