I haven't talked about a cliff breakup before, not that it is difficult to recover this kind of breakup, but I think that in the face of this kind of breakup, in most cases, you should not consider recovery, but shouldConsider how to choose, because it is true that there are some people who are not suitable for you, and you should think about your own happiness.
Cliff-like breakup, most people talk about the suddenness of this situation, how sad they are, how scummy their ex is, etc., but the basis of all these descriptions isIt's because you have a deep mind about this relationship.
I'm not going to talk about that today, but I think it's more important that you understand the hatefulness of a cliff breakup, so that you can look at it beyond the relationship.
What does that mean, very simplyWhen you are told that you have broken up, you have actually lost cleanly, because the cliff breakup is basically not a temporary idea, but a long-planned plan.
In other words, in this relationship, you are not aware of the other party's intention to break up, so you still have a longing for this relationship, and your enthusiasm has not faded.
But the other person gradually fades his thoughts about the relationship, and then at some point informs you of the result.
It doesn't matter how open-minded you areYou are equivalent to being instantly denied by the person you love the mostIt's a bit similar to the costume TV series, where the father who has loved you for decades is actually the taste of your enemy. It's just an analogy, don't take it seriously.
You are doomed to lose this ending, so I advise you at this timeDon't think about whether to redeem it, but whether to give it againtaA chance, this is your more reasonable attitude.
I recommend that people who have a cliff breakup should look at the relationship beyond your feelings.
What does that mean?
After the breakup, you should contact more other people, jump out of the circle you are familiar with, and don't think about the breakup all day long.
Many people will have a wrong thinking in love, that is, they think that love is to have, and when they are in love with each other, they think that everything about the other party is their own, and they want to be with each other when they have anything, and they want to say something to each other, etc. When the other person is away from you, you feel like you've lost something.
This is not the right attitude towards love.
I would recommend it moreThe deeper you love when you are in love, the more you have to contact all kinds of people outside, through other people's stories and other people's experiences, you can know that the flaws of your love are in **, so that you can look at your love objectively.
It's the same with a breakup, you always feel that a cliff-like breakup is a betrayal, but in fact, it's just that you give the other party a bargaining chip for betrayal, and you only regard love as a small part of your life, so you won't have so much sadness.
In addition, I think everyone's thinking about love can be a little deeper, because no one has ever taught you about love, and most of the love experience you gain is ** people around you, for example, your parents often quarrel over something, and you will think that I can't find such a partner in the future, otherwise I will quarrel every day in the future, etc.
But we can learn more about other people's love styles, find good love methods, and deepen your thinking about relationships, and you will know how to maintain a good relationship in the future.
Today, I didn't talk about the cliff breakup in a particularly targeted way, but I am just sharing it with you, jumping out of your original circle, which can allow you to better understand the relationship. Remember, when dealing with a cliff-like breakup, it's the right thing to do:Only by screening out those who are not suitable for you can you grasp your own happiness.
In love