After watching "Ordinary World", many people think that Sun Shaoan doesn't love He Xiulian, but I don't think it's not, Sun Shaoan has love for He Xiulian and Tian Runye, but the nature of love is different, and the time stage of love is also different.
First of all, let's look at Sun Shaoan and Tian Runye. First of all, it is certain that Sun Shaoan likes Runye, but this kind of liking can be restrained by reason, that is to say, there is love, but not much, real love is like Tian Runsheng to the widow Hao Hongmei, regardless of everyone's opposition, even parents can not be, but also to be with the person they love.
And Sun Shaoan didn't, he has always been sane and sober, knowing that it is impossible to combine with Runye, that is, he has not fallen into it, and the person who is really trapped is not rational, just like Runye, doesn't Runye know the gap between him and Sun Shaoan in his heart?It's just that I'm stuck in it.
Therefore, it can be seen that Sun Shaoan loved Tian Runye, but this love is neither too much nor deep, not enough for him to give up something.
Sun Shao'an thought of Runye a total of 6 times after meeting Xiulian, the first 3 times were before marrying Xiulian, which was a state of sadness and nostalgia, and the last three times were after marrying Xiulian, he still remembered Runye, but there was no big feeling, that is to say, in just a few months, he almost let go of his feelings for Runye, which is enough to show that Sun Shaoan's love for Runye is not deep.
Not long after Sun Shaoan took He Xiulian home, Sun Shaoan went to Tian Runye's father's house to borrow food to prepare for the wedding.
The first time I thought of Runye, I went to the county with Xiulian to tear clothes, and at this time I felt a faint pain in my heart.
When I thought of Runye for the second time, I just felt that time flew by.
The third time I thought of Runye, it was when I was about to marry Xiulian, and I was still very sad and painful in my heart, and I wanted to cry happily.
Later, he married Xiulian.
The fourth time I thought of Runye was when I learned that Runye was about to get married. At this time, Sun Shao'an's heart was very calm, and he no longer had feelings for Runye, and the various emotions that Runye brought to Sun Shao'an had been soothed by Xiulian's warmth, leaving only some subtle traces, and he was no longer uncomfortable and painful when he thought about it, and he was completely relieved.
This is enough to illustrate a truth, as long as the new love changes quickly, there is no sadness, only love;As long as the new love is good enough, no old love can't be forgotten.
The fifth time I thought of Runye, I said that I often couldn't think of Runye.
The last time he mentioned Runye, he said that he rarely thought of Runye anymore.
Let's look at Sun Shao'an and He Xiulian, Sun Shao'an and He Xiulian met for the first time, and after Sun Shao'an faced up to the fact that he and Runye were indeed impossible, they had to go under the pressure of reality. At this time, Sun Shaoan was still in a state of pain, because he knew that he couldn't be with Runye, and he was very reluctant to contact other women. At the urging of his parents, he was reluctant to leave for Shanxi, and he delayed his journey again and again.
Sun Shaoan went to pick up He Xiulian, although he was originally reluctant, but when he saw He Xiulian for the first time, although he didn't like love at first sight or anything, he still had a good impression of the right eye, that is to say, He Xiulian grew up on Sun Shaoan's aesthetic point, and he didn't say that he looked ugly and ugly, and he was very disgusted when he saw it. In this case, anyone, through long-term harmony, will fall in love with each other.
After Sun Shaoan and He Xiulian got married, their relationship slowly warmed up after contact, and they gradually liked He Xiulian. If Sun Shaoan doesn't like He Xiulian, no matter how good He Xiulian is to him, he will only be moved, and he will not feel sweet.
With the accumulation of time, in the back, Sun Shaoan loved Xiulian, Sun Shaoan went bankrupt, Xiulian gave Sun Shaoan a lot of warmth and comfort, became Sun Shaoan's spiritual sustenance, and experienced the so-called "couple in distress".
Although Sun Shaoan loves He Xiulian later, this kind of love is conditional, the condition is that He Xiulian loves him unconditionally, unconditionally compromises for his original family, and unconditionally obeys him, that is, He Xiulian is the party who pays more, and her status has always been very low, Sun Shaoan feels that it is very cost-effective, feels cost-effective, and feels very worthwhile, so it can also be said that Sun Shaoan is in love with his own needs, not He Xiulian herself, this kind of love is not a real love, if another person does what He Xiulian did, Sun Shaoan loves the same。 So that's why, when Xiulian proposed to split the family, Sun Shao'an would abuse He Xiulian, and when Xiulian didn't agree to take Sun Shao'an's parents to the new kiln, she would scold He Xiulian, in the final analysis, Sun Shao'an's needs were not met. He understood from beginning to end that his needs, not his love, what he needed was a girl who could accompany him through hardships.
Therefore, the conclusion is that Sun Shaoan fell in love with Tian Runye, and later Ye fell in love with He Xiulian, but this kind of love cannot be regarded as true love, otherwise he would not have used Xiulian as a punching bag when Sun Shaoan went bankrupt. Sun Shaoan has always loved himself and his original family, Tian Runye and He Xiulian are not as important as himself and his original family.