Reading guide:I don't like to read.People will never understand that people who often read and those who don't usually read live a different life.
Some time ago, I was chatting with my neighbor, and she opened her mouth and her husband shut up about the children, full of complaints and accusations.
I suggested that she have time to read more, but she retorted, "I can't make money by reading, so what am I wasting my time doing there?".”
It is true that reading books does not guarantee that you will be rich, but the value you get from books cannot be measured in money.
I suggest that everyone should read more books, because those who read and those who don't read live two lives, and they experience two different lives.
There was a time when I was caught up in the cycle of exam editing.
I want to take the exam, because the work in the system is stable, the content is simple, and the salary is high and the treatment is good, but because of academic qualifications, party affiliation and other reasons, almost all the positions suitable for me are distributed in remote mountainous areas. This means that if I get in, I will have to stay away from my family and children.
Then don't take the test!
In fact, I have also thought about this path, but I am not reconciled, and I feel sorry for my efforts and dedication for so many years. It's like walking a long way, although I don't know how far we are from the goal, and I don't know when I will come to the end.
However, if I wanted to give up, I felt sorry for the road I had traveled and the suffering I had suffered, which caused me to fall into a tangled circle for a while.
However, this tangled psychology was put to an end after I read Walden.
Thoreau, the author of Walden, was for a time as obsessed with editing as I was.
He did the work that others didn't do, he took the wages that others didn't like, he worked as an inspector, a surveyor, and even a beast keeper. In order to get a job within the system, he had to work hard.
But not every effort pays off, and not every time you don't forget it, there is an echo.
After many encounters, Thoreau was physically and mentally exhausted, and even fell seriously ill because of it, and when death passed him, he suddenly figured it out and reconciled with himself.
After recovering from his illness, he went into the forest, cut off the weeds, and built a log cabin on the shores of Walden Lake. From then on, Thoreau had a pure land that belonged only to himself.
Later, he lived his life the way he liked – reading, writing. Reading himself and seeing his heart in a peaceful solitary time, he likes this life more and more, and writes more attentively.
Later, "Walden" was born and became famous all over the world.
Sometimes, when you repeatedly hit a wall and fail many times, God is giving us tips to learn to make peace with ourselves and find a path that is more suitable for you. Therefore, you must have the perseverance to persevere, and you must have the courage to turn around.
Some time ago, such a joke was popular in the circle of friends:
Parents whose children have just completed the high school entrance examination and college entrance examination are first-class parents, and they feel that their lives have ushered in a climax. The parents of college students are second-rate parents who usually enjoy life to the fullest, but life becomes empty because of the distance of their children. Kindergarten parents are third-rate parents. At this stage, the children's learning tasks are relatively light, and there is no head-on conflict between parents and children, so in addition to taking on the tedious care of children, there is still harmony. Parents of children who are in elementary, middle, and high school are four types of parents. This kind of parents want to roll up and not win, want to lie down unevenly, and suffer all the time in their hearts. Seeing that uncompetitive gold-swallowing beast, I can't wait to change my number to practice. ”
In fact, after reading this paragraph, we came to a conclusion - no matter what stage the child is in, parents have corresponding troubles. But the root cause of our unhappiness is not because our children are really naughty, but because we forget our original intention.
A child is an independent person who has the right to live life on his own terms. He is not a work of art under our hands, nor is he the bearer of our dreams.
Mr. Zhou Guoping once wrote a book "Niu Niu".
In this book, he described in detail that angel-like child, Niu Niu.
How did she quietly bring laughter to the family?And how to quietly let him suffer from gains and losses?
He portrays a father who is waiting for his daughter to be born – the kind of joy, hesitation, fear and anticipation that leaps onto the page.
Later, Niuniu was born, and Mr. Zhou Guoping loved her in every way, and even wanted to hold his daughter when he was writing. Reading between the lines is satisfaction and happiness.
When we first became parents, we we, like Mr. Zhou Guoping, longed to give him the whole world. However, as our children get older, our relationship with them does not get closer, but gets worse and worseObviously, we are more involved in each other's lives and understand each other better, why are we becoming more and more estranged?
There is only one answer, we have forgotten our original intention and continue to put forward new requirements for our children.
After watching "Niu Niu", I suddenly became naughty to my children, and it was not so difficult to accept. Because compared to the health of the child, these small episodes of life can be ignored.
There is a popular saying on the Internet: Chinese children spend their entire lives waiting for an apology from their parents. Because Chinese parents are accustomed to authority, accustomed to commands.
Later, I tried to understand the world from the perspective of children. I tried to read more books, use the words in the book to soothe my heart, and then find my original intention.
My husband and I often live apart because of our work.
When I first got married, I thought this model was very good - they were independent, and they were better than newlyweds.
Later, I found more and more the drawbacks of this mode of getting along - he didn't know my life, I didn't know his world.
We lay in the same bed, but we talked about people we didn't know and things we didn't know.
After I got pregnant, the disadvantages of this mode of getting along became more and more obvious. When I wasn't feeling well, he couldn't leave;When I don't want to move, he can't come back, and when I have severe morning sickness and need attention, he is not ......around
Later, when the child was born, I found that he seemed to be a different person, and quarrels became commonplace.
About a year after the second child was born, our marriage faded from passion, and the red light was frequently on, and I had the idea of divorce several times, and even once I entered the door of the Civil Affairs Bureau.
When I complained to my friend, she comforted me and said, "I recently read a sentence in a book: 'No matter who you marry, you end up with yourself.'" Instead of being so internal in marriage, you should manage yourself well. ”
It is this sentence that I want to change the status quo and change myself.
Later, I read Mr. Yang Jiang's "We Together", which allowed me to witness another way of getting along as a husband and wife, and also let me know the other side of the world.
In the book, there are many details describing her and Mr. Qian Zhongshu's marriage.
Qian Zhongshu is a novice in life, and he still can't do any housework after being married for so many years, Yang Jiang did not dislike or accuse, but gave understanding and tolerance.
This book "The Two of Us" not only gave me a different interpretation of marriage, but also allowed me to manage my marriage and myself in a different way.
Everyone has a time when they are at a low point in their life and have a time when they have a chicken feather in their life, and we can't avoid this. But we can do it, control the mood so that it doesn't get so low;We can also tie the feathers into a beautiful feather duster to add color to our lives.
Epilogue. Reading can fill people's hearts with strength, and their mood is calm and peaceful.
Life is a marathon, and we can't change the starting point, nor can we decide the end. The only thing we can know is to keep our mood happy and full along the way.
Books allow us to look back on history and find answers to our own questionsBooks allow us to travel between the beautiful lands and soar in the vast universe.
Books allow us to understand ourselves more comprehensively and carefullyBooks allow us to see others more clearly.
Books are our mentors and friends.
May we be a person with a rich heart and a light in our eyes for the rest of our lives. Be firm and powerful, and be kind and sharp.
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