Parent-child
When your baby is rejected or isolated by a partner, it is natural to feel frustrated and sad, and adults will also worry about it. And such incidents are not uncommon in the process of children's growth. In order to understand this phenomenon in depth, let's analyze what the causes are from a psychological perspective.
The baby's own characteristics affect social interaction
First of all, each child has their own unique personality and temperament. Some children are naturally outgoing and socially adequate, while others are more introverted and slightly shy. This does not mean that introverted children are socially disadvantaged, but they may relate differently than extroverted children. For example, introverted children may be more hesitant and wait-and-see when engaging in new games or activities, while extroverted children are more likely to take the initiative to join and initiate interactions.
Children's social skills need to be developed
Social skills are not innate, they need to be learned Xi practiced. For example, how to share toys with others, how to express one's opinions, how to deal with conflicts, etc., are all things that children gradually learn through interactions with their peers. If your child lacks these skills, it can cause them to have difficulty socializing with their peers.
The importance of regular playmates
Children with regular playmates are generally more socially confident. This is because they already have a sense of trust and chemistry with their regular playmates, which helps them to behave more comfortably in a wider range of social situations. Children who do not have a regular playmate may be more reliant on each interaction with a new partner for approval, and this instability may increase their risk of social frustration.
Xiao Ming is a 4-year-old boy with a slightly introverted personality, and in kindergarten, he often sits alone in the corner, watching other children play.
His parents noticed that after each school day, the other children would excitedly share with their parents the games they played with their friends in kindergarten, but Xiao Ming was always silent.
After understanding, they found that Xiao Ming rarely had regular playmates, and every time he wanted to participate in other children's games, he would be rejected.
After an in-depth analysis, Xiao Ming's parents realized that he lacked the development of social skills.
At home, he is the only child, so there are few opportunities to socialize with other peers.
In kindergarten, he also passively waits for invitations from others, rather than initiating interactions.
In addition, his introverted personality is also the fact that he behaves too hesitant and nervous when interacting with unfamiliar children.
In order to help Xiao Ming improve his social situation, his parents decided to take a series of measures.
First, they signed up for a parent-child activity class in a community for Ming, hoping that he would be able to build friendships with other children in a smaller, more intimate environment.
Secondly, they also started to play some role-playing games with Xiao Ming at home, teaching him how to share with others, how to express his emotions, how to deal with conflicts, and other social skills.
In kindergarten, the teacher also noticed Xiao Ming's plight and began to encourage him to participate more in group activities and create opportunities for him to interact with other children.
After a period of hard work, Xiao Ming's situation improved. He began to develop strong friendships with several children in the community class, and he began to have some regular playmates in the kindergarten.
His parents noticed that after school, Ming was now more willing to share his kindergarten experience with them, becoming more confident and cheerful.