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Dear sisters, 2023 has passed, I don't know if you are still satisfied with the past year?
Today, I will take my family to read Brian Tracy's "Goals" together, and through the study of this book, we will start a more fulfilling, efficient, and more purposeful and planned 2024 together.
The author of this book, Born Tracy, is a world-renowned master of potential, not only a mentor to Bill Gates, but also a big man such as Warren Buffett, Jack Welch and Michael Dyer.
But in fact, Brian Tracy had a very low starting point, he came from a poor background, he didn't graduate from high school, and his first job was washing dishes in a restaurant.
From a high school dropout to a global potential guru, entrepreneur, and best-selling author, what did Brian Tracy do to make such an astonishing transformation of fate?
In the book "Goals", Born speaks:
Unable to find the strength to work, he had to start sales, often selling one item a day, and then using the money he earned to pay the rent so that he could have a place to sleep at night. Until one day, in order to change the embarrassing status quo, he took out a blank piece of paper and wrote down an incredible goal: to earn $1,000 a month.
The gears of fate began to turn.
A month after writing his goal, his salary rose to $1,000 because of his outstanding sales performance, and a year and a half later, Born went from salesman to sales executive, leading a team of nearly 100 people, and he began to work to help more people improve their sales performance, and his career development entered accelerated mode.
As the quote on the cover of this book says: without a goal, there is no success.
If you are in a predicament at the moment, but you can't find a breakthrough, it is better to start with this "Goal".
01.With a goal, there is an outlet for the release of potential.
Did you know?Many people are able to realize less than 10% of their potential in their lifetime.
Do you feel sorry to hear this data?
Now there is a popular word, which is self-sufficient. It means that we are already complete and do not lack anything, and even in some specific fields, many people have some hidden talents.
However, the reality is that most people spend their lives like headless flies scurrying around and ultimately achieving nothing. Why is that?
The book tells about an experimental case that is particularly thought-provoking.
Harvard University conducted a 10-year survey between 1979 and 1989.
In 1979, researchers asked a group of Harvard MBA graduates the question, "Do you have a clear goal and write it down?"Do you have a plan in place to make it happen?"The results showed that only 3 percent of the graduates had clear goals and had a plan;13 They have a purpose, but they do not write it downThe remaining 84 don't even have a goal. Ten years later, in 1989, the researchers found the same group of graduates. They found that the 13 graduates who set goals but didn't write them down earned twice as much as the 84 who didn't. To the researchers' surprise, the graduates3 who had a clear goal and wrote it down made an average of 10 times as much money as the other 97.
They are also high-achieving students who graduated from Harvard University, with goals and no goals, and after ten years, the difference in income is ten times!Isn't it a bit shocking?
On the surface, it seems that there is only a gap in goals, but in fact, goals can not only help us clarify the direction of future progress, but also a driving force. The presence of this drive is indispensable for a person to achieve success in his career.
When a person's goal is not clear, it is like driving in a fog, no matter how hard they rivet, the car can't drive, even if the road is obviously very smooth, but once the goal is clear, the fog seems to be quickly dispersed, and then we move forward towards the goal until we reach the destination. ”
The purpose of the purpose is that it allows us to be a committed processist.
In order to achieve the goal, we are willing to spare no effort to work hard, to struggle, to overcome difficulties, to sprint towards the goal, the heart is like a motor to keep running, life seems to be full of hope.
Even though this is an uncertain hope, because of the goal, we have the will and strength to run, and our personal potential has the opportunity and space to be explored and released.
This process is happy, and no matter how ordinary the days are, they also shine because of it.
It can be seen that a life with a goal will have a direction;Only when there is a goal in life can there be hope.
Whether it's for wealth or inner fulfillment, goals are essential.
02.The premise of achieving the goal: to be the master of life.
Although the goal is important, there will always be many obstacles on the way to achieve the goal.
The first obstacle is all kinds of bad moods.
Most people are more emotional than rational and are easily affected by negative emotions, resulting in a loss of control in their lives and an inability to focus on their goals.
Here's an example. For example, if you have a quarrel with your husband, your mood may be very bad, and you will not be in a good state for two or three daysOr, because of a mistake in the work, being criticized by the boss, the mood is not good for a day, and I am not bored to do anything.
When we are surrounded by negative emotions, this low energy state can lead to a lack of action, which is not conducive to the achievement of goals.
Born believes that if you want to become a person who must achieve your mission and accomplish your goals efficiently, you must learn to take control of your life and be the master of your life.
Kazuo Inamori also said a similar point in "Six Improvements": Don't have emotional troubles.
If a person wants to achieve something, he should not always be affected by some trivial things, but learn to manage his bad emotions and maintain a positive and high-energy state, which will be more conducive to the realization of his goals.
So, how exactly do you avoid the distraction of bad moods?
The advice given in the book is: take responsibility for your emotions.
Specifically, don't give yourself reasons.
Born believes that many times we become particularly angry because we think in our hearts that the cause of the problem lies with others, so we get angry and take it for granted that we can be angry.
But in fact, there is no one else out there, only yourself. No one can make us angry unless we allow it.
To learn to be responsible for yourself, you have to admit that it is not others who make you angry, but yourself. By attributing the conflict to ourselves, many times, our anger will not grow stronger.
In addition to being responsible for your own emotions, you should also be responsible for your own future development, and be the boss of your own life, such as learning to make career development plans for yourself, including strategic planning, financial planning, interpersonal relationship management, etc.
Being the master of life is the first key to achieving goals, and only those who are truly responsible for themselves can have the possibility of mastering their destiny.
Find more reasons from yourself and less excuses from the outside, such a person is a strong person who can achieve his goals.
03.Goals should be aligned with one's own values, so that true happiness can be achieved.
Aristotle said that the ultimate goal of man is personal happiness. When a person's outward behavior is in line with their inner values, they will be very happy.
In other words, when we have achieved the unity of knowledge and action, or when the life we have is consistent with what we desire, we will feel happy, and on the contrary, we will not be happy.
This means that in order to be happy, a person must know what he really wants, what he cares about, and then try to live the life he wants.
However, in real life, many people work hard, but they don't really know what they are after.
Even if you end up getting a lot, you are still unhappy, or you have put in a lot of effort but still don't succeed, then you will be very frustrated and even lose yourself.
In the early days, in order to pursue self-growth and unwillingness, I chose to read and write book reviews, and later made some achievements and became a freelance writer, earning more than 10,000 yuan a month by reading, realizing time freedom and economic independence, and also establishing the ability to settle down, I was satisfied;
Later, I had some influence in my own **, and I accidentally embarked on the road of knowledge payment, helping many newcomers to get results, gaining a sense of accomplishment and meaning, and of course, earning a good income.
However, in this fast-moving and uncertain industry, I became busier and busier, and I often felt deeply tired and anxious, and my initial sense of happiness and satisfaction was gradually diluted less and less.
I'm starting to realize that if I've been doing what I'm passionate about, but my happiness hasn't increased because of it, something must be wrong.
Stephen Covey says that when you climb the ladder to the top of success, make sure you're in the right place. ”
A person can only be truly happy when what he does is in line with his inner values.
My personal personality and habits determine that it is difficult for me to really be a salted fish, I always can't help but do things, and hard work has long become the background color of my life. However, in the process of continuous cultivation, I seem to have forgotten to ask myself, why am I working hard?
I am not a materialist and a money supremacist, the love of learning, hard work, and diligence are just habitual things, and money and influence are just the gifts that come with it.
I have always believed that life is not about pursuing high scores in a single aspect, and true happiness should strive to pursue excellence in different dimensions of life. Career and money are important, but if they don't bring me happiness, then it's not what I want.
Many times, we think we know what we want, but in fact, we are just influenced by the environment, and we take what others think is right as our own goal without knowing it.
We all understand the truth, but sometimes our actions are not in harmony with what we think in our hearts. That's what Bohn said: goals and values are not exactly aligned.
How fortunate I am that I have been studying all these years, and this choice has made me pay more attention to internal seeking, and at the same time work hard, I also know how to take care of my inner feelings, and strive to live a truly full, happy, light and beautiful state of life. That's what I'm going to focus on next.
This year, I decided to slow down, pay more attention to my physical and mental state, exercise well, have a good spirit, learn the wisdom of a happy life, and live my inner joy and happiness.
As for how far the career can develop, let it be.
But I firmly believe that when what I do is helpful to others and valuable to society, it will inevitably take root and be blessed.
Socrates said that an unexamined life is not worth living.
People who are always on the road can easily forget why they set out.
That's why we need to do a calibration every once in a while, stop and ask ourselves if my goals align with my values and if what I'm doing now will make me happy
Well, this is the beginning of the new year, some of the reading experiences of the first book I took my family to read together, and I will continue to share it in the future, I hope you like it
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