My name is Xiaofang, I have been married for ten years, and I have always had a good relationship with my husband Xiaoming. We have two lovely children, a son and a daughter. Our life is plain and happy, with no major twists and turns.
Five years ago, my mother-in-law had cancer and needed to stay in the hospital for a long time**. I took care of her wholeheartedly, sending my children to school every morning, then going to the hospital to accompany my mother-in-law, and going home in the evening to cook and take care of the family. I have no complaints because I know this is what I should do, and I also hope that my mother-in-law will be able to ** soon.
However, my husband did not understand my hard work, he felt that I ignored his feelings, did not have time to chat with him, and did not have the energy to meet his needs. He started to grow cold, impatient with me, and even lost his temper at times. I tried to communicate with him, explain my difficulties, and hope that he would understand me and support me. However, he always said that I was making excuses that I didn't value him and didn't love him anymore.
I was sad, but I didn't give up, I still tried to maintain our marriage, and I believe that as long as we have love, we can overcome all difficulties. I also told myself that this was only temporary, and when my mother-in-law got better, we would be able to regain our previous sweetness.
However, fate did not give me a chance. Last year, my dad was seriously ill and hospitalized and needed me to come home to take care of him. I begged my husband to come back and help and accompany my mother-in-law, so that I could go to see my dad with peace of mind. My husband disagreed, saying that he was busy with work and had no time, and that he didn't want to get along with his mother-in-law, and he felt that she was very troublesome. I was helpless, so I had to hire a nanny and call my mother-in-law every day to report her situation.
I went back to my dad and I was sad to see how thin he was. My dad is the person I respect the most, he was industrious and thrifty all his life, raised me for my school, and made me happy today. I want to do my best to give him the best ** so that he can**.
However, what I didn't expect was that while I was accompanying my father, whose life and death were uncertain, my mother-in-law passed away. Her condition suddenly deteriorated, and it was too late for the nanny to find out. My husband blamed me for not fulfilling my responsibilities as a daughter-in-law and not being by my mother-in-law's side in her last moments, and he said that he hated me and that he wanted to divorce me.
When I heard this, I was devastated. I can't believe that I have given so much in exchange for such a result. I don't know what I've done wrong and why I'm going through this pain. I want to win back my husband's heart, I want him to know how much I love him, I want him to forgive me. However, he didn't listen to my explanation, he didn't give me a chance, he just said coldly that he had found a lawyer and asked me to sign the divorce.
I had no choice but to go back and meet him and discuss the divorce. I thought he would have a little pity for me and at least give me some comfort. However, he became more ruthless, not only did he divorce me, but he also had to snatch the child. He said that he has the ability to feed the child, and he does not want the child to suffer with me. He said, I am an irresponsible mother and I am not worthy of children.
When I heard these words, I was angry, I was sad, I was desperate. I don't understand how he became such a person, how he forgot our love, how he could bear to hurt me and my children. I agree to the divorce, but I don't agree to give it to the child. I said that the child was born to me, raised by me, and loved by me. I said, I will not give up on my children, and I will fight for them to the end.
Our divorce case dragged on for a long time, and finally the court ruled that the children should be raised by me, and my husband would give a certain amount of living expenses every month. My husband was not satisfied with the verdict, he said he would appeal, he said he would not let me have a good time. I ignored him, I just wanted this nightmare and start a new life.
After the divorce, I raised two children on my own and worked hard to support myself. I didn't ask anyone for help, I didn't complain to anyone, I just suffered everything in silence. I want children to know that their mother is a strong woman, their mother is a dignified woman, and their mother is a woman who can stand on her own feet.
I got a job as a clerk, and although I didn't pay much, I was able to make ends meet. I drop my kids off at school every morning, then go to work, and come home in the evening to cook, help with their homework, and play with them. I try my best to give my children a warm home and let them feel motherly love. I also try to give my children a normal childhood so that they can grow up happily.
After some days, my husband regretted it, he said that he was impulsive at the time, he said that he still loved me, and he said that he wanted to reconcile with me. He said he wanted to meet the child, and he said he wanted to give the child a complete home. He said he was willing to start over with me, he said he was willing to change himself, he said he was willing to work with me.
I didn't promise him, I didn't refuse him, I just asked him to give me some time to think about it. I don't know what I'm going to do, I don't know if I'll be able to trust him, I don't know if I'll be able to love him. All I know is that I am not the same person I used to be, I have my own ideas, I have my own goals.
We came to an agreement that I would raise the child and he would give a certain amount of living expenses every month. He can also visit the children regularly, play with them, and buy them gifts. I didn't stop him, I felt that children have the right to know who their dad is and to be loved by their dad. I also hope that he can be genuinely good to the children and stop hurting them.
I want to try to be an independent woman and raise children well. I don't want to be dependent on anyone anymore, I don't want to be controlled by anyone anymore, I don't want to lose anyone's respect anymore. I want to make myself stronger, smarter, and more beautiful. I want to have more knowledge, more skills, more opportunities. I want to have a better life, a better job, a better environment.
I know that marriage requires equality and mutual understanding, and not just one party pays. I know that as a woman, I want to be financially independent and have the ability to think on my own. I know that I don't regret choosing to divorce, at least I was given the right to choose. I know that I believe that my efforts will be rewarded in the end, and I will live better. I know that becoming an independent woman is my biggest goal in life.