A lot of people want to have a strong network that they think will solve all their problems. As everyone knows, the so-called connections are all based on their own strength. If you don't have the strength yourself, it's useless to know people no matter how powerful they are.
There is a saying: "No one asks about the poor in the downtown area, but the rich have distant relatives in the mountains." ”
When you are poor and destitute, no one will take care of you, even if you are in the middle of the cityWhen you are rich and prosperous, even if you live in the mountains, there will be people who come uninvited.
This is reality, brutal and real. When you're worthless, your so-called connections are a joke. It doesn't matter who you know, what matters is who you are.
There is a fable about a fox who wants to know a tiger. But the fox is just an ordinary fox, and the gap between it and the tiger is too big. So the fox came up with a way to give gifts to the tiger every day and pat the tiger on the back. The tiger was very happy, felt that the fox was his confidant, and was getting better and better for the fox. Thinking that he had succeeded, the fox invited the tiger to his house. As a result, when the tiger saw the simple home of the fox, his face immediately changed, and he walked away without looking back.
The fox finally understood that in the eyes of the tiger, he was just a gift-giver. The connections that the fox wants are just wishful thinking on his own.
There are many examples of this in life, such as many ordinary people who want to meet celebrities and feel that they can expand their network. But even if you really know a celebrity, what can you do?
There was once a young man who, through his own efforts, finally had the opportunity to participate in an event with Jack Ma. At the event, the young man was so excited that he kept toasting to Jack Ma, hoping to become friends with Jack Ma. But Ma Yun only responded politely and didn't say anything to him.
Afterwards, the young man was disappointed, he felt that he had wasted the opportunity. He didn't understand why he treated Ma Yun so enthusiastically, but he couldn't get Ma Yun's favor.
In fact, the reason is very simple, the gap between this young man and Jack Ma is too big. Jack Ma is a business tycoon, and this young man is just an ordinary person. There is no common topic, no similar experiences, and no reciprocal value between them. So even if you know each other, it's only a one-sided relationship, and you can't become real friends.
Networking is not about how many people you know, it's about how many people know you. Only when you have enough strength and value can you let others take the initiative to know you and be willing to establish a deep relationship with you.
Instead of chasing fake connections, you should manage your life with your heart. Spend your time improving yourself and making yourself stronger and better.
When you become the best in the industry, you will naturally attract more contacts. And these connections are based on your strength and credit, which is more stable and reliable than those superficial entertainment.
Finally, I would like to give you a message: "If you are not strong, it is useless to know anyone." "Instead of spending time making friends, try to be strong. When you're good enough, the whole world will make way for you. You get the idea!This is the real society.