The house of good will have afterglow, and the house of bad will have aftermath, this ancient adage accurately reveals the great influence of good and bad goodness. Accumulating goodness refers to accumulating good karma, while accumulating unkindness refers to accumulationBad fate。Good karma has a positive effect, whileBad fatehas negative consequences. However, accumulating goodness is very difficult, while accumulating unkindness is easy. Why is it so easy to turn to evil and not to good?This is because human nature makes it easier to gravitate towards **. When a person becomes depraved, the problem can be controlled;But as soon as he affects the family, the family goes into decline. As long as a family has the following "unlucky" phenomena, it means that the family road has begun to decline.
Anger refers to people's impatience and violence, and when people's anger reaches a certain level, interpersonal relationships will become worse, and the hatred in the heart will deepen day by day. Husbands and wives will quarrel incessantly, siblings will pit each other against each other, and even children and parents will be indifferent to each other. Some people believe that anger is the root of all "evil". If left unchecked, anger can affect a person's mind and character, making him cruel and ruthless. Especially in the fast-paced onelifeEveryone is under tremendous stress and pain. In this way, there will be more and more anger. However, it is worrying that the number of evildoers is increasing and tragedies are repeated. This is an issue that deserves our deep reflection.
Anger affects not only the individual, but also the fate of the entire family. Evil spirits in the family can erode the harmony and happiness of the family like evil spirits, and then bring about a series of problems. When the anger spreads throughout the family, we will see the conflict between the husband and wife become more and more intense, and they will become more and more noisy with each other. Quarrels between siblings escalate, holding grudges against each other and even becoming cold and unforgiving. Worse still, the relationship between the child and the parents will become strained by the anger, and the foundation of understanding and closeness between them will be lost. Family membersThe contradictions and frictions between them are rising, and the family gradually loses its cohesion and centripetal force. When a family is full of anger and makes people fall into it like a quagmire, it will eventually lead to the breakdown and decline of the family.
The psychology of "must be compared" refers to the mentality of over-calculating small things and not being able to tolerate and treat them. When we were children, we often heard our elders say, "Family."lifeTogether, you don't have to worry about so many little things, and how many benefits can you bring by winning or losing?In the end, it will only destroy family harmony. This sentence shows the difference between consideration and tolerance. Between husband and wife, brothers and sisters, what can it bring if they constantly think about gains and losses?Not only will nothing be gained, but it will also destroy the harmony of the family. Tolerance is like the sea, calculating into the abyss. Calculation can lead people to obsession, while tolerance exudes an amiable atmosphere. When people treat each other well, treat each other sincerely, and fulfill their responsibilities, the family will gradually form the prototype of a "house of goodness". The only way to curb the mentality of "baht must be compared" is to compromise. Compromise is not a concession or cowardice, but a gesture of goodwill. Only with good intentions can the family achieve harmony.
The mentality of having to fight will bring a lot of trouble to the family. When all the members of the family are too concerned about gains and losses, and quarrels, the atmosphere in the family becomes tense and uneasy. Everyone is stuck to their own opinions and cannot understand and tolerate each other, which leads to:Family relationshipsGetting worse day by day. Family membersConstant bickering, bickering over a little thing, not only does not solve the problem, but also keeps the family stuck in an endless cycle. Slowly,Family membersEstrangement and conflict arise, relationships break down, and families become torn apart. Moreover, quarrels and calculations in the family often have a negative impact on a child's growth and development. When children grow up in an environment full of quarrels and calculations, they tend to become anxious, depressed and insecure, which can also have an impact on the development of academic Xi and interpersonal relationships. Therefore, members of the family should learn to be tolerant and understanding, let go of the consideration of gains and losses, and build in a harmonious attitudeFamily relationshipsto create a house of goodness.
Get it for nothing".Family styleIt refers to those characterized by laziness, dependence, and greed for conveniencelifeAttitude. As it becomes more and more difficult to make money, more and more people are losing their jobs, especially young people. They gradually lose their fighting spirit and become lazy. Children go from the beginning to fend for themselves and become dependent on their parents, while middle-aged people want to save money until their childrenGrow up**。These people have a common idea, which is the desire to become rich overnight or become famous. However, this idea is unrealistic.
Unless there is a particularly solid foundation and opportunity, it is "unearned".Family styleIt will only bring poverty and failure. Family membersThe refusal to work hard and the desire to rely on others or obtain wealth through unfair means can lead to a gradual deterioration of the family's financial situation. Moreover, relying only on the support of parents or others has causedFamily membersThe dependency between them, which in turn leads to lazinesslifeManner. In addition, pursue what is earned for nothingFamily styleWill also makeFamily membersDivergence in values, which in turn leads toFamily relationshipsof discord and rupture. For children, they often lack self-discipline and self-confidence, and are unable to take responsibility and challenges, which affects their growth and success. Therefore,Family membersIt is necessary to establish the right values, work hard, and work diligently to achieve personal and family prosperity.
Moral decay refers to people's neglect and disregard for moralitySocialPublic morality and personal morality. In a family, moral decay can lead to:Family membersThe moral concept is confused andMoral bottom lineThe blur. Family membersThey give up respect and concern for others, and only pursue personal self-interest and pleasure, ignoring the rights and feelings of others. Immoral behavior not only harms others, but also harms family harmony. If a family does not have a solid moral foundation, it will lack mutual respect and trust, which in turn will lead to:Family relationshipsof disharmony and tension. Especially for children, if they don't get it right in their home environmentMoral educationIt's easy to get lost and get off track. They may be at school orSocialBehaviors that show moral decay and bring trouble and distress to themselves and their families. Therefore,Family membersIt should be taken seriouslyMoral educationEstablish a correct moral concept, pay attention to cultivating children's moral character and behavioral norms, so as to build a moral family.
Communication isFamily membersThe bridge of communication and understanding between them is the one that sustains themFamily relationshipsbonds. However, when a family emergesCommunication barriers, the family will be in trouble. Communication barriersIt can be manifested as language impairment, poor emotional communication, etc. Family membersUnable to communicate and understand effectively, leading to misunderstandings and contradictions. In a family where communication is not possible, couples are often unable to understand each other's needs and emotions, leading to arguments and indifference. The lack of listening to and supporting each other between siblings leads to tension and estrangement in relationships. Communication between parents and children is also often problematic, parents are unable to understand their children's needs and feelings, and children are unable to express their thoughts and feelings. LackCommunicate effectivelyFamilies can have a variety of problems, including emotional estrangement, family conflicts, and loss of cohesion. Therefore,Family membersIt should be emphasizedCommunication skillsLearn to listen and express and promote mutual understanding and support to create a harmonious communication atmosphere.
As long as a family has a gruesome mentality, it will be comparative, and it will get something for nothingFamily style, moral decay and the inability to communicate obstacles, it is not far from decline. These "unlucky" phenomena will make itFamily relationshipsThere are many contradictionsFamily membersThe loss of the basis of understanding and intimacy between them led to the breakdown and decay of the family. Therefore,Family membersIt is necessary to detect and change these undesirable phenomena as soon as possible, and establish correct values and valueslifeattitude, cultivating harmonyFamily relationshipsto create a house of goodness. At the same time,SocialMore attention and support should also be given to families, and more education and training opportunities should be provided to help families effectively cope with these challenges and achieve family happiness and stability.