My name is Xiao Wang, I am 35 years old this year, and I have been married to my wife Xiaohong for 5 years. The two of us met when we were in college, and after graduation, both parents agreed, so it was only natural that we came together. Now we live in a small community in the outer ring of Beijing, and our life is plain but happy.
My mother, Lao Wang, is 68 years old this year, and her health has not been very good, especially in the past two years. Lao Wang used to teach Chinese in our local middle school, and my father passed away early, so my relationship with Lao Wang has been very close over the years. Every time I call, I can see that Lao Wang's face is getting paler and paler, and his spirit is not as good as before.
Just last week, I called Lao Wang as usual to greet ***, and her voice sounded weak and weak: "Son, Mom's body is getting worse and worse, your father has been gone for so many years, and now I am really a little difficult to live alone, and it is inconvenient to do things often." I thought, why don't I move to your house and live with you, do you think it's okay?”
So I cautiously asked, "Mom, are you saying you want to live with us for a long time?"”
Lao Wang shook his head lightly: "It doesn't take long time, just two months, let you take care of me for two months." After that, I may be a little better, so I won't bother you. ”
I breathed a sigh of relief that two months was still acceptable. So I said to Lao Wang: "Mom, I understand your thoughts, and two months is acceptable." But I still need to discuss this matter with Xiaohong first, after all, it has a big impact on her. Don't worry about it yet, I'll go back and talk to Xiaohong, and we'll make a decision. ”
Lao Wang nodded: "Good boy, then you can go back and discuss with Xiaohong." She's your wife, so of course you have to listen to her on this. You'll tell Mom after you have discussed it. ”
I hung up Lao Wang's **, and began to think about how to open this mouth with Xiaohong. To be honest, I'm worried about Red's reaction. At the beginning of our marriage, Xiaohong told me that she didn't like to live with her parents-in-law very much, and hoped that we could live alone. I also understand her thoughts, so I've always tried to keep her distance from my family. This time, Lao Wang is going to move in with us, and it will definitely have a big impact on Xiaohong's life.
At dinner, I plucked up the courage to mention this incident to Xiaohong: "Lao Wang's mother is getting worse and worse, and she just told me that she wants to move in with us for two months, and let me take care of her."
I persuaded Xiaohong to calm down, and then explained: "I also understand your feelings, but my mother's health is too bad now, and it is inconvenient to live alone, so I am quite worried about her." It's only two months, can you bear with it during this time, and when my mother gets better, I won't bother you. ”
When I heard Xiaohong say this, I was really anxious: "Don't be like this, I'm also very embarrassed, my mother really needs someone to take care of me now, you should do me a favor and give me some time to get along with my mother, okay?"”
Xiaohong's face became even more ugly: "Do you a favor?."Such a big thing is also called help?I am married to you, not your whole family, why should I suffer this sin?I'll give you two choices, either you don't agree with your mom coming, and we'll live like we used toEither you ask your mom to come over, and I'll pack up and go back to my mom's house in the next two months!”
I see that Xiaohong is so decisive, and I really don't know the bottom in my heart. But thinking of the situation on Lao Wang's side, I still persuaded: "You should do me this favor, and I will thank you well." It's just two months, it's really not long, and I promise that everything will be back on track. ”
Okay, since you've decided, then I can only pack my bags and go back to my parents' house immediately!After Xiaohong finished speaking, she got up and went to the room to clean up.
I saw her like this, and knew that she was really angry, so I could only continue to persuade her: "You calm down, let's discuss it well, don't be so excited, okay?"”
Discuss?What can we discuss?You've already decided, what can I do?You can only choose to leave, don't you?Xiaohong said as she packed her clothes.
I hurriedly went to take her hand: "Don't be like this, if you leave for two months, it will be really difficult for me to be alone." ”
Xiaohong shook off my hand: "Difficult?".Then I'm here to watch you get along with your mother sweetly, why shouldn't it be difficult for me?If you choose it yourself, then bear the consequences!”
With that, she picked up the box and walked out the door. I hurriedly chased after it, and stopped at the door while persuading: "You calm down, can we talk about it again?"”
Little Red gave me a blank look and forced me out the door. I stood in the doorway, watching her back disappear into the night of the neighborhood, and my heart was in a mess. I know that this time between me and Xiaohong, I'm afraid there is really a big rift.
* The old king sighed softly: "Alas, I know that my idea is not realistic. Xiaohong is really busy at work, and it's not good for me to move in suddenly as an old man. Son, forget about it, I can still be alone, you and Xiaohong can live a good life. ”
I heard the disappointment in Lao Wang's tone, and I felt very uncomfortable. I advised her, "Don't say that, when I think of a way to discuss with Xiaohong, she will agree." I'll take care of you, so don't worry about it. ”
I said anxiously, "Mom, don't think so!".Your body is the most important thing, I'll definitely find a way, you have to take care of yourself, you know?”
Good boy, Mom knows. Don't blame yourself too much, that's it. Lao Wang comforted me.
Hung up**, I sat on the couch and fell into deep thought. I understood that I was facing a dilemma, on the one hand, Lao Wang's increasingly weak body, and on the other hand, Xiaohong's strong opposition. I had to find a balance between the two, but I couldn't think of a good way to do it at the moment.
Just then, the doorbell rang suddenly. I opened the door and saw Xiaohong's mother and aunt standing outside the door.
Auntie, why are you here?"I was a little surprised.
Auntie's expression was very serious: "Xiao Wang, Xiaohong went home last night and told me about it." She's very unhappy now, and it's too unreasonable for the two of you to get divorced!”
I hurriedly invited her into the house and sat down, and then explained: "Auntie, this is all a misunderstanding, Xiaohong and I have a good relationship, but because my mother wants to come to live for two months, Xiaohong can't accept it." I will persuade her again, she will never get divorced. ”
Alas, you young people, you still need more run-in on the emotional road. Auntie sighed, "I just want to tell you, you must not make impulsive mistakes, good communication is the last word." You also have to be considerate and considerate of Xiaohong's feelings, girls have a relatively small temper. ”
I know Auntie, I will talk to Xiaohong again, and I will definitely take care of this matter. I nodded hurriedly.
Auntie told me a few more words, telling me to take care of Lao Wang and Xiaohong's feelings. One by one, I said I would pay attention. After sending my aunt away, I sat in an empty house, my heart in chaos. I understand that Xiaohong and I, as well as me and Lao Wang, need to communicate well in order to solve this problem.
Seeing her like this, I know that the knot in her heart has not yet been dissolved. So I decided to go to Xiaohong's mother's house to talk to her in person, so that we could reach a consensus on this matter.
I hurriedly said: "I'm here to talk to you, you haven't replied to my messages in the past few days, and you haven't answered me**, we can't just be so stiff." ”
Xiaohong sneered: "What are you talking about?".You've decided that your mom moved over, so there's nothing else to talk about?”
I hurriedly explained: "I didn't decide to ask my mom to move over, I just wanted to discuss this matter with you, but you just left without saying hello, we really need to have a good talk between us." ”
Xiaohong looked at me, and her face finally softened. She sighed: "Yes, I was really excited that day, and I should have told you well." But the thought of living with your mom makes me feel like I can't accept it. ”
I nodded: "I understand your feelings, so let's talk about this now and see if we can find a mutually acceptable solution." ”
Well, your mother's health is really not very good, and it is not convenient to be alone. But you also have to understand that when we got married, I told you that I hoped that we could live alone. If your mother lives here for a long time, it will still have a great impact on me. Xiaohong said.
I nodded: "I understand, in fact, I also hope that we can have our own lives." My mom said she just wanted to come for two months and let me take care of her for a while, do you think that's acceptable?”
Two months is still too long, a month. Xiaohong said.
A month is too short, is a month and a half okay?I asked cautiously.
That's a month and a half. Xiaohong finally nodded.
I said happily, "Great, that's it." After a month and a half, my mother's health has improved, so I won't bother you. If you can bear with me during this time, I will thank you very much. ”
Well, but your mom must know that she still has to move out and live alone, and she can't live for a long time. Xiaohong emphasized.
I know, I'll make it clear to her. I nodded hurriedly.
In this way, Xiaohong and I finally reached a consensus on this matter. We decided to go home together tomorrow, and I would tell Wang the results and ask her to move out in a month and a half. This may not be the perfect solution for everyone, but at least we can at the moment.
Accepted compromises. I believe that through this run-in, the relationship between me and Xiaohong will also be stronger, and we will learn to communicate and understand each other as much in life as we do now.