Nowadays, people are under great pressure at work and in life, busy at work, late at work, and working overtime every day has become commonplace, resulting in many parents being forced to become "weekend parents", that is, seven days a week, only on weekends can see children can get along with children, Monday to Friday are handed over to grandparents or grandparents. In this model, parents who attach importance to their children's education actually have all kinds of helplessness, and they also have all kinds of expectations and requirements for the older generation, and the difference between them may cause a contradiction between the two generations for their children's education.
In order to reconcile with myself, but also for the harmony of the family and the better family education for the children, I have summarized the following insights to share with you.
First, parents are their children's first teachers, and you are responsible for any problems that arise in your children. In many cases, many parents, including myself, because they rarely see their children, are already missing and worried, and they have a sense of guilt for their dereliction of duty. Therefore, when you see your child on the weekend, if you find that your child has bad habits, bad language, even if there are stains on your body and your clothes are sloppy, your fragile nerves will be touched, and your blood will spurt silently, and you will even be angry with the older generation. In this process, I am also reflecting on whether I am also projecting my anger and powerlessness towards my children while blaming the older generation for neglecting to educate my childrenI think there must be. We have shifted the responsibility of education that we should have borne to the older generation, and we have not blamed them for all kinds of bad and inadequate work, and we do not have this right, and we are not justified.
Second, there is a big gap between the two generations, and we cannot hold the older generation to the test by our standards. Most ordinary people, especially the parents of the post-70s and post-80s generation, are generally not highly educated, and they are all around 60 or 70 years old, and their physical strength, energy and mental strength are not as good as those of young people. Coupled with the often said "next-generation relatives", the older generation's love for their children is stronger than that of their parents, and it is not easy to spoil their children without boundaries. So, don't expect too much from the older generation with children, it's unfair and unrealistic for them. Is that for the older generation with children, we can't say anything?Not really.
Third, friendly communication is important. Although we can't put too much too high a lot of expectations on the education of the older generation, the basic bottom line principle is that the purpose of collaboration can be achieved through sincere communication. For example: after writing homework to play with electronic products for 30 minutes, ensure a glass of milk every day, do not eat meat-filled buns for breakfast, children learn to read books with sufficient light, etc., these clear and simple requirements, with the goal of good children, sincere and peaceful communication, the older generation should be willing to cooperate and do a good job.
Fourth, the child is his own, and there is no condition to create conditions, so take care of the child by himself. Although it is very important to make money, children only grow up once, and the absence of parental companionship and family education has a significant impact on a person's life. We can't afford to lose sight of one over the other, and we still have to make some sacrifices, but it shouldn't be the children who are sacrificed.