My family has an old family tradition. When I was a child, I heard from my father that our family skills had been passed down for hundreds of years.
It's already a tradition in my family.
It's been some time since my ex-wife and I divorced. After the divorce, I gave my ex-wife 2,000 yuan in alimony on time every month so that she could raise our children.
I learned that my ex-wife actually bought a new car recently, and it was a very expensive one.
When I found out about this, I was very angry and puzzled. I feel that even if I give her 2,000 yuan a month in child support, she should not be able to afford to buy such an expensive car.
I called my ex-wife and asked her to come over on the weekend. She agreed, saying she wanted to talk to me too.
We sat down and I asked her directly why she would suddenly buy such an expensive car.
Who are you to interfere with my spending?My ex-wife looked at me and said with a fierce expression, "You have been away from me for a long time, and I have the right to live my own life."
I don't mean to interfere with your spending," I said with some annoyance, "but our monthly child support is only for raising children, how can you possibly use it to buy luxury goods?".”
Don't you think I don't deserve a good car?The ex-wife asked rhetorically, "Do I have to live so poorly?"The alimony you give is simply not enough for us to live on.
I was a little confused by her words. I always give her 2,000 yuan in child support every month, and I also visit the children regularly to ensure that they have no problems in life and Xi.
What you say is so unfair," I said with some anger, "how can I be irresponsible?".”
Responsible?Have you really asked the kids what they want?The ex-wife's voice was choked with a hint of choking, "They already want to live with you, they want a complete home."
I was a little confused by my ex-wife's words. I always thought that the children preferred to live with their ex-wives because she had more time and energy to take care of them than I did.
I ......I was a little speechless, "I'll think about how to make the kids happier." ”
My ex-wife left my home, and I was deeply moved by her words. I always thought that the amount of child support and time I spent caring for the children was enough, but in reality, what the children needed more was a complete home.
As I spent more and more time with my children, I discovered that there were many things in their emotional world that I could not have imagined before.
This was very gratifying, but at the same time I felt a little overwhelmed. My busy schedule keeps me from dedicating myself to them, and it makes me feel a little guilty.
One day, I received a ** from my son's teacher, saying that his recent Xi state has declined a little. I decided to go to school and talk to my son, I wanted to know what was going on in his heart.
In the conversation room of the school, I saw my son lying on the table with his head buried, and the country fighting with a test paper.
The son looked up, his eyes red, apparently just crying. "Daddy......He stammered, "I ......."I seem to miss my mom more and more, and I don't know what to do.
Hearing my son say this, I felt a piercing pain in my heart. The impact of divorce on the children, I always felt that they were not obvious.
I picked up my son, patted him on the back gently, and told him not to worry and that I would do my best to help him through this.
When I left school, I was filled with contradictions and anxieties. I wanted to give my children a complete home, but it didn't seem to be possible.
Children may need much more than just material things.
When I got home, I calmed down and started spending more time with my kids. Instead of just making amends with child support, I try to understand their needs and help them open up.
After that, I started talking to the children more often and spending more time with them. I also had a more in-depth communication with my ex-wife, and we decided to work together to create a more harmonious and welcoming family environment for our children.
One day, I suddenly received the ** from the children's school. They told me that the children have been feeling a little depressed at school lately, and their grades have been slipping.
In the school meeting room, the teacher told us that the children's grades had indeed dropped recently, and that they were lacking the energy and engagement they used to have in the classroom.
The teacher suggested that we pay more attention to the children's learning Xi and life, and give more support and encouragement.
Maybe they just need more care and attention. The ex-wife offered her opinion, "Maybe we need to spend more time with them."
I agree," I nodded in agreement, "and we'll definitely try to make a difference so that the kids can have a better time."
However, when I got home, I stumbled upon a recent credit card statement. On the bill, I was shocked by the fact that there was a record of a high amount of shopping spending.
I anxiously found my ex-wife and handed her the bill, emphasizing where we are now, especially for the sake of the children.
It's my own business, and it has nothing to do with you. The ex-wife said resolutely, "You said we need to spend more time with the children, and I just spent some money to renovate the children's rooms."
Then, I noticed that my attitude towards my ex-wife was also a little rougher. We had previously divorced due to emotional and family conflicts, but I can't deny that for our children, my ex-wife is an indispensable support in their lives.
After all, their final choice is more important.
However, just as we were discussing a stronger family, an anonymous letter came into my life.
The letter wrote that the ex-wife, under the banner of raising children, was actually for her own luxury consumption, and invited many strange men to enter our former home without my knowledge, which had a great negative impact on the children's growth environment.
These words shocked me, and countless doubts welled up in my mind. Could it be that I was confused by my ex-wife's justification?Is she really here for the sake of her children's lives, or does she have some other deeper purpose?I was caught in a deep conflict.
All of this made me struggle even deeper, and I began to doubt my previous choices.
After the child support incident, I tried to work harder and care for the kids. We had some great time together and I also provided more support financially.
However, just when it seemed that we were slowly repairing our relationship, I received news that shocked me.
She accused me of not giving her a portion of the family fortune as agreed before. I was shocked and outraged to hear such accusations.
But she claimed that this was our pre-marriage agreement and that she had the right to claim my family property.