Webb once said:
"Communication is an all-encompassing art that allows you to express your thoughts and dreams in an effective way. ”
Communication is essential whenever you want to connect with someone, regardless of who they are.
In the process of communication, we always have to share our emotions of joy, anger and sorrow, and tell specific stories and energies related to ourselves.
Sometimes if you let your guard down too much, you will confide in things you shouldn't say, which will not only embarrass you, but also hurt others.
It's easy to lose a lot of words, your mouth is quick to get into trouble, and the more you talk, the better, you must know how to be relaxed, and you must not talk nonsense when you should shut up.
Especially these 3 things, no matter who you talk to, don't talk about them easily, the less you talk, the more good fortune you can get.
Show off your superiority less
In everyone's heart, there will be a feeling of envy and jealousy for what others have but not themselves.
This is nature, there is nothing to blame, but the most afraid thing is that knowing this, there are still people who want to show off to others.
When you are complacent and complacent, others may hear or see a completely different scene.
People with low self-esteem will feel that they are even inferior, and those with ill intentions may also play tricks behind their backs.
Just because of a momentary vanity, let yourself fall into the target of the public, just because of a short show off, let others disgust themselves and stimulate contradictions.
As Thomas Fuller said:"Jealousy is a sharp ray that stings others and makes them lose both. ”
In the TV series "Deep Love and Rain", Yiping came to her father's mansion to get money under the heavy rain, and was drenched and very embarrassed.
At this time, the brightly dressed Ruping came downstairs to see her, such a big contrast made Yiping feel unfair in her heart, and she was very unhappy in her heart.
At this time, Ruping showed off her bracelet to her, and said that she had spent a lot of money to buy it, and her words were full of pride.
In fact, Ruping has no malicious intentions, but she doesn't know how to restrain herself, which makes Yiping see her showing off as a provocation to herself.
Really smart people know how to put away their edges at the right time and be low-key, rather than letting them stab others in the eyes.
Talk less about life's troubles
In life, there is never a smooth sailing, which only exists in the good wishes of others for themselves, not reality.
As long as you live, you will have countless troubles, and you will encounter a thousand setbacks and countless blows that life has brought to you.
Especially after entering the society, no one can shelter themselves from the wind and rain, and no one can live under the wings of others forever.
Some people are Xi to digesting these negative emotions on their own, while others like to talk to others everywhere in the hope that others will empathize.
is like Mr. Lu Xun's sister-in-law in "Blessing", her background is very low, and fate has not favored her, and she has suffered many misfortunes.
was first sold to someone else by the evil mother-in-law, forced to remarry, and finally lived a peaceful life, and her husband and children died one after another.
She herself was tortured by reality and almost went crazy, and when she met people, she told the story of her child being taken away by wolves, and chewed on this experience repeatedly.
At first, everyone was very sympathetic to her plight and willing to help her share her worries and sufferings, but after listening to her too much, they all felt that her chatter was annoying.
As Churchill said:
"Complaining is a sign of cowardice, it will not change the person or thing you accuse, it will only make you ugly in the eyes of others. ”
After all, only you can clearly understand whether life is good or bad, and it will not increase or decrease because you share it with others.
The troubles are your own, the pleasures are your own, and complaining endlessly won't change anything in reality, it will only sink you deeper.
Don't talk about the rights and wrongs of others
Everyone's mouth is actually the sharpest blade on his body, a word can make friends, and a word can also form a grudge.
In reality, no one likes to be talked about behind the back, and once this fact is discovered, it will inevitably have disputes and contradictions.
But some people just can't control their mouths, and like to chase wind and shadows everywhere, inquire about some gossip news, and publicize it.
Even in the process of spreading, relying on his own imagination to add fuel and vinegar to others, so that others fall into a greater crisis.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Yang Xiu, the chief bookkeeper under Cao Cao's account, was talented and erudite, but he never attracted Cao Cao's love.
It stands to reason that Cao Cao usually appreciates talented people, and the reason why Yang Xiu is not reused is not unrelated to his mouth.
Before Cao Cao decided on the heir, Yang Xiu sided with Cao Zhi and taught Cao Zhi how to win favor behind his back many times.
Cao Cao actually knew about Yang Xiu's behavior of discussing his family affairs behind his back, and he was also very disgusted with his clever behavior.
After determining Cao Pi as his ** person, he casually found a reason to demote Yang Xiu and kill him.
There is a saying in the Analects:"Hearsay and scribble, Lourdes abandoned. ”
The rights and wrongs of others have nothing to do with themselves, and there is no need to wade into troubled waters, making it difficult for them to ride a tiger and be in a dilemma.
Only by staying away from unnecessary rights and wrongs, turning the focus of life to oneself and improving one's abilities can we achieve rapid development.
Li Kang said in "The Theory of Fortune":
"The wood is beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it; Heaps out of the shore, and the flow will be turbulent; Walk above men, and the crowd will not. ”
It is wisdom to keep silent, not to easily talk about other people's affairs, to keep secrets, and not to disclose personal affairs.
Live in the present, don't talk nonsense, don't do things randomly, and be cautious in words and deeds is the great wisdom of dealing with the world.
You need to go through your own life, so that you can be at ease and avoid disasters and blessings.
May you and I be able to keep our mouths shut and guard our hearts like mirrors in our lives, sit on good fortunes, and have a more dazzling future.