Have you ever met a guy who doesn't seem to be proactive, enthusiastic, or caring enough about your feelings?Have you ever wondered why he didn't take the initiative, what exactly was he thinking, and what was his attitude towards you?If you have these doubts and confusions, then you should definitely take a look at this article, it will reveal to you, the true thoughts of the guy who is in a relationship not taking the initiative, and how you should deal with it, so that your relationship is more stable, sweeter, and happier.
This is probably the most brutal and realistic reason. Some guys don't take the initiative because their feelings for you are not deep enough, not true enough, and not firm enough. They just see you as a friend, a partner, a playmate. They won't take you to heart and they won't treat you as an important person in their lives. They won't give for you, sacrifice for you, promise for you. They won't change for you, work for you, fight for you.
If your boyfriend is such a person, then you have to think about whether you want to continue to be with him, whether you can tolerate his indifference, and whether you can meet his needs. You have to understand that a man who really loves you, he will subconsciously care about you, afraid that you are cold, hot, and hungry, instead of waiting for you to contact him. The person who loves you is willing to take care of you, you have to believe that such a man exists, as long as you are brave enough to let go, you will meet him.
This is probably the most common and the most overlooked. Some guys don't take the initiative because they are not confident enough in their abilities, they feel that they are not good enough, and they are afraid that they will not be attractive and will not attract your attention. There are even more people with low self-esteem, although they like you, but they feel that they are not worthy of you, they are not worthy of your love, and they dare not think about your future.
Therefore, this type of man will neither take the initiative to fight for you, nor dare to take the initiative to confess and contact, but will only wait and pay silently, waiting for you to have a heart-to-heart with him.
If your boyfriend is such a person, then you have to encourage him well, you have to give him enough trust, enough support, enough affirmation. You have to let him know that what you care about is his heart, his character, and the love he gives you, not money or appearance and status. You have to let him know that you feel that he deserves you, that he deserves your love, and that as long as the two of you work together, there will be a better future.
This is probably the most prevalent and the hardest reason to change. Some boys don't take the initiative because they are not emotionally mature, rational and responsible. They feel that although the relationship is good, they will also be afraid of the responsibility in the relationship.
They seem to be loyal and loyal, but in their hearts they are afraid of a deeper intersection, afraid that this relationship will become a burden on both parties and make him breathless, so he will only passively accept it if he is immature.
If your boyfriend is such a person, then you have to educate him well, give him the opportunity and space to grow, but also let him know your bottom line and not make you wait too long. An immature man, if he can't grow up, the woman in this relationship will be very tired, and in the end she will only die of nothing.
Good love is mutual, not only one party to give, only two people work together to have a better future.
If the man is always not active enough, not enthusiastic enough, and not caring enough about the relationship, it will not only affect the quality of your relationship, but also affect the stability of your relationship, and even affect the outcome of your relationship.
Therefore, as a woman, you should also keep an eye on it, analyze his thoughts, judge his situation, adjust your attitude, and let both parties grow together.
In short, if you love him, you must grow up with him, and let him feel your maturity and tenderness. If you feel that he is not worth your wait and dedication, or that his immaturity, etc., has caused you too much pain and distress, then you can also choose to let go and find someone who is more suitable for you.