I've been working in the system for 30 years, and I've gone through two systems, so I won't name them. I contacted many colleagues and found that there were many extramarital affairs in the office within the system.
My colleague Xiaofan, whose name is quite young, but she is a proper post-70s generation. Xiaofan's extramarital affair has something to do with her husband and wife's life.
Xiaofan was born in 78 years, 170cm tall, weighing 120 pounds. has a pair of Danfeng eyes, and is born to flirt with eyebrows. When she was young, she had many suitors, but she got along with a driver in the unit, who had been a soldier for three years, demobilized and resettled, and had low education, but high emotional intelligence. While falling in love with Xiaofan, he was involved with the leader's daughter, and two years later he became the leader's concubine.
Xiao Fan was very sad and didn't come out for a long time. until she met her current husband Jianjun. Jianjun's hometown is rural, and he also served as a soldier in the army, but he performed well and was promoted. Later, he went to a military school and had a diploma. When I met Xiao Fan, he was 30 years old, he was a company commander in the army, he was 5 years older than Xiao Fan, and Xiao Fan was 25 years old.
Jianjun was close to Xiaofan's father's colleague, and the colleague also knew both sides well, and felt that the two young people were a good match, so he became an introducer. To be exact, it was Xiao Fan's father who fell in love with Jianjun, with a height of 180cm and a tall figure. He has been training in the army for many years, neither humble nor arrogant, and he has eyesight.
The two began to date, Jianjun was a bit machismo, and always treated Xiaofan as a child. Xiaofan also likes this feeling, she is the eldest in the family and has a younger brother, and she has always let her younger brother take care of her younger brother. Now there is someone who takes care of her, spoils her, is also a teacher and a friend, and feels a little bit of a brother, which is good.
A year later, the two got married, Xiaofan's life has not changed much, and he still eats and lives at his parents' house, because the troops of the Jianjun are in the field and go home several times a year. The separation of the two places is a kind of torture for the newly married couple, and there is no cure for that kind of lovesickness. Until she had a child, Xiaofan's life became busy, going to and from work, taking care of the children, not caring about wanting to build an army, and her daughter filled her life to the full.
Time passes without delay, and the days go on and on. Xiaofan's unit assigns a demobilized cadre to be called National Day. The National Day is 76 years, 2 years older than Xiaofan, considered a peer, a deputy business, and Xiaofan is in the same office. He knew that Xiao Fan's lover was in the army, and he suddenly had a sense of intimacy and endless topics to talk about. Not to mention, they are really fated, the two families are quite close, and the children are in the same school, in different classes in the same class. The lover of the National Day is a doctor, and he is also busy every day, and the National Day undertakes most of the housework at home. He can understand Xiaofan's hard work, and sometimes he helps Xiaofan pick up and drop off children, in his words, one is also raising, two is also put, and one foot of oil is a matter of oil.
After a long time, even they don't know what started the relationship between the two people has changed, from colleagues to lovers. At first, I hid it from everyone, but I couldn't contain the fire in the paper, and slowly my colleagues knew about it. Only Jianjun and Guoqing's daughters-in-law don't know, because they are together during the day and go back to their respective homes at night.
This extramarital affair lasted until Jianjun returned to the local government, at this time Jianjun was already 45 years old, and the main regiment was not mentioned, so he was transferred to the local government and arranged to be a section chief in the city's ** organ. Xiao Fan and National Day have converged a lot, but how can there be an impermeable wall, Jianjun heard the rumors and talked to Xiao Fan officially. Of course, Xiao Fan didn't admit it, but he also knew. She and Guoqing must break off, because neither of them has any plans to divorce.
The cost of divorce is too great, not only will it destroy a family, but it will also hurt parents and children, and it will also make you unable to gain a foothold in society, and no one can bear this consequence.
Nearly 10 years of extramarital affairs ended in this way, without fighting, making trouble, or entanglement. If you want to say that you don't love, what is a 10-year relationship, and it's a bit blasphemous to say love. It can only be said that the feelings of adults are not so simple, including cost accounting, and it is gratifying that they have made a rational choice.