My name is Lin Yue, I am 35 years old and I am a middle school teacher. My husband's name is Zhao Gang and he is a civil servant. We have a lovely daughter who is in primary school. Our family is harmonious and happy in the eyes of outsiders, but in fact it hides many hidden contradictions and problems.
Every year, the Spring Festival is the most tense time for our family. As soon as the Chinese New Year comes, my mother-in-law will find all kinds of reasons to quarrel with me. Sometimes it's because the food doesn't fit, sometimes it's because of the furnishings at home, and sometimes it's even because of some trivial things. At first, I tried to tolerate and explain, but as time went by, I found that my mother-in-law's behavior became more and more excessive, and even a little vexatious.
One year during the Spring Festival, my mother-in-law was angry in front of the whole family because she was dissatisfied with the new clothes I bought for her. She loudly accused me of buying a bargain and disrespecting her. I felt very aggrieved because that dress was a style that she had previously made clear that she liked. In order to avoid a bigger argument, I tried to stay calm and explained, "Mom, this is the style you said you liked before, and it is also within the range of what you can afford. But my mother-in-law refused to give up, and continued to count my mistakes.
When Zhao Gang saw this scene, he just sighed helplessly and didn't stand up to speak for me. I felt chills and a little disappointed. Such scenes have played out frequently in my relationship with my mother-in-law, and I have no power to save this deformed relationship.
Until one year, on the eve of the Spring Festival, Zhao Gang took the initiative to talk to me. He said: "Yueyue, I know that you have suffered a lot of grievances over the years. I didn't do my duty as a husband and didn't play a mediating role between you and my mother. I want to change that. Hearing him say that, I felt a little relieved.
On the day of the Spring Festival, Zhao Gang offered to let my daughter and I travel for the New Year. He said it was to lighten the family atmosphere and let us relax. During the trip, I reflected on my performance in the family and my relationship with my mother-in-law. I realized that conflicts and problems in the family need to be resolved by both parties, rather than blindly tolerating and avoiding.
When I came back, I decided to be honest with my mother-in-law and communicate well. I told my mother-in-law about my feelings and confusion in the hope that she would understand my situation. At the same time, I also reminded her to pay attention to her words and actions and not to let emotions control our relationship. To my surprise, my mother-in-law also shed tears, admitting that her behavior was a bit excessive and expressing her willingness to change herself.
Since then, the atmosphere in our family has gradually become harmonious. My mother-in-law no longer loses her temper at will, and the communication between us has become smoother. Zhao Gang is also actively involved in family life, sharing the responsibilities of housework and taking care of his daughter. I have found that the happiness of the family requires everyone's efforts and dedication, and only mutual understanding and support can make the family more happy and harmonious.