In 12 days, the child will be 12 years old, and yesterday there was a lecture at the school, and the main teacher was a psychological counselor, and the main content was communication skills with the child. After listening to it, I was deeply touched, and I also found that in fact, I used to think that communication with children was a unilateral output, and it was some ineffective communication.
First of all, the teacher said that life should have a sense of ceremony, this is really important, I remember when I first got married, the sense of ceremony is very strong, birthday, wedding anniversary, will give each other a small gift, a small surprise, but I don't know when it started, he doesn't remember my birthday, his birthday I will also ignore, the wedding anniversary is a few years have not passed, because they have forgotten, the only thing I remember is the child's birthday. Is it because of busyness, for this reason, I feel that our life is the opposite, every day for money is running, it is true that in the past two years, I have earned some money, have some savings, and buy things, but is life really like this?We don't have time to enjoy life, we don't even have time to feel about life, we are busy every day, lying in bed at the end of the day, our minds are chaotic, and we don't know what we are at the end of the day. Last night, I listened to an economics class, and the teacher said that many people have fallen into the trap of the rat race, that is, we work hard, work hard to earn money, and then earn money with high consumption and high taxes, and then the money is gone, and we have to work hard again, and the cycle continues, which is the rat race. In fact, you should really stop and look at the surrounding scenery, accompany the people around you, and occasionally add a sense of ritual to your life, so that life will not be so boring.
Then the teacher also said that the sense of ritual is also very important in the process of communication, and the teacher pointed out four suitable places for communication: McDonald's, KFC, Pizza Hut, and Starbucks. Two people, two cups of coffee, a piece of cake, and a quiet conversation, what problem can't be solved?Never try to communicate at home, as it is easy to lose control and cause a disaster scene. The teacher also pointed out that communication is the expression of both parties, not a one-sided output, to listen carefully to the child's voice, accept that the child also has his own ideas, acceptable but not agree, especially the child who is about to enter puberty, they have a strong sense of independence, if you do not respect the child's ideas, the final result is that the child and the parent become strangers. I remember that a colleague before was that when the child was in high school and was officially rebellious, he often didn't talk to his mother for a month, and the mother wanted to understand the child only through the classmates around her, and asked from the side, which was a communication problem.
My child is about to be 12 years old, and after the age of 12, he will enter the teenage years, and many problems will arise, and it is really difficult for parents to do at this time, and they must try to change their attitude towards their children, not as a child, but as a friend who can talk to and confide. Only by valuing and respecting children in their hearts can they make children respect their parents equally.