"I was a very introverted and shy child since I was a child, and I was always afraid to interact with people, let alone have conflicts with people. In order to avoid conflicts with others, I always Xi putting my own feelings last and prioritizing the feelings and opinions of others. This Xi habit of humbling and flattering behavior continues into adulthood.
Growing up, I realized that this humble and flattering behavior had a lot of negative effects on myself. First of all, I was often bullied, and some people would take advantage of my humble and flattering personality. Secondly, I often put myself in extreme anxiety and insecurity, worrying that I was not doing well enough, and that others would be dissatisfied with me. This long-term psychological pressure prevents me from focusing on my growth and development.
In order to change this Xi habitual humiliation and flattery, I tried to learn some self-confidence and social skills Xi. However, these tips didn't really help me get out of the lowly and flattering behavior patterns. Until one day, I realized that this pattern of behavior had a strong relationship with my self-esteem and self-worth.
I began to reflect on my behavior from the bottom of my heart and realized that this humble and flattering behavior was actually due to my lack of self-esteem and self-worth. I realized that this pattern of behavior can only be truly changed by boosting my self-esteem and self-worth.
I started to improve my self-esteem and self-worth by learning Xi some knowledge of self-growth and psychology. I have participated in some self-growth courses and activities, and read some books and articles on self-growth. This knowledge and experience has allowed me to gradually realize my own value and importance, and gradually get rid of that lowly and flattering behavior pattern.
In the process of changing behavior patterns, I learned how to better express my feelings and opinions. I am no longer afraid of conflict with people or expressing my ideas, but I dare to face problems and find solutions. This change has made me more confident and independent, and it has also made me more comfortable socially.
Through this process, I deeply realized that Xi's habitual behavior of humbling and pleasing others will not only bring a lot of negative effects to myself, but also make myself lose my self-worth and self-esteem. Changing this pattern of behavior requires reflecting on one's own behavior from the depths of one's heart and constantly improving one's self-esteem and self-worth. Only in this way can you truly get rid of this bad behavior pattern and make yourself more confident, independent and valuable. ”