“When I was 8 years old, I was still Chinese. My Vietnamese mother brought me and my brother back to Vietnam, and my Guangdong father chased his wife for thousands of miles, and finally brought my brother home alone. ”
At the age of 24, I was already Vietnamese, and I returned to my beloved homeland as an international student to reunite with my father and brother. ”
This is the words of a Vietnamese girl who faces the camera, and her life has taken a major turn because of the breakdown of her parents' relationship.
So, what kind of untold story happened to her?What's going on with her now?The most famous person in this issue will take you into the legendary life of this Vietnamese girl!
The protagonist of the story is named Huang Tianying, who was born in 1994 in a poor mountain village in Maoming, Guangdong. There is a father and mother who love her at home, and an older brother who lets her do everything.
Huang Tianying. However, the life of this family of four is not warm. For as long as Huang Tianying can remember, his father and mother have always quarreled.
Huang Tianying's mother is a relatively strong woman, she works hard, she has to take care of her two children at home every day in addition to work, and she wants to strive for a better life for her two children by working hard.
And Huang Tianying's father is a person who is more content with the status quoHe just wants to enjoy the present comfortably, and he doesn't want to bother planning for the future of his children.
Huang Tianying's father and mother.
The days passed day by day, and in a blink of an eye, Huang Tianying reached the age of going to school, and her brother had already started studying, but for this girl, the family didn't seem to want her to go to school.
Huang Tianying's mother, to put it mildly, borrowed 700 yuan from her father-in-law to send Huang Tianying to school. But not long after, my father-in-law came to the door to ask for the money to be lent out.
Yes, the local education resources are limited, so what can children read like if they read?Most girls help with housework at home, and when they reach a certain age, they just marry off to a good family.
No one understands why Ms. Huang's mother had to let her children read.
Huang Tianying's mother has been in worse and worse physical condition since she gave birth to a child, and her father is unmotivated, and he can't even guarantee the future of the child, which makes Huang Tianying's mother's heart completely dead.
One afternoon in 2002, before it was time for school to end, 8-year-old Huang Tianying was called out of the classroom by a teacher who said that her mother was waiting for her at the school gate and had something to say.
Huang Tianying trotted out for some reason, and her brother ran outside the school gate together, and when she saw the two children, her mother hugged them excitedly and took them into a car.
Huang Tianying's grandmother.
In the car, their mother told them that she wanted to take them to their grandmother's house for a while.
Is my grandmother's house my mother's former home?”
yes, that's where my mom grew up!”
I've never heard my mother talk about it before, it's far away?”
Yes, my grandmother's house is far away, and my mother hasn't been home for many years.
The road was really far, and they reversed several times halfway, but Huang Tianying and her brother were very sensible, although they didn't know where to go next, they still followed their mother obediently.
But when they really arrived at their grandmother's house, Huang Tianying and her brother felt extremely frightened, and her grandparents' house was full of people, although they seemed to like the brother and sister very much, and there was nothing strange about their appearance, but they were talking to each other, but Huang Tianying and her brother couldn't understand a word.
My grandparents had been playing sign language with my brother and sister all the time, but the two children were scared and cried.
Huang Tianying and her brother looked at their mother as if asking for help, and their mother told them"This is Vietnam, it's my mother's hometown. "From now on, you can live here with your mother, and we will never go back to China." ”
And what about Dad?”
When Huang Tianying and her brother asked this sentence, their mother just responded with a long sigh.
At this time, the two children cried even louder.
Huang Tianying's father didn't see his wife and children for several days, and his hair turned gray in a hurry, so he searched all over Guangdong and Guangxi, but he didn't find any clues.
Realizing that his wife might have returned to Vietnam with the children, Huang Tianying's father hurriedly asked someone to inquire about another Vietnamese daughter-in-law in the villageWith the help of the other party, he also came to Vietnam.
In this way, Huang Tianying and his brother saw their father who had been separated for several months in Vietnam. The brother and sister were very emotional and immediately wanted to follow their father.
The mother cried for the sake of her children's future, begging them to stay.
At that time, the children were ignorant, and they always felt that the breakdown of the family was because of their mother, and if she could go back to live well with her father, why would the family be like this.
At that time, Huang Tianying's brother was relatively old, and he resisted fiercely, and kept slapping his mother with his hands. Huang Tianying is young and relatively easy to speak, and she can't see her mother's sad and sad appearance.
After many discussions, it was finally decided that my father would take my brother back to China, and my mother would stay in Vietnam with Huang Tianying. It is also "fair" for two people to have one child each.
Having said that, there is no point in dwelling on it anymore.
After that, Huang Tianying lived with her mother and grandparents in Vietnam.
Huang Tianying's grandfather is an associate professor at a university, and her grandmother is a **, and her local family is relatively wealthy in Vietnam. It did bring Huang Tianying better living conditions.
Both grandparents and grandparents love their daughter and granddaughter very much, and they have made great efforts to get Huang Tianying's household registration, and they also paid for Huang Tianying to go to school and receive education in Vietnam.
Huang Tianying's mother also opened a small shop with the help of her grandfather, and she has a stable income, so she doesn't have to work as hard as before.
Mother has more time to spend with Huang Tianying, and grandparents also come to the house from time to time, they will cook Huang Tianying's favorite meals, and will bring small gifts to make her happy.
Although her relatives in Vietnam are very kind to Huang Tianying, somehow, Huang Tianying's heart is always thinking about her father and brother who are far away in China.
A few years later, Huang Tianying's father and brother visited them in VietnamSeeing that they were living a fairly stable life, his father did not insist on bringing Huang Tianying back, but hoped that he could contact them diligently in the future.
At that time, there was no mobile phone, not as developed as it is now, and even a fixed ** was not available to everyone at home, so her father could only leave Huang Tianying a fixed ** number for her third father's family, and repeatedly told her to keep in mind that if she was homesick, she would call back a**.
When she was in junior high school, Huang Tianying finally had the first flip phone in her life, she cried happily and tried to call her father and brother.
Because international long-distance ** is very expensive, Huang Tianying only dares to communicate with her father and brother for a short time every time, but even so, she is already very content.
Later, the times continued to develop, and finally there was online chat software, Huang Tianying learned how to ** under the teaching of his brother, and they finally didn't have to worry about the ** fee.
Huang Tianying and her brother.
The brother and sister have had a good relationship since childhood, and now they are holding their mobile phones from time to time and chatting non-stop. Every time Huang Tianying saw a message from her brother, she would burst into tears.
My brother has always been thinking about Huang Tianying and his mother, in Huang Tianying's impression, my brother is very bold, when he was in junior high school, his brother once secretly ran from China to Vietnam to see Huang Tianying and his mother.
The arrival of her brother made Huang Tianying and her mother excited, although they knew that they could not stay together for a long time, but my brother still came, just take a look, just take a look.
Soon after, my brother was going back to China, and when I was leaving, my brother promised Huang Tianying that he would make a lot of money in the future and come back to them.
My brother has been gone for many years.
The brother and sister have been in online contact, and in the chat with her brother, Huang Tianying learned that because of family reasons, her brother dropped out of school early and went out to work.
Going home for reunion and going to find her father and brother has become an obsession in Huang Tianying's heart.
Because she has always felt that she is a Chinese, although she has lived in Vietnam for many years, she has never felt a sense of home. She has been persevering in learning Chinese, and she is afraid of forgetting, afraid that one day she will go home and forget the language of her homeland.
This obsession influenced many of her later choices.
In high school, Huang Tianying actively participated in the school's Chinese club, which was full of Vietnamese and interested in Chinese language and culture, and Huang Tianying always substituted himself as a Chinese to tell his friends how good China is.
Later, Huang Tianying was admitted to a university in Vietnam with excellent grades to study Chinese.
In 2018, after graduating from university, Huang Tianying gave up the opportunity to work as a Chinese teacher in Vietnam and wanted to return to China to develop and find her father and brother.
Huang Tianying's idea was opposed by her relatives in Vietnam, and her grandmother and mother were afraid that Huang Tianying would not come back.
But it's been 14 years, she has been thinking about this matter for 14 years, and she can choose her own life, and at Huang Tianying's insistence, the family finally relented.
In September 2018, Huang Tianying returned to China as a Vietnamese student. When she returned to China, she couldn't hide the excitement in her heart.
In the process of studying in Guangdong, Huang Tianying found her father and brother. At the moment of meeting, the longing for years of separation exploded, and everyone burst into tears.
Huang Tianying's father never dreamed that the girl would come back to him.
After that, Huang Tianying would accompany her father whenever she had time. She gave her father a cup printed with a photo of them, took her father to travel to Baiyun Mountain in Guangzhou, and told her father about her life over the years.
Huang Tianying's father took out the family's household registration book to show her, and the household registration book was onThe page that belonged to Huang Tianying is still preserved today. Although it is invalid, whenever he sees his daughter's name, he feels that his daughter seems to be still waiting for him at home.
Since Huang Tianying and her mother went to Vietnam, her father has been away from his hometown and went to Guangxi to work, so that he can be closer to them, and at the same time, he does not have to face the place where the family has lived every day.
Speaking of what happened back then, Huang Tianying's father always felt very guilty, it was his own fault that made the family break up. Whenever this happens, Huang Tianying will keep comforting her fatherIt doesn't matter, she went back to China and is never going to leave, this home has never been scattered.
Accompanied by his daughter, Huang Tianying's father has also changed a lot, and his mental state has improved, as if he is getting younger and younger. The smile on his face gradually increased, and he learned how to express himself.
Huang Tianying's mother didn't react much, it seemed that the moment her daughter returned to China, she knew that there would be such a dayShe is still living her ordinary and stable life in Vietnam.
During this period of study in China, Huang Tianying also found the other half of his heart. The other party is a Chinese, and he likes this sunny and cheerful girl very much.
The two have a lot of common topics and hobbies, and the other party is very tolerant of Huang Tianying and is very willing to help Huang Tianying within his ability.
In daily interactions, Huang Tianying always feels extremely happy and relaxed.
After Huang Tianying's parents learned about this, they didn't intervene too much, just hoping that their daughter could find her own happiness.
In September 2021, Huang Tianying and her boyfriend received a marriage certificate in China, she turned into a Chinese daughter-in-law. Although her nationality cannot be changed back, her children are Chinese again.
Huang Tianying has become a family in China, and her parents often go to their daughter's place, and the relationship has eased.
Seeing this situation, Huang Tianying and her brother's hearts flashed with a hint of joy, because they had always had an idea, that is, to reunite this family.
But they are not sure, they don't know if their parents have been separated for so long, and whether they still have feelings, but one thing is for sure, their parents love their brother and sister deeply, because of the two of them, even if there is no love, family affection still exists.
Huang Tianying desperately hopes that her parents can let go of the stones in their hearts and let all contradictions and resentments slowly disappear with time.
In January 2023, with the efforts of the family, Huang Tianying's mother finally returned to China to celebrate the Spring Festival with them.
From the happy eyes of the mother, it can be seen that she is also very happy. It's just that the only thing I can't let go of is that my grandmother is at home alone, and I can't bring my grandmother to China with me.
Huang Tianying's mother must have had a fierce ideological struggle before she chose to return to this home.
Huang Tianying and her brother also understand that their parents have been separated for nearly 20 years, and although their current life is not much rich, they are both a little more tolerant. If you can really be each other's companions in your old age, it will be a good result for your parents and for them.
At the end of 2023, Huang Tianying revealed on social platforms that she was pregnant, and her husband's family was very good to her. And she also has her own business in China.
Now, the whole family is looking forward to the arrival of this little life.
Netizens sent their blessings to her, and everyone was curious whether Huang Tianying would give birth to a boy or a girl. What do you think about you in front of the screen?