The first time I read "Mao Xuan", I just looked at the general situation, knew what it talked about, and what parts had to be reread. When I read it a second time, I read every paragraph, every sentence, and took notes.
Although I excerpted a lot of golden sentences, and some of them could still be memorized, when I Xi these golden sentences, I was still shocked by three of them. When you see these words, you may think that they are normal, and they can be used on yourself, and you may also be surprised.
1. If we have shortcomings, we are not afraid of being criticized and pointed out. It doesn't matter who it is, whoever points it out to us. As long as you are right, we will correct it.
This sentence is from "Serving the People", which was said by *** in his speech at Zhang Side's memorial service. I use the correct nonsense to say that this sentence embodies a spirit of openness and self-criticism, but as far as I can observe,More than 90% of the people around me can't do it. For example, some people say that they are willing to accept everyone's criticism during a meeting, but when someone points out that they are not doing something right, they are not happy, and they either argue with reason or appear unhappy. Even if he accepts your criticism on the surface, he says behind his back that you don't give him face and smashes his field.
Actually, I'm the same, I'm just as unhappy when someone criticizes me or says about my shortcomings. Later, after pondering this sentence, my attitude changed. However, my displeasure was directly expressed, and sometimes I refuted the other party, but I dared to change, and I think this is a relatively big improvement.
2. The so-called opportunism means that if it is advantageous to do this thing here, and if it is advantageous to do that thing, there is no certain principle, no certain constitution, no certain direction, he is like this today, and he will be like that tomorrow.
Opportunism is a very common phenomenon in our lives, where some people abandon principles and long-term goals in pursuit of immediate benefits.
This is to say that opportunism is an act without principles, without a charter, without direction, and we cannot have such behavior. Because this kind of opportunism not only hurts the credibility of the individual, but also has a negative impact on one's own personal development.
When I read this sentence, I had a feeling of being shocked, because in a city like Shenzhen, which is surrounded by immediate interestsThere are opportunists everywhere, and I used to be one of them. To put it bluntly, I saw for a while what I could do to make money, so I immediately went to do it, pursuing the so-called outlet. Although he made a little money, he left his main business behind.
If I have been insisting on developing my main business, the income will be far higher than looking for opportunities everywhere. So I blushed when I read this, but fortunately, I woke up in time and didn't take many detours.
3. The so-called unity is to unite those who have differences of opinion with themselves, look down on themselves, do not respect themselves, have had awkward problems with themselves, have struggled with themselves, and have suffered losses in front of them.
Seriously, I can't do this right now, although I'm trying to unite everyone who can be united, but some people really can't communicate, which means that I'm not doing it well.
When I read this sentence, I didn't take it seriously after reading it once, but I was really taken to heart after being shocked by it. In fact, everyone is similar, and they are only willing to play with people who agree with them, respect each other, and like each other.
But this quote tells me that true solidarity includes not only those who agree with me, but also those who disagree with me and even have conflicts with me. If you have this mind, you can break the circle, you can become friends with people from different circles, and your road will definitely get wider and wider.
So, don't limit yourself, what ifIt is a group of people who accompany you to eat, drink and have fun, and the work is still that group of people, and the circle is too small。Go out and meet different people, even if it's someone you don't really like.
When I read these three sentences in "Mao Xuan" again, it made me re-examine myself and the world around me, try to correct my wrong perceptions, put myself on the right path, and pay great attention to the relationship with others in interpersonal attention, and no longer refuse to associate with a person because I hate it.
The important thing is that I start to accept criticism from others and be willing to follow other people's suggestions to improve, which is already a very big improvement for me, and I hope these three sentences can help you.