In life's journey, many times we feel like we can't control our bodies and minds. We live to pursue the true meaning of life, to race against time, to fight against the world.
We often say that we want the world to be gentle with us, and that fate is more tolerant of us, but as we experience more, we understand more and more that such wishes are utopian.
Everyone's fate is merciless, the rich have their own unique troubles, and the poor suffer their own unique difficulties. Everyone is destined to experience different life experiences, from life and death trials to all kinds of situations in the world.
The cruelty of fate makes people have to grow, and its arrangement is never accidental. This is true for ordinary people, and even more so for those glittering stars: the higher you stand, the more lonely and difficult it is to get along.
When I mentioned this, I couldn't help but think of the famous CCTV host Li Xiuping, whose life is a typical example of being entangled with fate.
Her life is full of challenges, but she renders life into a beautiful fairy tale in a unique way and weaves a song of life for herself.
Li Xiuping is a native of Lanzhou, Gansu Province, and has been the darling of his family since he was a child. Since she was born, her parents have placed high hopes on her.
Li Xiuping has a strong family background, and her father is a well-known bridge engineering designer who has been committed to this industry for many years. And her mother is a middle school teacher in a famous school in Lanzhou, and her amateur ability is very good.
The Li family has a total of four children, and before Li Xiuping was born, three children had already left the Li family.
As a descendant of a scholarly family, Li Xiuping is the youngest child in the family. He is talented and has an extraordinary temperament, which can be described as the pride of a typical family.
Li Xiuping's happiness was only a flash in the pan, and since she went to elementary school, the happy life of the whole family has ceased to exist.
Li Xiuping's parents are busy with work and often use the unit as their home, especially his father, who is a workaholic and spends more time on business trips than at home in a year.
Since Li Xiuping has a memory, the role of father has always been missing from her world.
Every month, Li Xiuping's most anticipated day is when her father comes home from a business trip, because every time her father brings back a lot of gifts for her and her sister.
Although his father has been trying to make up for his mistakes to his children, Li Xiuping, who was still very young at the time, still had a hard time understanding his father.
When she took the college entrance examination, the relationship between Li Xiuping and her father took a soothing turn. In high school, her studies did not go well, and in order to be able to enter the university of her choice, she took the college entrance examination three times.
Li Xiuping almost experienced a "purgatory on earth" in those three years of life, and every setback was like a fatal blow, and she gradually lost hope in life.
Seeing their daughter like this, Li Xiuping's parents were heartbroken, they knew their daughter's hardships, but they never blamed her, but constantly encouraged her to persevere.
In the company of her parents, she experienced an unprecedented sense of warmth and security.
After trying in the third year, Li Xiuping was successfully admitted to the Beijing Broadcasting Institute with outstanding performance and became a "reserve announcer".
During his college years, Li Xiuping first understood the meaning of "love can last a long time".
Li Xiuping is naturally suitable for broadcasting, and since entering the school, her professional grades have always been among the best, and she has also achieved excellent results in many subjects.
With his outstanding professional ability, Li Xiuping has won the unanimous recognition of the teachers of the professional course, and thus won the opportunity to represent the school in the broadcasting competition, and has achieved outstanding results in the competition.
When she graduated, Li Xiuping interpreted the meaning of winning awards with her strength, and she won honors such as scholarships, host certificates, and outstanding graduates.
After graduating, Li Xiuping rejected the invitation of a local television station and chose to stay in Beijing alone, she is a creative person.
The main reason Li Xiuping stayed was because she was eager to challenge the future, not just to find the right job.
After layers of fierce competition, Li Xiuping successfully signed up for the selection of CCTV hosts.
Li Xiuping stood out with his own efforts, was recognized by CCTV executives, and finally got the job opportunity as he wished.
Li Xiuping has excellent hosting ability among the candidates, and in the preliminary selection, she attracted the attention of the judges with her firm and powerful voice and calm performance.
She showed a king-like demeanor when she simulated hosting the show, and won again with her solid basic skills.
Li Xiuping has been given full development space by CCTV, and she has created programs that suit her own and has a stable audience.
The leaders were full of praise for her, fans applauded her, and those who knew her knew that she had a bright future. Who can not envy such a smooth sailing life?
Li Xiuping is the lucky one who is temporarily favored by fate, but he is not forever favored.
Li Xiuping's life seems to be smooth on the surface, but in fact it hides many unknown difficulties and sufferings. As the old saying goes, "life knows its own warmth and coldness", and only she knows the ups and downs and bitterness in life.
Li Xiuping's career is smooth sailing, but in terms of feelings, it is not as she wishes.
Soon after, Li Xiuping was introduced by her family to her first husband, Fan Yu, who was an engineer who had just graduated at the time.
Fan Yu fell in love with Li Xiuping at first sight, and as their relationship deepened, they not only confirmed their love for each other, but also planned to spend this life together.
Li Xiuping and Fan Yu's marriage seems to be harmonious, but in fact there is a crisis. After their wedding in Gansu, they began to live separately, with Li Xiuping working in Beijing for a long time and Fan Yu living alone in Lanzhou.
At first, the young couple were able to understand each other, and sometimes, Fan Yu would even take time off to visit Li Xiuping in Beijing.
Slowly, Li Xiuping's family began to be dissatisfied with him.
After Li Xiuping got married, he devoted all his mind to his work, but at his grandmother's house, he hardly contributed to the family.
Coupled with the fact that he has not been able to have children, the dissatisfaction of his family has gradually reached its peak.
Years of long-distance marriage have made Li Xiuping feel pressure, but her career in CCTV is booming, and she has always insisted on starting a career first and then having children, not to say that she will give up.
At that time, Fan Yu was very fond of Li Xiuping, and considering that Li Xiuping's work and most of his life were in Beijing, he had the idea of moving to Beijing to settle down.
Fan Yu did not hesitate, made a decisive decision and took immediate action.
Fan Yu found a job in Beijing and lived with Li Xiuping, who thought that a happy life had begun, but to her surprise, happiness was as fleeting as time.
Their lives soon became full of contradictions, and quarrels became an integral part of their daily lives.
As the host of CCTV, Li Xiuping's work is far more intense than Fan Yu imagined. She works almost all year round, sometimes even working overtime, so going home has become a luxury for her.
Fan Yu understands the hardships his wife has experienced, but after working in an unfamiliar city for a long time, he also feels a lack of belonging.
Fan Yu returned to Gansu after working in Beijing for a while.
There was never a destined encounter between them, and they walked and drifted apart.
The lack of communication between Fan Yu and her due to the long-term separation between the two places has caused more and more conflicts.
They often quarrel in **, and Fan Yu tries to redeem it in vain.
Separated people are like two parallel lines that can never intersect, and there will never be fate again.
The breakdown of a marriage is often not caused unilaterally, but both parties are responsible. If it really comes to the end of a breakup, there must be many irreconcilable problems in this marriage.
There is no one who does not aspire to consider marriage precious, and no one who will refuse a happy life. People often say that they have all kinds of beautiful dreams, but at the end of the day...
It's just a desire to spend an ordinary life with the person you like, and to achieve such a seemingly ordinary life, but it is the most difficult dream to achieve.
You will meet many people in your life, but there are very few people who can spend your life together. Finding the right partner is as difficult as winning a millions.
After the blow of this marriage.
Li Xiuping completely lost her confidence in life, and in order to get rid of her depression, she chose to devote herself to work. However, it turned out that Eros still favored her, and at the age of 42, she met her true love again.
Li Xiuping's second husband was ten years older than her, and the two met through a friend's introduction. He fell in love with Li Xiuping at first sight, and launched a fierce pursuit offensive after confirming that she was single.
Li Xiuping was unprepared to face this unexpected fate, but she did not flinch, but bravely accepted the pursuit of her admirer, because he brought her an unprecedented sense of security.
Li Xiuping has a high status in her husband's eyes and is very favored, he has never said a word to her, and even the power of the family has been handed over to her.
Li Xiuping longed to form a happy family of three with her husband, but her husband persuaded her not to have children, worried that she would suffer from the pain of advanced maternal age, and even more worried about accidents during pregnancy.
Today, Li Xiuping and her husband have spent many years together, and their lives are happy and comfortable, becoming a model envied by everyone. Li Xiuping is about to end her hosting career and usher in retirement, and having her husband by her side will make her life more happy and happy.
Isn't the life that women yearn for the most like Li Xiuping?
The two spent four seasons together and accompanied each other until Baitou. In Li Xiuping, I realized a truth: women have never been vassals of marriage, they have the ability to create their own world and chase the possibilities of the future. Only by mastering the dominance of life can life be infinitely possible!
When the flowers are in full bloom, happiness will naturally come.