In the past, women often did not have a job, and their parents arranged marriage events, and sometimes they did not even know the true face and conduct of the other party, so they got married in a hurry. If you meet the right person, you will be happyIf you meet someone who is not the right person, you will live in pain for the rest of your life. Because women do not have jobs, they often lack self-confidence, always want to rely on others, and do not have high requirements for marriage.
Judging from the quality of marriage, women in the past, although it seemed easy to find a boyfriend, actually emphasized the dominance of men. Housework is done by women after marriage, and women are often in a subordinate position and generally have a lower status in the family.
Modern women are more independent. They have their own social circles, and their jobs and networks make it easier for women to reach different people. They are more discerning and want to be respected by their partners, not just to have children.
Take a female friend of the author's as an example, she is down-to-earth and generous, 23 years old, referred to as W. The job is stable, with a monthly income of about 10,000 yuan. Her boyfriend M also earns a similar amount. The two met, knew each other, and fell in love with each other at work. They wanted to live together and bought a small house in Haizhu, in the central city of Guangzhou, to make it easier to commute to work. Of course, the title deed has both parties' names on it. Everyone agreed.
Things kept going in a good direction until one day M asked to meet the parents. The two sides took their seats at the banquet. M suddenly said at the wine table, W, I have a surprise for you. I think Haizhu is expensive, and I bought a big house in Panyu. We live in Panyu first, and then change houses, what do you think?M was stunned. Ah, what's going on?Isn't it in Haizhu?Does this house have my name?No. That's pre-marital property. This clearly shows that you don't trust me, and you're afraid that I will rob you of your assets. W was angry and broke up with M on the spot.
In this case, the author believes that the main reason for their breakup is that the woman thinks the man does not respect her. The man thinks that he can not care about the woman's feelings, is the man afraid that the woman will share their property?So the man hurriedly bought a house before marriage. I don't know if the man's parents were involved. Is it so difficult to say such a big thing in advance?As for not to?What the woman needs is respect and growing together, and the man directly ignores it and cannot satisfy her psychology. The man thinks more about passing on the lineage, hoping to find a partner who takes care of the family and takes into account his own feelings, and the woman can't satisfy his psychology. They are indeed not all the way, their expectations are different, and the breakup is inevitable, just sooner or later.
In modern society, it is really difficult for girls to find someone who is in love, respects themselves, and loves them. I can only follow fate.