As a parent, you must hope that your child can become a dragon and a phoenix.
However, as a child grows up, parents will find that their child exhibits extreme low self-esteem, which can have a negative impact on his academic, social, and mental health.
After all, a child's self-confidence is crucial to his growth and development.
Self-confident children tend to be positive and optimistic, have super self-motivation in their hearts, and are more likely to achieve proud results in school and life.
Children with low self-esteem are likely to live very tired, too timid and miss some opportunities for success, affecting their lifelong achievements.
Parents should pay attention to this 3This kind of performance implies that the child has low self-esteem.
First: the child avoids social activities.
When a child begins to avoid social activities and is reluctant to participate in group games, class gatherings, or communicate with peers, it is likely that he lacks self-confidence and is afraid of rejection or ridicule.
Parents should not think that their children are just timid and shy, but also judge them based on their children's words and deeds. If the child keeps saying, "I don't dare, I won't, I can't......”
Seeing classmates and teachers who don't dare to say hello, even if his friends come to play with him, he still behaves squirming and restless, etc., and avoids social activities, which is a sign of inferiority.
Bootstrap Method:
Create a safe, supportive environment for your child and encourage him to participate socially. In the early stage, parents can accompany their child to participate in social activities, and then choose to let go when he gets acquainted with him, and let him try to make friends on his own.
Help your child develop the right concept of friendship and let him understand that everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Encourage your child to actively express his thoughts and feelings and improve his communication skills.
Second: the child lacks confidence in his or her own abilities.
When a child lacks confidence in his own abilities and often says that he cannot or cannot do something well, it means that he has doubts and lack of confidence in his own abilities.
Mainly because he looks down on himself, he will have low self-esteem.
It's like setting limits on oneself, refusing to try all possibilities, imprisoning oneself within one's own set box, and holding back.
It's not that the child is incapable, but that he is easy to give up when he encounters difficulties, pays too much attention to gains and losses, is only willing to do simple things, and is afraid of failure.
Bootstrap Method:
Help children develop a correct self-awareness and realize that everyone has their own areas of expertise and room for development.
Encourage your child to try new things and give him timely affirmation and encouragement to help him build a positive sense of achievement. The child is also allowed to fail and give up, but encourage the child to try again until he succeeds.
Nurture your child's hobbies and hobbies, so that he can gain a sense of accomplishment and improve his self-confidence in the field he is interested in.
Parents should also give their children a little more self-confidence, dare to let go and let their children grow and try challenges.
Third: the child is overly dependent on the opinions of others.
When a child relies too much on the opinions of others when making decisions or facing difficulties, and lacks independent thinking and autonomy, it indicates that he is not confident in his own judgment ability.
This kind of child likes to ask for other people's opinions on everything, and if he doesn't get effective opinions, he won't do it, like a marionette.
Such a child is easily controlled by the emotions of adults, and he does not dare to have his own opinions.
Another possibility is that the child behaves in front of his parents in this way as "sensible", "obedient", etc., and cares too much about other opinions and has no ego.
Bootstrap Method:
Encourage your child to express his or her own opinions and ideas and respect his ability to think independently.
Develop your child's problem-solving skills, learn to analyze and weigh the pros and cons, and make the right decisions.
Give your child appropriate responsibility and autonomy so that he can gain experience and improve his self-confidence.
Conclusion: Children's self-confidence needs the attention and guidance of parents.
When a child is found to be showing extreme low self-esteem, timely measures should be taken to help him rebuild his self-confidence and develop a positive attitude.
By creating a supportive environment, encouraging him to participate in social activities, developing hobbies and independent thinking skills, we can help children overcome low self-esteem and show their confidence and talents.
Let's accompany our children together so that they can face life's challenges healthily and happily.