In reality, there are many loving couples, and there are also many adulterers and adulteresses. The reason why some criticism is not carried out with much fanfare is because many adulterers and adulteresses have become normalized, and the social tolerance is much higher, so people are not surprised. Of course, if there are many adulterers and adulteresses, there will be the meaning of prostitution and theft, so there is no need to report it like that. Even if there is too much talk about punishing adulterers and adulteresses, many people will have bad thoughts and will not be conducive to propagating correct values. In fact, adulterers and adulteresses are not uncommon, but people don't often hear about them.
The so-called adulterer and adulteress are people who engage in sexual relations between men and women before or after marriage, but this concept is only put forward by feudal ethics and morality, and cannot be completely based on it. After all, in ancient times, many powerful people could marry wives, marry concubines, and raise foreign houses, while ordinary people had no money to marry wives, so they made do with marrying a daughter-in-law, even if they were happy, what else did they think of marrying a concubine?The most hated thing is the adulterer and adulteress described in "Water Margin", especially the adulteresses, Pan Jinlian, Pan Qiaoyun, etc., are all adulteresses, but they were killed by heroes, and the adulterers were also killed at the same time, isn't it very happy?
However, this pleasure is very doubtful. As the saying goes, "A wife is not as good as a concubine, a concubine is not as good as a servant, a servant is not as good as a prostitute, a prostitute is not as good as stealing, and a prostitute is better than stealing." "I can't steal it, I can only say that it can be regarded as relieving the anxiety of jealousy. In traditional morality, adulterers and adulteresses are the most hated. Perhaps, people want to be adulterers and adulteresses, but they are firmly bound by social rules, and they dare not take a step beyond the thunder pool, and when they see the adulterer and adulteress taking a step beyond the thunder pool, they will be envious, jealous and hateful, but they can't say it clearly, they can only denounce their behavior, so as to flaunt their nobility. However, in primitive societies, human beings choose multiple sexual objects rather than single, there are no marriage constraints, no ritual constraints, and people mate at will, which has a kind of social meaning. However, at that time, productivity was extremely low, not even productivity, and people lived like beasts, and they did not live long, but they never knew what an adulterer and adulteress were. After the establishment of Confucian morality, feudal etiquette and religion were established, and the marriage system also existed. In order to prevent people from having promiscuity, it is necessary to use marriage to restrain people and the idea of etiquette to restrain people.
People want to marry and have children, and even men can have more than one woman, which is called polyandry. In order to have more boys and ensure the labor force needed for agricultural civilization. However, men and women are like fire, and many times they are not satisfied with the monotonous life in marriage, and they want to cheat. Men are allowed to cheat because the feudal era advocated machismo and gave men the green light, along with the emperor to visit brothels, not to mention the ordinary magnates. And the peasants have no money, so they can only secretly engage in extramarital affairs, but they can't say it explicitly, just like the little things that husband and wife can't say at night. The things of an adulterer and an adulteress can only be done, not spoken. If it is spoken out and known, it will quickly spread and become a "peach incident".
Men dream of having an affair, and women dream of getting the prince charming of their dreams. It's just that there are moral restrictions, and people can't easily cross the "big nuisance between men and women", which means that if I abide by the moral code, you have to abide by it, and if you don't obey, I will condemn you and even slander you. It seems that social morality has been maintained, but in fact, jealousy has appeared, and some excesses have appeared. The adulterer and adulteress took the path of her own choice, not by men. They have their own lives, and there is no need to be vilified. However, will the presence of more adulterers and adulteresses cause social instability?The feudal rulers all thought so, and they should promote Confucian ethics and morality, and do not let people cheat, nor do they mess with the relationship between men and women before marriage, so as not to mess up the social atmosphere.
Not really. Look at it now. There are not a few college students living together, and there are not a few middle school students. Extramarital affairs are hyped up as a kind of beautiful love, does it explain a certain problem?If we look at the current society according to the traditional moral theory of adulterers and adulteresses, I am afraid that many people will become adulterers and adulteresses, but they don't say it explicitly. As long as it's not discovered, it's nothing. Even if you are told that you are not ** in bed, it is nothing. Of course, there are ** people in bed, there is no big movement, and it is nothing, at most divorce, the husband and wife are well together. It's just that some people are more constrained by traditional morality, ** after the bed, they do excessive behavior, thinking that it is a punishment for adulterers and adulteresses, and as a result, people are killed, and it can't end.
There are many people who cheat in marriage, and even in rural areas, there are many such people. There are women who are a little beautiful, they want to get married, they ask for a bride price, after getting married, they will divorce after living for a while, marry again, and ask for a bride price again. So repeatedly, after a few years, she can ask for millions of bride prices and become a rich woman. There are also matchmakers who specialize in organizing such women to marry and charge a certain commission. In ancient times, such women were "thieves and prostitutes" that everyone was condemned for, but now they have become rich people who are "self-reliant". Those second wives, juniors, etc., who were fostered, became rich people, but they were adulteresses at the moral level. Rich adulterers have become the object of envy, especially some powerful people who hug left and right, go in and out of the bright lights, and become successful people. And the beautiful girls in the song hall, dance hall, massage city, and foot-washing city also seem to have become representatives of adulteress. But people don't talk about them anymore, because there has been a huge change in social values, not good moral character is considered success, but money or power is success.
No matter how money and power come from, as long as you can have money or power, even if you are a successful person, as for the evaluation of adulterers and adulteresses, it seems that there is no market, and even people are too lazy to say it, and it will disappear. In fact, there are really a lot of adulterers and adulteresses.