As the saying goes, "a slap doesn't make a sound", but when you meet such a mother-in-law, do you still believe that the slap can't make a sound?
A few days ago, a daughter-in-law shared some ** living with her mother-in-law on the Internet, and many netizens said after reading these**: You tell me that your home is **, and I will meet her.
The cause of the incident was that the woman's husband took his mother to the house, and then the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law triggered the "old enemy bond", and the two began to quarrel continuously.
At first, the mother-in-law disliked her daughter-in-law for spending money indiscriminately. For example, when a woman celebrates her birthday, her husband buys her a bouquet of flowers. The mother-in-law felt that it was a waste of money to buy flowers, and it withered in a few days, so it was better to use the money to buy food for the child. Subsequently, the mother-in-law disliked her daughter-in-law for not going out to work to earn money, and she would not be able to live, and said that the daughter-in-law of the next door would save money if she lived more.
The controversy caused by a bouquet of flowers did not dissipate because of the withering of the flowers, but because of the reappearance of a meat bun. My husband wanted to make a bun at home to improve his food, so he made a meat filling at home.
The mother-in-law saw her daughter-in-law and son making steamed buns, so she came over and scolded the two for not being able to live. Mother-in-law thinks that they won't live by eating steamed buns, who eats so well every day, and eats steamed buns and vegetarian fillings, why do they have to eat meat, eat some cabbage vermicelli stuffing and save money. And the mother-in-law also accused: You have children at home, and you can't earn much money, who can stand eating like this?
A bun can spark a quarrel, not to mention other things. When the woman watched TV at home, her mother-in-law disliked her for only knowing how to sit on the sofa and watch TV, and that she would not look for a job or clean the house.
And when the woman was going to do the laundry, the mother-in-law stood up and disliked her. Women like to use washing machines to wash clothes, and the mother-in-law said that they all washed by hand at that time, and there was water and electricity, so how much money had to be wasted.
These issues are discussed at home, and when these problems fall on the woman, it is the moment when the mother-in-law shows her skills.
In winter, the woman bought a few clothes, and her mother-in-law disliked her for not earning money, but only knowing how to spend money. and turned out all the clothes in the woman's closet, and blamed the woman for a piece of clothing.
And when the woman asked her husband to make a bowl of instant noodles for herself to eat at night, the mother-in-law couldn't sit still. I feel that my daughter-in-law only knows how to enjoy and is unwilling to work, and she still troubles her son so late, and she still has to eat instant noodles when she is so old, and she has to put eggs in instant noodles, which is simply a waste.
After accusing her daughter-in-law, her mother-in-law changed her style and began to ask her son for money. She said that she had no money, and she had no money to pay for something she wanted to buy. But the son asked his mother, didn't she have a lot of money?As a result, her mother said that it was her pension money and could not be spent.
Then began the theme of this passage, she dislikes her daughter-in-law for not knowing how to go out to make money, so she is idle at home, and her son still has to spend money on her, and she is unwilling to spend money on her mother, such a daughter-in-law is simply hopeless.
This is just the tip of the iceberg of the mother-in-law's life, and the mother-in-law is reluctant to leave the house, so the quarrel between them continues.
Many emotional experts are talking about how to solve the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, such as what the daughter-in-law should do, what the mother-in-law should do, or what the son should do.
But after watching the life of this family, we can't help but think: Is there some people who are not suitable to live together?
Like this mother-in-law, her ideas are deeply ingrained and full of opinions about her daughter-in-law. In such a family, it is already difficult to resolve conflicts through exhortation.
We sometimes have to admit that there is indeed "badness" in human nature, and it is related. For example, if there is one person in the family, it is likely that his children or other family members will also do.
For such people, it is difficult for us to change them, so we can only avoid our lives being polluted by them by staying away, and only in this way can we live comfortably.