InModern societyThe surname of the child has always been a controversial topic. With the increasing number of only children, couples often have disputes and conflicts over the child's surname. In some cases, the irresponsibility of the father can even lead toHusband and wife relationshipof rupture. The following will tell a story about the issue of children's surnames.
Chen ChaoAnd Zhang Yumei is a couple, theirMarriageIt came through the words of the matchmaker. However, Zhang Yumei only found out after marriageChen Chaois an alcoholic person, after alcohol enters his body, he will become sleepy and lazy, and everything in the family is handled by Zhang Yumei. lifeAs a result of the hardships, the family was in a relatively poor situationMarriageBut it is not easy to divorce because of traditional concepts. Although Zhang Yumei was dissatisfied with her fate, she chose to go withChen ChaoThey had an ordinary life, and they also had a son.
Zhang Yumei withChen ChaoofMarriageNot perfect, she finds herself married to a man who is not responsible at all. Whether it is the trivial chores of the family or the farm work in the fields, she is responsible for it alone, and the poverty of the family also makes the family responsiblelifeIt becomes more difficult. Despite this, Zhang Yumei did not consider divorce easily, and she chose to continue withChen ChaoFace it togetherlifeof difficulties. However, she endured grievances for a long time, and for her, raising a child requires financial support, whileChen ChaoBut he chose to drink every day and not work. In order to improve the situation, Zhang Yumei thought of a way, that is, letChen ChaoI went to work with Brother Wang next door. Chen Chaoagreed, he left home to work, leaving only Zhang Yumei and his 3-year-old son.
Chen ChaoAfter going out to work, apart from her parents at home, only Zhang Yumei and her 3-year-old son remained at home. With no one person able to cope with the farmland, children and household chores, Zhang Yumei had to turn to her parents for help. Her parents are over 50 years old, hard-working and physically tough, and they are the best helpers for Zhang Yumei. They moved to Zhang Yumei's house, and the parents played with the children, helped with laundry and cooking, while Zhang Yumei reconciledFatherWork together and take care of the crops in the fields as well as the chickens and pigs in the family. In this way, the family'slifeGradually becoming full and prosperous.
Zhang Yumei's parents are in their early fifties and have worked hard all their liveslifeTheir bodies are still strong and healthy. Since there was only Zhang Yumei, the only daughter, they did not hesitate to move to Zhang Yumei's house and stay behind to help her take care of the housework. Zhang's mother often plays with her grandson and helps with laundry and cooking, while Zhang Yumei is withFatherWork together, farm and breed. AlthoughlifeBusy and hard, but the results are also obvious, familylifegradually became full and prosperous, which also brought endless happiness and satisfaction to Zhang Yumei.
But, sinceChen ChaoAfter going out to work, he rarely contacted his family, even if he occasionally received Zhang Yumei's **, he only said perfunctorily that some work was fine, and he didn't bring back a penny when he went home at the end of the year. The village andChen ChaoThe people who worked with him said that all the money he earned was spent by himself, and Zhang Yumei was angry about this and had a big fight with him. However, by the end of the year,Chen Chaostill scraped together 800 yuan to go home, and Zhang Yumei told him that he must earn money. However, it is the end of the year againChen ChaoI didn't go home, and I had no plans to send money home. When Zhang Yumei called him **, he only said that he was working overtime, and he could only save money after the work was completed, and then take it home with her. However, time flies, and a few years have passedChen ChaoNeither went home nor sent a penny home. At this time, Zhang Yumei's son has reached the age of going to schoolFatherRightChen ChaoI feel very angry about irresponsibility. He decided to let his grandson change his surname to Zhang and find a more suitable family.
Zhang Yumei withFatherAfter discussion, she agreed, and then she agreedChen Chaocontact, expressed his desire to divorce, and informed him that his son would change his surname to Zhang. Chen ChaoAfter learning about this, he immediately rushed home with a nonchalant woman. Chen ChaoMeet ZhangFatherLater, he scolded him loudly, thinking that the idea of changing his surname wasFatherGhost idea. He asked Zhang Yumei to take it immediatelyFatherAnd the son got out of hislife。However, Zhang Yumei sawChen ChaoAfter bringing the woman, she immediately understoodChen ChaoI spent the money on her, so I didn't send the money home. She shot back resolutely: "It's you who want to get out, not my dad!.""The couple had a big fight, but nothing came of it. Chen ChaoAngrily took the woman and left.
Time flies quickly, and Zhang Yumei's son is already in high school. Her parents decided that their daughter no longer needed their help and that it was time for her to return homeRetirementSo they went back to their home. Zhang Yumei had no choice but to continue with her sonlife。Suddenly one day,Chen ChaoI went home, looking sick and pitiful. However, as soon as he entered the door, Zhang Yumei kicked him out with a stickChen ChaoCrying for forgiveness. It turned out,Chen ChaoAll these years of working outside the home has been with that woman, and the money earned has been given to her. However, now that he is getting older and sick, he can't continue to work, and the woman has chosen to leave him, and he has nothing left. Zhang Yumei did not sympathize with him, but felt that he deserved it.
However,Chen ChaoThe return of the husband and wife constantly sparked conflicts and quarrels between the couple. The son struggled between the two, and he felt that since he was his own childFather, you should forgive him and give him a chance. But Zhang Yumei resolutely rejected his request, she thoughtChen ChaoSo many years of irresponsibility are the root cause of their family breakdown. She was worried if she continued andChen ChaoBeing together will only bring more hurt and sadness to the son.
In the final decision, the son chose to stay with Zhang Yumei and continue to live as a mother and sonlife。Although he was still rightFatherFull of longing and regret, he also understands his mother's painstaking efforts and choices. He hopes that he can become a person who can take responsibility and live up to his mother's hard work. And Zhang Yumei is also determined to give her son a better onelifeso that he will no longer be subjected toFatherdamage and impact.
This story teaches us that a person's irresponsible and reckless behavior often brings harm and confusion to those around them. In the family, husband and wife should support each other and take responsibility together, rather than leaving one of the spouses to take full responsibility. The question of the child's surname should be negotiated equally by the husband and wife, rather than decided privately. The most important thing is that couples should maintain communication and understanding between each other, whether in times of difficulty or in times of happiness, and work together to create a happy and harmonious family.