I saw a sentence before: I am a full-time mother, and the actual value of my work is equivalent to that of cleaning + child-rearing sister-in-law + tutor + chef + virtuous helper, and I naturally receive multiple salaries.
At that time, I deeply felt that this sentence was in my heart.
It wasn't until today that I realized a heart-piercing truth: the value I created was far from such a high standard, and it was just ** by traffic.
Here's how it happened. Because I want to go to work, I am afraid that I will not be able to adapt to the rhythm of work. So, I made a temporary schedule. Try to transition for a while at home.
Under this plan, I only have to work five days a week, and I actually work less than five hours a day.
It's really not a lot of work, is it?I only think I have two part-time jobs at the same time: cleaning + copywriter.
But when I actually put it into practice, I realized that there was a big problem.
1.I developed a habit of procrastination and laziness, and I couldn't finish my work at all.
At 9 o'clock, I went to mop the floor on time, and after a while, "Hey is a little boring, let's listen to it", and after a while, "This song is pretty good, I'll look at the name", just picked up the phone and read the name of the song, "I'm a little tired, take a little rest", and unconsciously turned on the short**.
It didn't take long, but by the time I realized it was almost 10 o'clock.
At that time, I couldn't believe for a moment that I hadn't even finished mopping the ground in an hourI've been scolded to death when I go to work, right?
You work as an hourly worker in someone else's house, will it be like this?When you are tired, you can rest if you want to, listen to a song when you are in a bad mood, listen to a song when you are in a good mood, and really do it as a job, will you be able to do what you want?So in my state, being an hourly worker is obviously unqualified.
The reason is that they don't go to work for a long time, and they make their own decisions at home, and people who are not self-disciplined can easily develop a habit of procrastination and laziness.
Therefore, I really dare not say that my daily workload can be more than an hourly work or cleaning, and I dare not mention the next few jobs.
2.Without effective supervision and standards, even if it is completed, it is not done well.
said that he had to take care of the children's homework and did the work of a tutor teacher.
But ask yourself, if you can't do a few questions, the teacher scolds, beats and is irritable, and doesn't pay attention to education methods at all, can you bear it?
What about when we tutor ourselves?In fact, it's just a companion next to the main one.,What standards do you don't know in your heart?
It's likely that you won't even be able to pass it. Not to mention excellent.
With such a comparison, I really don't dare to claim that I am worthy of several salaries.
So, this is the sad thing about the "job" of a full-time mother.
For the vast majority of jobs, the longer you do it, the more valuable and work experience you have.
Reflect on the value of you who have been raising children for so many years?
Go out and say that you are a nanny, what to pay attention to with your children, how to make complementary food nutritious, how to do early education for children, how to exercise fine motor and gross sports, can you accurately and professionally come to your fingertips?
Say you're a chef, what are your specialty dishes?How to mix three meals a day with nutrition?Which cuisine are you good at?Which ones are suitable for children and which ones are suitable for sub-healthy people?
Claiming to be a teacher, how to grasp children's psychology?How about spoken English ?...
Those who wear many hats will not be particularly refined in each item, and they can't play any of them.
Therefore, it only consumes time, but cannot accumulate effective experience.
Because experience is a thing that must come from: you are skilled + you are at the excellent level.
And the full-time mother just did this, and there is no standard for how well she does it.
So, for various reasons, are there any ways to break the situation for mothers who are forced to stay at home full-time?
Yes From now on, deliberately cultivate some aspect of your ability, do it as a job, and treat yourself as an employee at work.
1.What is the profession you want to do?How far does it take to pass?Is it good?Give yourself an assessment standard first.
2.In order to meet the above standards, you must do what you do well, what you need to do every day, and what you need to do in each time period, strictly according to this rhythm, and complete it intensely and efficiently.
In the long run, it canChange your lazy stateElevate your mental outlookand againFinish work efficientlyGet off work after being busy, eat something delicious, be in a daze, chase dramas, play with children, etc., no longer have psychological pressure and no guilt.
Those online poisonous chicken soup that praises the value of housewives, because you want to see it, someone will post it, otherwise how can they earn traffic?Don't let that make you lose your judgment and thinking.
From today on, deliberately cultivate one of your core competencies, so that you will not let yourself fall into passivity because of taking care of children, and you will have the ability and courage to come out at any time.
At the moment you have a lot of time, repetition is an advantage, then do it to the extreme on the basis of repetition.
I advise all mothers, don't be deceived by those words for the sake of traffic, and overestimate your value.
If you continue like this, you are really stupid, and you will only harm yourself.
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