In traditional Chinese education, children are often taught to be obedient, submissive, and even to suppress their own nature in order to please their parents. Is this kind of education beneficial to the growth of children, or is it a disguised selfishness?
In our culture, parents often expect their children to grow up and make choices based on their expectations. Behind this expectation, there is often a fear of the child's future and a fear of social pressure. However, this worry and fear can sometimes turn into a constraint on the child, preventing them from freely exploring their interests and passions.
Repressed Nature: The Price of Growth
When we see children giving up their dreams and interests in order to please their parents, we can't help but wonder: is this choice really what they really want in their hearts?When a child is passionate about **, but gives up because his parents want him to become a doctor, is this growth or a kind of suppression of nature?
As they grow, children need to learn to compromise and adapt. But that doesn't mean they have to give up on their dreams and passions altogether. True growth is about finding a balance between being self-conscious and adapting to society.
Parental selfishness: satisfying one's own expectations with the child's future
It is undeniable that parents' expectations of their children often stem from love for their children and worries about the future. But excessive expectations can sometimes turn into a form of selfishness. This selfishness not only deprives children of the opportunity to pursue their dreams, but also leaves deep scars in their hearts.
An overprotected child, a child who has never had the opportunity to explore the world on their own, will feel empty and lost inside. They may become "good girls" or "obedient good children" in the eyes of their parents, but deep down, they may question the meaning and value of their lives.
Out of the shadows: Get back to your true self
For children who have become accustomed to pleasing their parents, getting their true selves back can be a painful process. But true happiness and fulfillment can only be found by bravely facing one's heart.
So, how can you help your child get back to who they really are?First and foremost, parents need to learn to respect their children's choices. Even if the choice is contrary to the parents' expectations, give the child support and encouragement. Second, communicate openly and honestly with your child. Understand their thoughts, feelings, and needs and provide them with the necessary support and guidance. Finally, encourage your child to be brave enough to pursue their dreams. Let them understand that the process of pursuing their dreams is challenging, but it is also one of the most valuable experiences in life.
In this process, parents also need to constantly reflect on their own education methods. Is there too much emphasis on grades and obedience, and neglect of the child's personality and interests?Shouldn't children be given more freedom and choice so that they can better develop themselves as they grow up?
Conclusion
Every child is a unique individual with their own dreams, interests, and talents. As parents, we should respect and support their choices, rather than allowing them to give up their instincts in order to please us. Only in this way can children find true happiness and fulfillment on the road to growth. Let's work together to create a more free and loving environment for children to grow up!